To think if my husband ever left me I’d leave him with the kids

[DieAntword]

I’ve told him this, if he ever leaves, he isn’t going to swan off into the sunset and have a whale of a time. He keeps the kids. I can’t cope with looking after them after being abandoned like that and I need the space to pull myself together emotionally.

I’m currently a SAHM and absolutely the primary caregiver and I don’t think he actually would ever leave, but he isn’t saddling me with the life of a single mum if he does. He can be the single mum and I can be the fun part time dad thanks.

I’ve paid my dues. If he wants to do with out me he’ll have to pay someone for childcare.

Doesn't it unicorn!!! And sadly she's not on her own.

I didn't say my Nan gave up her career I said her generation felt the impact of gender roles and raised their kids differently. My father was expected to do houseworkchores as much as his sisters were, my Grandad didn't. My father became a father in an era when women largely stopped work to have kids but then went back once they were older and raised children who were much more aware of inequality. My generation has more expectation of men being bale able to look after themselves and the kids and we'll raise children who understand that men and women can largely do the same timings, have the same freedoms etc.
Obvs that's a huge generalisation (given the boy at nursery had to have a shopping trolley not a pushchair) but there are pregressions along the generations (albeit not in a linear fashion)

I think there are people on here who just don’t understand black humour.

Except Batteries OP has made is clear that this wasnt a jokey kind of comment, she clearly means it as what matters is how she is. The kids aren't her problem.. Totally different to the posters who have said ah DH and I agree if we split the kids go in the cupboard or we get the left half or each etx