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Is this acceptable or should I do time for murder?

187 replies

Busyworkingbee · 01/10/2018 16:43

Been at work all day and OH has been home.
I usually cook but he asked if I wanted a jacket spud. To which I replied "yes please."

He shouts in..
Do you want mayo? Yes
Do you want cheese? Yes

5 minutes later he handed it to me.
Jacket spud with a tin of tuna slapped on top, and I mean straight from the tin, still the shape of the tin. A few sprinklings of cheese on top and mayo squirted on top. The worst bit is there was no butter on my spud at all!

I was speechless!
He doesn't cook so didn't want to hurt his feelings, but surely this form of spud is a known abomination Grin

OP posts:
DiseasesOfTheSheep · 02/10/2018 16:36

Woah, you monsters put butter on toast with peanut butter? Shock

TheDarkPassenger · 02/10/2018 16:37

My oh is an amazing chef and I’ve done stupid shit like this before, and he’s laughed and we’ve laughed and he’s showed me how to do it for next time. Or is that not outrageous cause I’m a woman?

I can’t imagine going through every single day fuming about ridiculous stuff like someone else’s husband on the internet cooking a baked bloody potato!

makingmammaries · 02/10/2018 16:48

Can I have it please? Feeling peckish. Jacket spud sounds perfect.

ineedaholidaynow · 02/10/2018 17:08

I assume you learnt how to look after your DC Philomena, as your DH doesn't look after them. I would have thought that was much harder than learning how to use a duster.

I still think it is sad how someone says they can't do childcare. They must be missing out so much with their children.

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 17:10

Don't create a problem where there isn't one.

llangennith · 02/10/2018 17:39

It's the disappointment isn't it? You're picturing a fluffy baked spud with lashings of butter, toppings exactly as you like it and the reality is😱

Pissedoffdotcom · 02/10/2018 17:42

Peanut butter on toast is an abomination. Same with chocolate spread! On their own with a spoon however...

ineedaholidaynow · 02/10/2018 18:35

Does seem interesting though Philomena that it is usually only men that can use the get out of jail free card when it comes to getting out of childcare

BertrandRussell · 02/10/2018 18:37

"Does seem interesting though Philomena that it is usually only men that can use the get out of jail free card when it comes to getting out of childcare"
Or cooking.
Or wiping up pee.
Or remembering appointments.
Or nitcombing.
Or any other tasks deemed "pink"

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 18:48

He does all the tasks deemed "pink" that I can't do, as he did it for his elderly mum with dementia, and then for himself. I do washing, some cooking, and childcare. Hmm

This arrangement works for us. I brought up 2 children to adulthood long before I met him, so I'm an old hand. It did take me a long time to learn with DS1.

Pissedoffdotcom · 02/10/2018 19:09

Why on earth are people so invested in how other people split their tasks? If couples are happy with how their houses work what on earth does it have to do with anyone else?!

ineedaholidaynow · 02/10/2018 19:17

I don't care who does the washing, cooking, cleaning etc, as long as both partners are happy with the split. I do think it is pretty crap when one 'parent' dips out of parenting, that is not fair, particularly for the children

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 19:41

ineed they love him. What's the problem? He takes them to the park and plays football with them, shows them how to garden, comes on family days out etc. DD honestly doesn't actually need much childcare now at 11, I'm just thinking whether I do any for her. Nope. Just remind her to do things, as she has trouble remembering routines. Oh, and check she's awake in the morning, because she's not the easiest person in the world to wake up, so she sometimes sleeps through the alarm.

Pissedoffdotcom · 02/10/2018 19:56

Honestly don't know how people have the time or the energy to invest in other people's lives 🙄

Philomena careful you might get accused of something if you admit neither of you 'parents' 😝

Loyaultemelie · 02/10/2018 19:57

I am laughing at the still in the shape of the tin tuna! This reminds me of my friend (female btw) who was utterly amazed that scrambled eggs had to be stirred

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 20:10

Pissedoff don't worry, DS2 still needs quite a lot of "parenting"! 😂

Namelessinseattle · 02/10/2018 20:14

My husband once made a chicken pasta bake. It smelled unreal. Omg so exciting. He served mine into me on the couch and came back in with his. I was in hysterics laughing. He was getting annoyed I wouldn’t tell him what was so funny. Until 3 forks in he said wait there’s no sauce in this. Chicken cheese and pasta - it did not taste as good as the grilled cheese smelled.

Another night he heated spag bol that I had already made (timing the bolognaise pasta and garlic bread is beyond me) and asked for a hand dishing it up. He had forgotten the mince. Again I was in stitches

Pissedoffdotcom · 02/10/2018 20:15

I once watched a programme where a girl asked the woman in charge how she knew water was boiling in a pan. That took me to a whole new level.

Philomena make sure teach him how to make tuna mayo...god forbid another jokey thread starts in 20 years time 😂😂

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 20:23

Will do! He already does a mean scrambled egg ham and cheese.

Pissedoffdotcom · 02/10/2018 20:24

If he can make a decent omelette as well can i borrow him??

ineedaholidaynow · 02/10/2018 20:26

My issue is that childcare is not a household chore that can be split, it is parenting, pure and simple.

The room is pretty much split in half whether a situation where someone doesn't know they are meant to mash tuna before putting it on a jacket potato is funny or sad. But I assume someone coming on here and saying my DH doesn't parent isn't seen as funny.

There is another thread going on at the moment where the OP's husband can't look after his baby and preschooler whilst the OP is in the bathroom for 10 minutes, because he doesn't do childcare. Don't see anything funny in that.

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 20:26

I might have to show him how not to turn an omelette into scrambled egg, but once he's got that down, I'll send him to you. 😂

Helpmemyhairisterrible · 02/10/2018 20:29

Mine put six chicken breasts in the oven uncovered last week.

Chicken flip-flops.

Would have happily done the time as it would have been a break.

Eejit.

Pissedoffdotcom · 02/10/2018 20:51

Seriously indeed let it go. If Philomena was pissed off with the way her household runs your comments would fit. She isn't, so they don't. People run their lives differently to you, big whoop. I know plenty of people who run their houses in an 'old fashioned' way; it has buggar all to do with anyone else if everyone involved is happy.

Philomena if you can teach him that he's doing better than me...scrambled egg. Every. Damn. Time. I no longer eat omelette in protest.
Also done the chicken flip flops 😂 i'm such a catch haha

PhilomenaButterfly · 02/10/2018 20:52

Chicken flip flops 😂