Is there a Rebecca Humphries thread? Her public statement about the end of her relationship is awesome.

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I will try and link. I love that she took the cat!

Good for her making a statement. Why should she be expected to be silent? She’ll be being hounded by the press to give her side of the story, staying quiet just allows both cheaters to control the narrative and makes her seem passive and victimised. She hasn’t sold her story, she’s taken some control back from a situation she never wanted to happen and comes across as very strong and self assured. It’s on her terms.

I don’t believe they humiliated her though.

They humiliated themselves.

"I hope this boosts her career. He’s fucked his"

i am sure it will she has gone from an unheard of actor, to a "name" overnight.

@ShatnersWig - If the situation is simply that they were in a relationship and one party did something which broke the rules they had in place, of course ending the relationship is a valid option. I have no 'beef' with that and have at no point suggested I did.

She was right to speak up about his verbal treatment of her.

He possibly thinks his was a reasonable reaction to a "difficult" partner.

Maybe the reaction he gets will show him and others like him that it's not right. And it informs his future potential partners - a potentially usefully public service!

crivit serious question: Do you think public, passionate snogging between to otherwise married/partnered people is acceptable behaviour?

Because that is the only thing I have 'judged' them on. If that were my husband/partner I would have ended our relationship as he would have destroyed any trust between us.

I refer to your posting as pious and saintly as you seem to be able to look past what is, to most people, sexualised behaviour and to assert that no one should judge them by those actions. What could there be, in your opinion, to make that forgivable?

@crivit And what makes you believe that was not the case here?

I have a feeling this will make Seann more famous and the girlfriend will be completely forgotten once strictly is over.

I love her

He seems a bit forgettable tbh.

Jeremy Vine's contribution to all this was interesting .

Susannah Reid on Good Morning Britain took the line that ‘it was only a kiss, who hasn’t had a little kiss when they’re drunk?’ which I thought was interesting.

He’s obviously a lot more famous than I thought though ( I’d never heard of him before strictly ) because the press interest has gone off the scale, I doubt they’d be more interest if Theresa May was caught snogging Jeremy Corbyn.

@Jessie I saw quite a lot of that on Twitter, too. Sorry, but many people seem to be able to control themselves when they are drunk. And if you can't, well, maybe you shouldn't get drunk then.

@Surfer Yes, the coverage for someone most people have never heard of is definitely out of proportion.

RH did the right thing. She took control of the situation . On the other hand she must be heartbroken and when the whole publicity circus ends I hope she has good support.

Her statement is so empowering. My ex was exactly the same and it's not until you read something it finally clicks and you realise!
Did anyone else see her crying on Saturdays show? At first I thought it was due to happiness, now not so sure.

ShatnersWig it’s really astonishing to me that so many people would so quickly forgive their partner kissing someone else while drunk. I suppose some people think kissing isn’t so serious and only sex is truly cheating. Kissing is an incredibly intimate act I think, once you’re in an exclusive relationship surely you don’t do that with others anymore, drunk or not!

I reckon Katya is in an open marriage with her husband though, given how blatant she was with the kissing and the fact he’s changed his Twitter headline photo to one of them together since the kiss was made public, it sends a very strong message he’s sticking with her.

Part of me also wonders if the power dynamic in their marriage is such that no matter what she does, he’ll stick with her. In interviews they’ve said how he liked her from the start but she wasn’t too into him and tried to set him up with someone else, when a relationship starts like that it can continue the entire time with one person always feeling they have the upper hand. Plus to my eyes she seems quite a bit more physically attractive than him so maybe he just feels he’s punching and that he wants to hold onto her whatever she does. Must suck being a doormat if that’s the case.

Whereas I don’t get the sense Seann was that into his girlfriend anyway.

Thanks to the posters pointing out his similarity to convicted girlfriend-abuser, Lee Collins. I couldn’t put my finger on why I didn’t like the character in Bad Move, but that’s exactly it. And the description of this guy’s ‘comedy’ is telling, as he clearly enjoys punching down instead of punching up. LC did the same, making jokes about old people banging on about ww2, I blacklisted him in my head at that moment, long before the conviction. I never like comedians that do that, might as well be back in the 70s, the pre-comedy era (bar Connolly). Anyway, round of applause for Rebecca, she’s done good.

Kissing someone whilst drunk ( or even a little bit tipsy ) is not the end of the world, most of us have done it.
There’s more to this than meets the eye.

Susannah Reid on Good Morning Britain took the line that ‘it was only a kiss, who hasn’t had a little kiss when they’re drunk?’ which I thought was interesting. Given that the video shows a full on, extended snog, yes!

A 'little kiss' is one thing, but the video of them shows much more than that!

@CuriousaboutSamphire - it's acceptable behaviour if the people involved think it's acceptable behaviour. Some people don't and they tend to have monogamous relationships, some are fine with it and their relationship status may be different. Plus people's opinions may change over time, even within a single relationship. There are also many reasons why someone would cheat. I try not to judge based on what I would find acceptable in my relationship because I understand that each relationship, each person, each situation, is different.

@ShatnersWig - I don't know whether that was the case here. I'm guessing that no-one else here probably knows that either.

Kissing someone whilst drunk ( or even a little bit tipsy ) is not the end of the world, most of us have done it.

While in a committed relationship do you mean? Cos I disagree if that’s what you’re saying.

If you mean while single, then sure.

I'm really pleased that we are seeing more women highlighting publicly the gaslighting that goes on "you're a psycho" etc

Whilst in a relationship yes.

When you’re under the influence of alcohol you’re not in total control.

If I loved my partner I wouldn’t dump him over a drunken snog, no way.
Not that most of us ever find out if our partners have done it.

Kissing someone whilst drunk ( or even a little bit tipsy ) is not the end of the world, most of us have done it

Whilst in a relationship with someone else? I haven't.

Don't trivialise bad behaviour, especially when the culprit follows it up with gaslighting/trivialising their partner.

"When you’re under the influence of alcohol you’re not in total control. "

This is such excusing nonsense. People choose to get steaming drunk, it doesn't just randomly happen. And I don't think it's common when steaming drunk to forget that you have a partner and that you love them. Of course, if you don't love them and are totally self focussed then that will become more apparent when drunk. But all of that is the responsibility of the individual. It's not some inevitable thing.