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Is there a Rebecca Humphries thread? Her public statement about the end of her relationship is awesome.

382 replies

bluetrampolines · 08/10/2018 21:32

I will try and link. I love that she took the cat!

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fascicle · 12/10/2018 10:11

BlancheM
Why is the spotlight on a few paragraphs of hers rather than being on the actions which led to them??

Because of the content of those few paragraphs, suggesting that he was abusive without saying he was abusive.

She knows him as Sean, Seann is his stage name so really it's only a dig if you read it that way. Even if it was a dig, good for her.

It comes across as an attempt to belittle and mock, which is ironic, given her complaints about him.

Has Seann actually denied what she said? No. Not outright. Why not?

He has said the portrayal is not accurate but presumably, unless he leaves the programme early, potentially breaching his contract, I imagine it is not possible for him at this time to engage in a full response which might escalate the situation further.

Samcro · 12/10/2018 10:14

how the hell can he say anything? if he denies it he will be slated. if he says he did it he will be slated. she played it clever and has painted herself a the hero of the story.
at the end of the day all anyone really knows is that he cheated.
the rest is just the words of an angry and hurt woman, that may or may not be true.

Whatevszz · 12/10/2018 10:16

mydog seems to be doing a carefully calculated smear of RH in defence of Sean. The question is why... Hmm

Gingerrogered · 12/10/2018 11:09

whatevzz, when you’re doing Strictly it’s not like you can take an evening off or swap shifts. They pay you a huge amount of money to stick to a schedule and they do it. I know people in similar careers who miss kids birthdays, wedding anniversaries, partners birthdays, school plays, the whole shebang. Sometimes they’re away for months at a time. For someone doing jobbing TV shows and gigs, having your partner around for some of the period on or around your birthday is usually a bit of a result. She’s an actress, she knows this and most likely she’s done the same to him at some point. But she fed the whole ‘it was my birthday’ line because she knows the public at large don’t know that so it will instantly increase his bastard points.

I agree with fascicle too. The statement was very, very carefully constructed to heavily imply abuse using buzzwords like ‘victim’ ‘control’ and ‘free’ retweeting DV organisations. Things which were careful to say nothing directly but were loaded with implication. It looked like a statement a PR and lawyer had been through armed with the knowledge that if they made specific allegations Seann would probably have evidence to refute them and sue BH. It’s incredibly well constructed and legally aware and is hugely damaging without making concrete allegations. There’s no way she wrote that without advice.

And to do that over a snog? It’s a bit over the top isn’t it? Especially when she herself has given interviews in the past complaining about him and saying she was “still waiting for Prince Charming”.

Anyway, anybody who knows that industry would tell you that an underemployed actress living in London whose just left the source of income that kept her going’s first concern is going to be money, as much as possible and as quickly as possible.

I doubt this has half as much to do with revenge for her deep ‘trauma’ and sticking one in their for the girls as you lot seem. I think this has much more to do with squeezing the last possible bit of exposure out of her association with someone more famous, garner a few extra social media followers, and be relevant to modern issues and get her name known as much as possible and hope the offers roll in. Although I know people who don’t know much about that industry might think that all sounds a bit calculated - believe me it’s pretty standard stuff.

(Source: first husband was moderately famous comedian/actor whatevs type.

knottyhair · 12/10/2018 11:23

Yes Ginger, it does seem "over the top for a snog", anyone would think, ooh I don't know, that he was an abusive shit and she wanted to expose him for what he is Hmm.

knottyhair · 12/10/2018 11:24

And well done you for "knowing the industry". I have over 10 years experience working with abusive & violent men and his behaviour and demeanour on ITT is also "pretty standard stuff".

JacquesHammer · 12/10/2018 11:25

But she fed the whole ‘it was my birthday’ line because she knows the public at large don’t know that so it will instantly increase his bastard points

Or maybe she knew he was working, he was supposed to come home after and suddenly decided to go out for a drink...

And to do that over a snog? It’s a bit over the top isn’t it?

Isn’t that rather up to her?

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 12/10/2018 11:26

Ginger, she really does have every right to show him up by mentioning it was her birthday. She wasn't objecting to him working, she was objecting to him going out after work and kissing another woman!

He's hardly a mega star, so bit of a over active imagination stretch to assume her first concern is money. I think she just wanted to have her say before he and Katya completely minimised what happened and its impact on her. She chose not to sell her story.

If anything she said was untrue, I think he would have refuted it. But we saw what kind of man he is from his own very public behaviour!

