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AIBU to say this person shouldn't be allowed...

162 replies

ScienceIsTruth · 01/10/2018 17:51

...to call themselves a woman. Not when they've committed such an awful, usually male, crime. Why are sane people enabling this shit?
I think I'm ready to get off this planet, if it carries on like this.

metro.co.uk/2018/10/01/trans-woman-pretended-to-be-a-boy-to-groom-a-girl-7994533/

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SmellyHead · 01/10/2018 23:54

Yanbu

Sarahjconnor · 02/10/2018 07:16

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KatVonGulag · 02/10/2018 07:23

No to self I.D.

FullOfJellyBeans · 02/10/2018 07:28

I couldn't care less whether this vile person calls themselves a woman or man. There are women who commit these crimes too.

FloraHiggins · 02/10/2018 07:35

Would you care if he was sent to a women’s prison, just because he said he was a woman?

Would you care if this crime was recorded as being committed as a woman, masking male violence and distorting that help inform policy/decisions?

Do you care that despite a judge saying that this is a man, newspapers are so down the rabbit hole that they still reported him as a woman, thereby placing a paedophile’s preference above truth and law?

Keeptrudging · 02/10/2018 07:41

YANBU. Males who commit male-pattern offences should lose the courtesy of getting to choose their pronouns, their crimes should be recorded as male crimes, and they certainly shouldn't be anywhere near women's prisons.

Italiangreyhound · 02/10/2018 07:52

I care if male's are calling themselves women and committing crimes recorded as female crimes.

I don't want males housed in female prisons because it compromises the safety of the other female prisoners.

Can you explain FullOfJellyBeans why they doesn't concern you?

YeTalkShiteHen · 02/10/2018 08:07

There are women who commit these crimes too.

Really? There are women, who have a penis, who like to abuse children.

No, there aren’t. Because they’re not women.

Datun · 02/10/2018 08:09

@FullOfJellyBeans

Whereasthere are female paedophiles, it is a highly sex specific crime.
There are 14,000 men in prison for sex offences and 120 women.

Sex segregation is based on risk assessment. And being male is the risk.

Which is why saying women do it too, doesn't address the risk overall. Because it's so rare.

Geraldine170 · 02/10/2018 08:27

West Yorkshire Police? FFS. They are useless, they’re crap with domestic violence, they shouldn’t even be thinking about this.

We live in a police state where the Police’s major focus is monitoring our thought and speech. It’s terrifying.

Ikeasucks · 02/10/2018 08:52

Who the hell wants someone who looks like Jacinta (wonder how tall and muscular he is) being able to waltz into female loos and changing rooms (communal or not), wards, contact sports team - even if he was a shy gentle man. Seriously how would folk feel being faced with Jacinta - especially if you were alone.

TalkingintheDark · 02/10/2018 09:00

@FullOfJellyBeans you have effectively said that you couldn’t care less about women’s and children’s safety.

Good to know that’s where you’re coming from. As the saying goes, when a person tells you who they are - believe them.

TalkingintheDark · 02/10/2018 09:05

Yy @Ikeasucks - or imagine being sectioned on a supposedly women’s psych ward and he is admitted there too bc he “identifies as a woman”.

This kind of thing is already happening now. Women with severe MH issues locked in on a ward with men with severe MH issues, who are also often sexually attracted to women.

As if a woman in that position weren’t vulnerable and struggling enough already.

Justanotherlurker · 02/10/2018 09:24

Honestly, the sexual/gender identification of this person makes no difference.

If this was a man pretending to be a boy, it would be wrong. If it was a woman pretending to be a boy, it would be wrong.

The only reason “trans woman” is mentioned at all is for clicks.

Clearly this individual is sick, and is a black mark against all other trans people.

It's the Metro. It attracts two kinds of people, exclusively; those who like the puzzles page, and those who like being puzzled and outraged.

Mumminmum · 02/10/2018 09:24

My kids insist they don't chat with strangers on the internet. Still, I showed them the photo of Jacinta and said that this is who you might chat with if you chat with strangers on the internet. They didn't think she looked like a woman. They said she looks like a troll or an orc.

My DH has not been very interested in the self-ID debate, but he had a jolly good laugh at the idea of Jacinta being allowed to identify herself as a woman and he wasn't too impressed by the reporters who had written the word "woman" in the headline above the photo.

TalkingintheDark · 02/10/2018 09:24

Just realised that the Karen White (aka David Thompson) case was West Yorks too. What is going on there?

Mumminmum · 02/10/2018 09:26

Yes, @TalkingInTheDark there are a lot of sexual abuse in mental hospitals, where they do not divide the departments according to sex.

TalkingintheDark · 02/10/2018 09:30

@Justanotherlurker so do you agree with self ID?
If so, what are your reasons for happily dismissing all safeguarding concerns? Could you explain why women’s and children’s safety means so little to you?

Carrrotsandcauliflower · 02/10/2018 09:34

West Yorkshire police seem to have a long history of not covering themselves in glory. Going back decades.

RepealtheGRA · 02/10/2018 09:34

YANBU

That is horrifying. What’s even more horrifying is that it is far from an isolated incident. Sad

BoreOfWhabylon · 02/10/2018 09:41

@Sarahjconnor of course! And - supplementary question - do you actually live in W Yorks or did their roving Right-Think Hit Squad make a special trip to monster you?

There seems to be something very rotten festering at the heart of West Yorkshire. I hope one of the journalists now covering the gender-madness will start digging.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/10/2018 09:42

The original Metro article, when first posted, referred to the perpetrator as "she". This changed after a couple of hours, and all gendered pronouns were removed.

Interesting.

YANBU, by the way, but this IS what those of us who fear the changes to the GR Act are worried about.

And it will skew the stats, so that people can say "but women do it too" and show the skewed stats. As things stand in the UK, biological women cannot rape anyone as they don't have a penis, and UK law defines rape as penetration with a penis. Any "women" raping people are transwomen. Or men pretending to be transwomen in order to gain access to women-only spaces.

Self-ID removes all current safeguards for women AND genuine transwomen. It allows predatory males access to all areas, and no one can challenge them. Of course they can go anywhere they like at the moment but CURRENTLY they can be thrown out - once self-ID goes through, a man can say he is a woman and sit naked in a women's changing room, wanking if he feels like it. And if women and girls don't like it, THEY will have to find an alternative place to change.

BoreOfWhabylon · 02/10/2018 09:46

I wonder if Eamon&Ruth will respond to those who have asked if they would unquestioningly accept Jacinta as a woman?

NottonightJosepheen · 02/10/2018 09:57

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