To ask my mum to go home

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My mum is currently staying with me, she smokes 8-10 fags a day. Admittedly she goes outside but the smell is just transferring around into the living room and I have 3 young children, the youngest being 8 weeks. She doesn't wash her hands before trying to hold her after smoking and it's just getting annoying now. Not only that she's rifling through my cupboards, complaining that I don't have any coffee for her wibu to just ask her to go?

OP you shouldn’t be bleeding that much, call OOH.

That sounds horrendous. You need rest and probably meds to calm the bleeding.

I've always had them heavy, I just thought it normal now
Plus I'm on the blood thinners so it's gonna seem worse isn't it? I'm hoping it will calm down over the next few hours

What @fuzzy said.
That is beyond seriously heavy. Please at least phone and get some advice.

I really do think bleeding thro a towel every half hour is too much.

Call nhs direct, just to be safe.

Your mum has been off for about 5 days because the cat has died?

I'm on blood thinners as well, and my first period was the same heaviness. Did mention to GP and he just tested for iron levels and said come back if still bleeding at the end of October!
Try to talk to your mum about how your feeling, might change her behaviour rather than having to ask her to leave. Hope it settles down soon

I’m on a blood thinner due to a blood clot from breast cancer medication and I’ve had severe bleeding despite receiving monthly hormone shots to make me postmenopausal as I’m only 45-I had significant anemia and I am having a surgical procedure with lasers next month to my uterus -contact your doctor my heaviest was 9 ultra absorbent tampons in 18 hours. As far as your mother yeah mine would never come to help after I had surgery but at least she never smoked. Good luck and ignore the few here who are criticizing you

I'm sorry.
You nearly died during your c section and she was to busy eating cake to have her grandchildren so your dh could support you
I must be a heartless bitch because I would have shut the door in her.😂
I hope you feel better OP

On her not in her

Get medical help

Putgi g the kettle on doesn't need asking for, ffs.

Yanbu to want your own quiet space back, though

Please ask a HCP about your period, that's a lot of loss you've got going on there.

And congratulations on your newborn

It's because you're feeling yucky. Ask her for help and be specific as to what: people, even relatives, aren't psychic. You are bound to get on each others nerves being together 24/7. Get her doing a top up shop and odds and ends you aren't up to. When she puts the kettle on say I'd love a tea if you're making one.

Anyone visiting a person with an 8 week old baby should be making themselves useful rather than making themselves endless cups of coffee and smoking fags. It’s annoying even if you’re not exhausted and physically recovering from birth. So YANBU to say to her nicely that you are not feeling the best and to ask if she could head home a bit earlier than planned .

Get rid of your mum and get your iron levels checked again. I didn't have anemia badly and my periods were heavier. I ended up doing much better with vitamin B shots and changes to my diet.