Husband has blocked me on social media?!

[LondonMummy1987]

Apologies in advance if I'm just being incredibly stupid or naive or paranoid! I'm not sure if i'm mad and unreasonable or not!

So I have just gone to upload a photo onto instagram, and tag my husband in it as it is a picture of our sons. I couldn't tag him.
I thought maybe he has deleted his instagram account (despite the fact that he uses it alot) so I searched for him and it came up that the account is private and I need to request to follow. (I couldn't see anything, not his bio or how many photos/followers he has)
I then logged out of insta and searched for him, and it came up that the account is private but did state how many posts/followers he has, as well as his bio.

The bio is another worry. It used to say "happily married father of two", now it just says "father of two".

Am I wrong to worry?! I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted him as we are both at work and he will just change it and make me out to be a nutter!

Any time a man does this it seriously raises red flags for me.

Suddenly increasing security? Passwords when there were none before? Why?

I wondered this with my ex. I found out his password and went snooping. Turns out he was on a dating site, propositioning women asking them to email him on a different email address...

We broke up but I foolishly took him back.

There's always a reason and it's usually one he'll get into trouble for. Try and do as much digging as you can without him noticing OP...

Sorry OP. Doesn't sound good to me. Has your relationship in person been different or strained?

ginandnappies you're wrong I'm afraid

I hope you get some answers OP.

hope you are ok OP

Paranoid or what! Maybe he felt that happily married sounded too sappy and he wanted to portray himself differently. Most men don't put that on their bio in the first place.

Maybe ask him? That is literally the only thing you can do. Although apparently if he plays it down he'll be gaslighting you

@ginandnappies she's definitely blocked.

She couldn't search him up anymore, she only found his profile by clicking on a tag on her old photo and when she clicked on it, she couldn't see the bio, amount of followers or anything like that but when she logged out her account and searched she could find him

@busybarbara he's blocked OPs family and OP across various social media, I think most people would be pretty paranoid too!

I hope you get answers

If he is cheating then it's a pretty odd way of going about things. Surely you'd just set up a 2nd secret account? Rather than making it obvious by deleting your wife and family on your current account?

Well done for listening to your gut instinct. It doesn't look good but I hope you get the answers you need from him, and that he doesn't brush you off. Good luck!

I'd be very suspicious too OP.

I'd be worried too op

busybarbara he's blocked OPs family and OP across various social media, I think most people would be pretty paranoid too!

Busybarbra has some pretty odd ideas about relationships in general.

Hope your ok x

I hope your'e okay, OP, I'm really sorry that your husband is both a nasty gaslighting scumbag and at the same time a halfwit and a spineless cunt.

I hope that you can sort things out so that you and your two lovely children are okay.

Stop trying to "figure out what could possibly explain" why he deliberately blocked you and updated his profile to make it look like he's single.

I am truly sorry OP but I'm strongly agreeing with the person who said to leave work and gather up all the legal papers. But first, I'd also go to the bank and withdraw half/all the funds, whatever you see fit in order to take care of the children for the next few months. Then, after gathering all the paperwork and giving that to your sister for safekeeping, I'd make an appt to see a lawyer. In that order. Bank, papers to sister, recommendations for which lawyer to get.

This guy is moving on. I understand it's painful to contemplate and grief takes time but it sounds to me like this guy knows how to move on quickly. Don't be left in the dust and in the cold.

I agree with PP. Be sneaky and make another Instagram account. I don't have it so don't know the ins and outs but it's not a bad idea.

You're prob already speaking to him about it though, if you are - good luck

@cakedup the majority of cheaters aren't well known for their common sense though. They don't think about the obvious stuff. He most likely didn't think she'd notice, hay she would still be able to tag him without realising that he's blocked her.

My ex made it pretty obvious what he was doing by just putting on a password on his laptop. Thought he was being sly though

I am a very direct person, but think if he has the habit of telling you you’re imagining things and paranoid, uohf be better off doing some looking before confronting unless you are strong enough to hold your ground on these actions - this change on instagram and refusing to show me your phone right now- are unacceptable and tell me you want out of this marriage because if not cheating you are actively looking to.

Instagram shows under each photo when it was added so setting up a fake account on there would show as fake.

Hope you're getting some answers OP

Oh good it’s @busybarbara again!

Doesn’t sound good. Hope you’re ok

Time is of the essence here OP, get the cammo paint out, apply liberally to your face and dig yourself into a fox hole in the back garden before he gets home.

From there create a IG account for everybody who has ever featured in DH's life, going right back to his childhood. Spend the next 12 months posting online as the various actors to create a complex interwoven back story.

Each day when he goes to work run up huge plastic surgery bills on his credit cards by altering your face to a fit blonde's face. When the bills arrive, bury them in the fox hole.

One night cook your husband dinner and serve it wearing your new face. If he notices your appearance has changed, he's gaslighting, LTB.

Or just ask him why he blocked you.