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Original poster

to worry about DH?

263 replies

ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 09:17

I'm committing the MN cardinal sin of posting in AIBU for traffic.

DH suffers from migraines and seemed to go down with one last Thursday, a really bad one. It hasn't followed the normal pattern and he has remained at a high level of pain since Friday. He cannot tolerate moving, talking, any light. I phoned NHS Direct at 3am on Monday when he was incoherent with pain and they told me about NICE fever guidelines (he hasn't got a fever) and we saw the emergency GP later that day who prescribed Tramadol which just made him itch.

Nothing has worked. The tramadol, aspirin, codeine, ibuprofen, migril, paracetamol (not all at the same time, tried different things according to advice). Not even taken off the edge.

Today he's started vomiting violently.

We have another appointment at 11am.

What is it? This is not a migraine. It's just not fitting his lifelong pattern. 20 years together and he's actually called in sick for the very first time.

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HellenaHandbasket · 10/10/2018 09:19

Oh the poor love, that sounds horrendous. Is the next appt with gp?

Feellikeimthemaid · 10/10/2018 09:22

TBH I wouldn't be waiting around for an appointment, I'd be calling an ambulance. Having this level of pain for a week, and now with vomiting it's not normal.

Singlenotsingle · 10/10/2018 09:22

There's no point us trying to guess what the problem is. We'll only float scary suggestions and frighten you. Take him to A&E and get it investigated.

Original poster
ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 09:32

What is it was a rhetorical question.

The appointment is with our GP who said on Monday to come back if he doesn't improve by Friday or if it gets worse.

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sophiec123 · 10/10/2018 09:39

I'd also be taking him to a&e, they will be able to do more than at the doctors. It's not time wasting, you have a genuine concern for his health.

usernamesachangin · 10/10/2018 09:41

Yes A&E

AFistfulofDolores1 · 10/10/2018 09:42

Another one for A&E here. I'm guessing your GP would only do the same.

AFistfulofDolores1 · 10/10/2018 09:43

I'm suggesting this because if, for example, there's some kind of haemorrhage (I'm not saying there is, but it's a possibility), then time is absolutely of the essence.

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ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 09:45

The GP will help us bypass A&E though. Said as much on Monday. Our local A&E is always rammed. Currently they're turning away ambulances as they're full. Waiting an hour to see the GP and getting a referral will be quicker than going up there and waiting.

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LoniceraJaponica · 10/10/2018 09:48

I don't want to worry you, but he needs to be seen asap TODAY
Can you get a telephone consulation with the doctor before an appointment?

CallMeRachel · 10/10/2018 09:48

Can you not phone the gp surgery and ask for an urgent call back? There's usually a triage type service where at least one gp is on hand to deal with these type of things.

Everything can be done over the phone.

Poor man, it sounds absolutely horrendous for him. I hope he get seen urgently and is on the mend soon.

littlepotatoes · 10/10/2018 09:49

Definitely A&E. The vomiting and confusion are worrying, as is the fact the pain is increasing. He needs a CT head scan

AFistfulofDolores1 · 10/10/2018 09:49

Fair enough, OP. I hope your DH finds some relief as soon as possible.

BastardGoDarkly · 10/10/2018 09:51

Oh op, this does sound really worrying.

Your poor dh, I hope he gets sorted soon Flowers

HellenaHandbasket · 10/10/2018 09:52

111 can bypass the system too, they can put a note on so that a&e can see it. I would call them and push.

HellenaHandbasket · 10/10/2018 09:53

Can you move him? I mean, can he get in the car?

LoniceraJaponica · 10/10/2018 09:53

"Can you not phone the gp surgery and ask for an urgent call back?"

That's a good idea. Our GP has a brilliant receptionist and she would probably get a doctor to the phone straight away for this.

beeefcake · 10/10/2018 09:54

Call 111 and they will book you in with an out of hours doctor at the hospital. I did this last year when I had dizzy spells and hallucinations and they got me an appointment within the hour.

IABURQO · 10/10/2018 09:55

You need to get to A&E; call 111 and explain you urgently need him to get to hospital, they will advise you on where to take him.

beeefcake · 10/10/2018 09:56

And OP please be careful, is his neck stiff at all? I would be worried about meningitis- someone at work had what you describe, a terrible headache which painkillers didn't touch, went home sick and the worst happened.

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ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 09:56

He isn't confused. In an awful lot of pain yes, but no confusion.

The GP will refer him for a CT scan and give us the forms/phone ahead. We've been through this process once before but that time it was a migraine and following its usual pattern, he just couldn't stop vomiting. He needed pretty hefty anti-emetics and rehydrating.

I'm going to wake him up again and see how he is.

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Neshoma · 10/10/2018 09:57

It's best to get checked out if it's not following a normal pattern, but I really came on to say my friend suffers and a few years ago was in bed, in the dark, for 2 weeks before she began to feel better.

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ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 09:59

111 just say to see the GP this morning.

He can get to the car.

He doesn't think he has a stiff neck but his head hurts so much, it's hard to know what does and doesn't hurt iyswim.

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LoniceraJaponica · 10/10/2018 10:01

He needs more than the GP. Please get him to A and E.

pumpastrotter · 10/10/2018 10:01

I suffer from hemiplegic migraines, I'd be going straight to A&E with a migraine this severe