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To march up to school and give the receptionist a price of my mind

143 replies

Numberonecook · 01/10/2018 13:04

Ok il try be breif but not drip feed. Background - Our local high school academy is huge. It has large gates round it that close at 8.30am. the primary school sits in the same grounds but there is no access to the academy through their gates. Dd1 goes to academy (year 7) and dd2 is at primary.

This morning at 8.35 I was taking DD2 to school. There was a young man stood at the entrance to the academy crying. I asked if he was ok? He explained his mum dropped him off late and the gates were closed. He’s only in year 7 and didn’t know they locked them. I explained the gates close at 8.30 and he would have to walk around to the main gate (the only way to this is to walk around the whole housing estate). He Burst into tears and said his mum would ‘kill him’. I asked him if he wanted to come with me and Dd2 inside the primary school so they could ring school and explain he was going to be late and not to tell him off. He refused. I didn’t have my phone. He didn’t have his. So I told him which way to go and he went.

When I got home I called the academy cursing myself for not catching the poor boys name. I felt awful for leaving him as I’d of wanted someone to help Dd1 if she was so upset but I couldn’t leave Dd2. I spoke to the receptionist and told her what happened. She laughed and said ‘yes the idiots just got here now’ I was gobsmacked and repeated he was very upset and I was worried. She just said thanks for calling and put the phone down!.

I was seriously annoyed. AIBU to take this further? DH said to leave it but I’d hate to think of staff treating Dd1 like this. I don’t know if the poor boy got told off? Should I go up and report the b**ch?

If you got to the end of this thanks lol

OP posts:
FilledSoda · 01/10/2018 13:08

What a cow

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 01/10/2018 13:08

If it's upsetting you, then pop in and mention it. Say you were concerned about how upset he was but he's refused to go with you (stranger danger and all that) and when you called to check on him the office staff called him an idiot. Ask them if that is how they usually refer to the children in their care.

It's nothing really to do with you, but I can understand why it's bugging you. You've got a child in the school and don't want her being referred to in they sort of way.

endofthelinefinally · 01/10/2018 13:08

Referring to a year 7 child as an idiot is disgusting.
I feel sorry for children in schools now. They must be so stressed and fearful so much of the time.

FilledSoda · 01/10/2018 13:08

Yes report her.

corlan · 01/10/2018 13:08

I'd presume the receptionist was joking. Lol

coolmule · 01/10/2018 13:10

What a nasty woman, not sure if i’d report her, but one to watch in the future i’d say.

mogloveseggs · 01/10/2018 13:12

Report definitely

mostdays · 01/10/2018 13:12

I would speak to someone, yes. Bullies get away with it when others let them.

Numberonecook · 01/10/2018 13:12

I just felt so sorry for him :( I’m so soft lol. I was glad he was safe but he was so worried without anyone being horrible to him. She probably was joking but it wasn’t very funny. I wouldn’t want her talking about my child like that.

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bobstersmum · 01/10/2018 13:13

Absolutely out of order, I would have said to her there and then, what sort of way is that to talk about a child!!

TeaForTiger · 01/10/2018 13:15

I feel sorry for children in schools now. They must be so stressed and fearful so much of the time.

Didn't they hit them with sticks, throw board rubbers at their heads and make them wear a dunces hat, in the not so distant past??

OP she is not representative of how school children are treated in schools. I would send an email to the head detailing your conversation with her.

A0001 · 01/10/2018 13:17

My son has SEN and could well be that boy (as in, it's the sort of thing he'd do, not, I think it was him)

The thought of a receptionist describing him like that genuinely upsets me - he'd be really stressed in that situation

Please complain. If she's like that to adults in public, imagine how she treats the kids when no other adults are around.

A0001 · 01/10/2018 13:18

I'd presume the receptionist was joking. Lol

Ha fucking ha

🙄🙄🙄

bingandflop · 01/10/2018 13:20

Im a school Secretary and my jaw dropped reading this. Definitely not normal to refer to a child that way, and to a member of the public on the phone? wtf!

FullOfJellyBeans · 01/10/2018 13:20

Wow YADNBU what a nasty cow.

Busybusybust · 01/10/2018 13:20

I think there is a special training school for school receptionists. They are all thoroughly unpleasant.

PorkFlute · 01/10/2018 13:24

The fact she was joking doesn’t make it ok. I’d be pretty concerned if speaking like that in front of a parent was considered fine. Schools are usually keen to portray a positive image. You can only imagine how the children must be spoken to/about when there’s no one but other staff to hear.

sophiec123 · 01/10/2018 13:28

What a cow! I hate things like that because it will constantly play on my mind! On the other hand, I think I would leave it and just be weary of that receptionist, she may have just been saying it in jest but still not very professional. The boy will be in school now, probably with his friends not thinking about this morning.

Welshmaiden85 · 01/10/2018 13:28

Complain. That’s a horrible way to speak about a pupil. I’m not surprised you were upset. Write a letter and label it official complaint.

AlevelConfusion · 01/10/2018 13:30

Yes complain, horrible bitch.

ilovesooty · 01/10/2018 13:32

@Busybusybust

What an utterly stupid comment.

bingandflop · 01/10/2018 13:33

@Busybusybust that's really not true and quite unfair. Have you met every School Receptionist in the world?

Snowymountainsalways · 01/10/2018 13:34

You should complain because that is no way to talk about any child.

Gersemi · 01/10/2018 13:34

Report it to the head, but don't go marching up there all set for a shouting match. That would be the way to put yourself firmly in the wrong.

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/10/2018 13:34

I'd complain too. No wonder he was afraid to go in if that's how the staff are.

It would probably really play on my mind why and what had made him so worried he was crying.

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