RedDogsBeg · 12/10/2018 11:46

For someone doing jobbing TV shows and gigs, having your partner around for some of the period on or around your birthday is usually a bit of a result.

There was no 'job' reason for Sean not to go home at a reasonable time on the evening of Rebecca's birthday. His 'job' with Strictly does not require him to go out with his dance partner late into the night and then snog her. He chose to do that.

As for Katya's "I'm just concentrating on doing my job professionally" apology, her behaviour on that night does not come under the heading of doing my job professionally.

If Rebecca's aim was money and exposure I would imagine she would have taken all those offers pouring in to her for just that, instead she remained quiet for a few days, put out one statement and has said nothing since either on social media or elsewhere. Maybe she is not a calculating as you would have us believe Ginger.

Samcro · 12/10/2018 11:58

i really do not see why everyone is making a big deal about it being her birthday. a lot of people don't bother about birthday once they are adults.

JacquesHammer · 12/10/2018 11:59

i really do not see why everyone is making a big deal about it being her birthday. a lot of people don't bother about birthday once they are adults

And equally some do. She mentioned it so reasonable to assume she was expecting to spend some of it with him.

BlancheM · 12/10/2018 12:21

Fascicle oh yes it's so ironic isn't it, that she put his extra 'n' in brackets after all she 'complained' about. What an evil woman, mocking the man who shat all over her publicly.
And Seann would not be breaking his contract with Strictly by responding to an accusation if it wasn't true. Strictly's sister programme even had him on to give his side for goodness sake. He was say what he likes. The programme thrives on the publicity of its contestants' liaisons!
Some people will tie themselves up in knots to excuse shitty male behaviour.

PortiaCastis · 12/10/2018 12:37

The weasle shat on her from a great height, publicy snogging someone else on his girlfriends birthday shows what a slime ball he is

BertrandRussell · 12/10/2018 12:47

Some people hate women so much!

Jitters22 · 12/10/2018 12:56

Articles today saying that they were regulars in the Duke of York pub for several evenings leading up to the snogging session. Holding hands and kissing - acting like a couple for days prior.

LaurieMarlow · 12/10/2018 13:04

i really do not see why everyone is making a big deal about it being her birthday. a lot of people don't bother about birthday once they are adults

I think it's reasonable to assume, given the extensive range of hallmark cards out there, gifts marketed as birthday presents, Facebook reminders, etc, etc that most people see their birthday as a special day, even if they don't make a big deal of it.

It was shitty to do this on her birthday and only a Seann apologist could argue otherwise.

mydogisthebest · 12/10/2018 13:41

No, not trying to smear his ex, just trying to work out exactly why so many on here totally believe her even though there is no way they know what the truth is.

I never did think mumsnet was a true reflection of real life and the threads about Seann and Katya definitely prove that

RedDogsBeg · 12/10/2018 15:40

mydogisthebest but okay to totally believe his version of events as a drunken one-off mistake, eh?

mydogisthebest · 12/10/2018 16:19

When did I say I totally believe his version of events?

As I keep saying NONE OF US KNOW THE TRUTH. I don't know so I don't believe or disbelieve either of them. I am just not happy with the total character assassination by the media of a man accused of something as serious as abuse/gaslighting just on the "evidence" of one tweet by an upset and angry woman.

Butterymuffin · 12/10/2018 18:37

The character assassination was prompted by him cheating publicly and being caught on camera. That's all on him. Even without anything else, that's shit behaviour.

Butcowsdontgetmarried · 12/10/2018 18:43

I bet he didn’t say he was going for “one innocent drink” though. Who says that?

RedDogsBeg · 12/10/2018 18:59

The following are true:

He went out drinking with Katya until late on Rebecca's Birthday.
He and Katya were snogging.
He didn't tell Rebecca until the pictures were published in the Sun on Sunday
He let Rebecca be pictured emotionally supporting him in the audience on Saturday night blissfully unaware of his drunken mistake.
He apologised to the public but made no reference to Rebecca.

In his interview on ITT he looked angry that he'd been caught and angry that Rebecca had dared to speak out.

Now I don't 100% know if everything in her statement is true but on the balance of what I have read and seen I see far more veracity in Rebecca than him.

Butcowsdontgetmarried · 12/10/2018 19:40

He looked angry perhaps but the rest is your own guess

derxa · 12/10/2018 20:52

I like Sean and i don't like Rebecca. She sounds insufferable.

Sakura7 · 12/10/2018 20:55

Sounds insufferable how? What's that based on? Do you know her?

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