Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

It leads me to the conclusion that some posters really can't answer those who disagree with them with any level of intelligence and are therefore resorting to petty insults, snide innuendo and picking apart of posts in some vague attempt to make them sound illogical

Passing your opinion as fact is tiresome and important to address.

I’m still waiting for someone who has suggested a correlation between high numbers of sexual partners and low self-esteem to explain that further but no-one seems able to do so. Which leads me to think it’s some sort of meaningless soundbite posted from a position of judgement rather than a considered thought to discuss as part of a wider issue.

it is not just those who have posted re low self esteem whose posts have been snidely and rudely criticised

I didn’t say they were

That doesn't excuse your post.
It was a different thread and supporting a poster on one thread does not mean they have to agree with your opinions on other threads or take abuse for not doing so.

This isn't school.

Anyhow, I've had enough of this thread. It started as sordid and sleazy and has now become vicious and nasty. I'm out.

It started as sordid and sleazy

Isn’t that snide and rude?

Clothrabbit

It was this thread, not a different thread. She actually derailed the thread but we all tried to help her anyway. Mind your business, you have no clue what went on.

I don't really remember, but I have had a lot of sexual partners. Men and women. I don't think it really matters about your number!

Tbh if this was a guy saying they had slept with 30-50 other men would prob high 5 them and say well done!
Funny how it's different for us women

Everyone was polite until people started using nasty words to put other people down.

It wasn't a different thread it was this one. You're throwing around a lot of untrue statements Cloth. Maybe rtft and then comment?

Tbh if this was a guy saying they had slept with 30-50 other men would prob high 5 them and say well done!

I really, really wouldn’t high five anyone over their number of sexual partners they’ve had. High or low and regardless of gender. And I actually think lower of people who do; high five that is, I don’t think lower of people because they sleep or slept around... or who don’t or didn’t sleep around for that matter. I really couldn’t care less. It’s no achievement either way, but some people are determined to make it so. Weird.

Women having sex and talking about the sex they had is not sordid and sleazy.

*the number

And

...; high five that is. I don’t...

I had a go at counting my partners one time, it was around the 40 mark. Like many of you, lots of fun in my 20s with men and a few women, before and after a monogamous relationship. Now happily coupled and they are but fond memories!

So you are not allowed to be put off having sex with someone because of their sexual history because some people find that offensive? I wasn't exactly questioning my sanity I was trying to understand the other side I suppose. I was always quite clear that for me sex is only something I want to do in a relationship.

2 but I got together with DH when I was 18. Otherwise would have been more.

DioneTheDiabolist

Women having sex and talking about the sex they had is not sordid and sleazy.

It certainly is. IMO

When it is a brag fest. Ugh

Fwiw everyone is free to use whatever criteria they like when selecting a partner, and if that includes their sexual history or what it's like you to have been then I see no problem with that. You can't just take one part of your life, put it to one side and say this says nothing about me and you are allowed to decide whether you want to be in a relationship with me because of it. That's not how it works.