Most ignorant school mum ever!

[Diamondangel8]

I work full time but now and then I get to pick up my son from school as have flexible working. I have got to know some of the school mum's. My son is best friends with a boy at school. They get on so well . So I decided to try to talk to this boy's mum to arrange playmates and offered to have him round. However I have never encountered such an ignorant woman in my life. I've tried to talk to her many times at the schoolgates. She ignores mePretends she hasn't heard me. She won't make eye contact with me and turns her back to me. I have been pleasant and ignored every time. I had to go to a kids party with her again earlier I thought I'd have another go at speaking to her. I sat down at the table and she turned her back to me as i was sat down. I asked her 5 times as her son came over would he like to come and play with my son and she ignored me. Others at the table looked surprised. She didn't even turn round and just muttered to her son she is talking to you and he walked off. I just felt so uncomfortable the whole time. I just don't understand. I have never encountered someone so rude in my life. Aibu?

Not necessarily, @roboticmom my DD2 is still very close to her friend despite her mum refusing to engage with me at all. She has play dates with other friends, but she stills plays a lot with this girl in school. They're in year 2 now and have been friends since Reception.

But a difference here is that they're in a group of friends who play together at school and go to each other's parties, so her the fact that her mum is off with me hasn't made too much difference. (Except that DD2 keeps asking when they can have a play date, which does make me a little sad.)

I had one of these in my sons class. Looked through me for 4 years, 5 times a week. She was stunningly beautiful and i was clearly beneath her contempt as she could clearly see and interact with other people. I didn't know her name initially, so DHstarted calling her alpha mummy, so i said 'she's not alpha mummy, I am calling her Doris'. It really helped to give her a silly name and have me a bit of 'power' back. She eventually moved, thankfully.

I had a neighbour that behaved like that.
I learned from a mutual acquaintance that she was in fact cripplingly shy. Quite a lesson/surprise that was.
Or she could of course be a twat..

I could be this mum. High functioning autism so I can’t give eye contact and severe social anxiety which translates as “please leave me alone”. I’m here because I have to be.

My DD can’t have play dates at my house, when she’s with her dad at weekends I’m happy for him to take her on them, but if a mum at school asked me I’d panic and run off. Or at best look at the floor and say “oh haha yes maybe one day” while fast pacing away.

The interaction would torture me the entire week and I’d be nervous at every school pick up for days on end.

She might just be really rude who knows, and even if you’re a lovely person she maybe genuinely just doesn’t like you.

I can see what you were trying to do for the kids but some of us find playdates impossible and asking more than once could be quite upsetting