Was it careless of me to leave my baby with a stranger/ doctor for a few minutes

[Mummblebee]

Hey everyone. I had a doctors appointment and took my 6 month old baby girl. While there I was required to give a urine sample and the doctor asked me to use the toilet out of his office and when I went to get my daughter, he said oh just leave her . I left her for a few minutes and when I came back she seemed fine and everything but it makes me feel sick that I left her now because imagine if something had happened to her - I would never know. Oh and he was a male doctor. I can't help but feel that you never know who is an opportunistic predator. Was it careless of me to leave my daughter with a stranger/ doctor, or is it perfectly normal and I'm overthinking it. AIBU?

Assume its your pfb??
Breathe op, you didn't put your dc at risk.

Crikey
I left my sleeping tots with no end of strangers in coffee shops when I needed a wee

I would have left my dd too in the same circumstances

You are over thinking it OP, relax x

You're overthinking. He's a doctor in his place of work. Realistically what could he have done to a 6 month old in 2 minutes?

Seriously, put it out of your mind. If this sort of thing makes you anxious just don't do the same thing next time.

Perfectly normal thing to do. No need to worry at all.

Of course you weren't careless. Do you suffer from anxiety?

You’re fine. I think doctors need to be added to the “assumed to be safe” list.

OP - sorry, but you sound a bit deranged. Your doctor is not a predatory paedophile waiting to abuse your baby while you give a urine sample

“Oh it was a male doctor”

Hmmmm must be a raging perv then OP! Seriously though you are over reacting.

It’s perfectly normal and you’re overthinking it.

It's perfectly normal and yes you're over thinking it. It's not like you left her with some random in the street. You left her with your GP. I bet anyone would have done exactly the same

Sorry- ‘deranged’ was a bit mean and harsh. Apologies

You’re overthinking this. Don’t assume that because he asked you to leave the baby with him that he’s a sexual predator.
Don’t worry about this.
If it’s any consolation I used to have thoughts like this when my DC we’re tiny.

Slow down lass, it was the GP he's been checked thoroughly.
I would have left my DC with Saddam Hussain when I had bad cystitis

Anyone could be an opportunistic predator - the gp, the childminder, the primary school teacher, the Brownie leader, the ballet teacher.
But realistically it's very unlikely, they are all dbs checked and it's perfectly reasonable to leave your child with other people sometimes.

*were
And i know I was completely irrational!

My DF was a male gp for decades and used to be handed babies in the supermarket without any preamble so that people could reach top shelves, sort out other children etc. I mean I guess providing a urine sample in Tesco would have been unusual but I think the babies were all fine.

You did nothing wrong. Male or not I really think you have to assume you can trust hcp with a baby for the time it takes to wee in a tube. Don’t stress about it.

Sorry to be clear he stopped being a GP because he retired not because he left a baby in the cornflake aisle or anything

Oh and he was a male doctor. I can't help but feel that you never know who is an opportunistic predator

Thanks everyone I accept that I may have an irrational fear due to my own father being a predator. Does anyone have safeguarding tips or methods for mindfully protecting your baby? X

*Yes deranged was a bit mean. You don't know someone's life experiences or perception of reality so to call someone deranged because it does not meet up with your life experiences and perception is both dismissive and quite ignorant.

Thanks everyone for sharing opinions it's really helpful.

If it bothers you so much, baby wear. Then you can just take dc with you. I had a flu jab while wearing mine.

Also he was not my regular doctor and was a complete stranger.

Whether he is a professional person or not the thought of a stranger on their own with my daughter with the door shut gives me anxiety. I possibly do need counselling about this.

Unfortunately, a child is more likely to be abused by someone known to the parents eg a family friend.
He is a stranger to your daughter but is a gp. He will have all of the relevant checks/criminal background history and wouldn’t be in the job if he had a known history of anything untoward.
Your daughter seemed happy and settled when you returned.
Please try not to worry.

Mummblebee, Aridane did apologise.