To not go to baby shower

[Worzilgummidge]

A long time ago I learnt I was going through early menopause whilst the.
It devastated me and I have never been able to move on despite counselling.
I can't bear anything pregnancy related or anything to do with babies. I do have a 17 year old and I know people will say think yourself lucky u have one and I do cherish him I really do but I feel bitter at not having been able to have 2nd dc.
A relative is due November and the family have arranged a baby shower and I have said I'm not going and my dm said I'm am not been fair on others and I need to get over it. She said I will make people feel awkward but I don't agree as I know I won't be given any thought because everybody will be wrapped up in my pregnant relative and enjoying the day. I told my dm I just can't be subjected to it. Aibu please go easy on me.

[Snog]

Also agree menopause can be an utter nightmare to navigate for many of us 💐

[Nanny0gg]

I do think you should go, and I think it’s selfish not to.

It's a baby shower. Why the hell is it selfish not to go? It's not that close a friend or relative. The mum-to-be will probably have loads of other people there and won't give it a second thought.

It's not a major birthday or wedding. It's an event that many people don't have or don't like.

It just would have been better if the OP had said she had a prior appointment though so no-one would have had the opportunity to have a go.

[Looking4wards]

YANBU to not to go. Send a card, and maybe even a gift if you want. In fact, I don't think you even need to give a reason, just say you can't make it.

But YABVVVU to not do anything about how you're feeling. So many people have told you that you need professional help. Why isn't it worth trying? Just sitting in front of a computer being angry isn't going to resolve your issues.

[Wherearemycarkeys]

Your mum is being vile. How dare she tell you how to feel? I don't think you need to go (I wouldn't go to a baby shower anyway,I think they're quite obnoxious and dull). But more importantly, you never NEED to put your feelings aside for anyone.