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Husband sleeping/Housework routine

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:03

So my husband has just started a new job and is working a lot less hours than he did before.
Previously he was out the house from 7.30am until around 12am.
I wake early everyday and have gotten used to starting the housework as soon as he left in the morning. That was fine as I need to get the washing on the line as early in the morning as possible so it will be dry by late afternoon (it gets very damp here by then).
I've told him that as he now doesn't leave for work before 11.30am that on wash says I still want him out of the bedroom early enough for me to get the washing hung out so it can dry (the bedroom balcony is used for clothes drying and it wakes him up when I put the washing out). He thinks he should be able to sleep in until he needs to get up.
I don't work, we have no children together, it's just the two of us here.
Who is being unreasonable?

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serbska · 02/10/2018 22:04

How much washing do two adults make?

BluBambu · 02/10/2018 22:06

Can't you get an air dryer or something and dry the washing inside? Also do you need to wash clothes everyday?
I would be annoyed if I was woken up for this reason when I don't start work until later to be honest. But I have a dryer and would definitely prioritise sleep over housework so could be biased!

Finfintytint · 02/10/2018 22:10

That's still a long shift and I'd expect a decent sleep but I'm used to existing on 5 or 6 hours sleep. Either get a heated dryer or a tumble.

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:13

I did say this was only on wash days, not every day. The weather here is very changeable, we've had 4 days of solid rain/storms and it will be like that until April/May.
No chance of an air dryer.

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HellenaHandbasket · 02/10/2018 22:13

You are tbh. Unless you can go.in quietly?

CheesyMother · 02/10/2018 22:14

What time does he get up now? And when does he get home?

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:14

Finfintytint he's now coming home at 9pm, not so long hours as before.

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Finfintytint · 02/10/2018 22:17

In that case, I'd expect him up earlier. That maybe just me though as I like to get things done early doors.

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:17

CheesyMother he wants to get up at 10.45am, gets home around 9pm.
In the heat of summer I had to get the washing out first thing because of the humidity, now its because of the lack of sun.

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Foodylicious · 02/10/2018 22:18

Umm, can he not hang the washing before he goes to work?

He gets a bit more sleep and the laundry still gets Done?

I think it's a little unreasonable to expect him to fit in entirely with what routine suits you.

Mammyloveswine · 02/10/2018 22:18

Christ he's probably catching up on sleep with the hours he's been doing... what time does he finish now he's starting later?!

I can't imagine there's that much washing to do everyday if there's just you.two and you don't work??

Could you get a condenser tumble dryer?

babbscrabbs · 02/10/2018 22:18

What time is he getting up?

I think going in before, say, 9.30am is unreasonable yes. He's working late so probably going to bed late and it's fucking washing.

CardinalCat · 02/10/2018 22:19

If you're not working then you should surely suck it up. There must be other ways to dry your laundry?

babbscrabbs · 02/10/2018 22:20

Why is there no chance of an air dryer?

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:20

Finfintytint I've always done housework and cooking early in the morning out of necessity and preference. Washing is definitely necessity.

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Foodylicious · 02/10/2018 22:20

What time do you have to leave for work?

VladmirsPoutine · 02/10/2018 22:21

Of course you are being unreasonable. How much washing could you both possibly generate in a given day/week? Considering you don't work and have no children. Who would get out of bed in the mornings so their partner could sort out a bit of washing? Confused You sound like the sort of person who likes to create jobs for themselves where there need not be any. Let the man rest, he's going to work.

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:22

Foodylicious

Umm, can he not hang the washing before he goes to work?
That's what I want to do!

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Ginger1982 · 02/10/2018 22:22

Why is there no chance of an indoor dryer?

adaline · 02/10/2018 22:23

You're being very unreasonable.

Two adults don't create that much washing, surely? Just dry it on radiators or get a heated airer if you insist on doing it first thing.

Like you, I prefer getting housework done early but I wouldn't kick another adult out of bed to hang the washing up, just like I wouldn't expect DH to wake me up at midnight (for example) to bring it in!

Work around him, there's only two of you so surely there isn't that much to do?!

Foodylicious · 02/10/2018 22:24

Sorry, I missed in your opening post that you do not work

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DBN1 · 02/10/2018 22:26

Let the man rest, he's going to work. Shouldn't work be in capitals, as its Mumsnet? Wink

If he wants a clean uniform for WORK everyday then I need to be washing it every other day

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Maelstrop · 02/10/2018 22:26

Thinking of my laundry routine, also no dc, I do 3 lots on a Sunday which empties the basket. No way would I disturb the dh!

StrawberrySquash · 02/10/2018 22:27

Is the balcony covered? Can the washing be left out overnight?

Finfintytint · 02/10/2018 22:27

We are only two adults with adult DS living elsewhere. There's still tonnes of washing to be done. Work wear, sports wear, casual wear. We can easily wear three outfits a day though I say fuck off to most ironing.