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To be a bit miffed at this

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mumof2andsurviving · 27/09/2018 19:52

I picked my daughter up from an after school club. She is 5 and in year 1. It took one look at her and saw that her school pinafore was inside out, and on closer inspection her polo shirt was ALSO inside out.

She had PE this morning. I get that she is 5, and may have mishaps when getting dressed again, but I'm just a bit surprised that no one notice bothered to ask her to change it. AIBU? Or should I mention it to her newly qualified teacher ?

OP posts:
GreatDuckCookery6211 · 27/09/2018 19:59

Of course you shouldn't mention it!
Give the newly qualified teacher a break. I mean what actual harm has it done DD?
Ye gods.

InspectorIkmen · 27/09/2018 20:00

What Duck said x1000

bridgetreilly · 27/09/2018 20:02

YABVVVU. Have you ever tried to get 30 5 yos undressed, dressed in PE kit, undressed, then dressed in school clothes again?

Lostintimeandpace · 27/09/2018 20:02

Have you taught her to get dressed quickly and accurately?

Timer on the iPhone. Make sure she knows how to turn clothes inside out and work to reduce by 1 minute per day until you get to under 3 minutes for full clothing.

bridgetreilly · 27/09/2018 20:03

The only person, in fact, that you need to speak to is DD. Point out that she needs to check her clothes are the right way round when she puts them on.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/09/2018 20:04

When ds1 was in year 1, two boys from his class came home in eachother’s shoes - they were the same design, but very different sizes - and neither child appeared to have questioned why their shoes were suddenly far too big/tight!

It is a bit of a rite of passage, I think - I honestly wouldn’t stress about it.

It may be that the teacher thought it was more important to foster the children’s independence than to correct them for getting things ‘wrong’.

IAmcuriousyellow · 27/09/2018 20:05

It’s so good for them to be independent. Lucky she had her own clothes on really! And so much better for them to be allowed to stay dressed as they have done rather than be told they’re wrong and have made a mistake. I used to think it was beyond cute to see them at the end of the day in their “best try” bless them.

SnowOnTheSeine · 27/09/2018 20:06

Such faff for little ones.

Here the sport is either the morning of a half day (they come to school in pe kit and stay in it all morning). Or sport is the afternoon and they get changed after lunch then stay in their kit until the end of school. Not sure until what age but my 7 year old still does that.

Sorry, besides the point but I think teachers have other things to do than check all the children are properly dressed again

iogo · 27/09/2018 20:08

Don't be that parent. You'll either make the nqt feel like shit or the entire staff will be rolling their eyes in the staff room. It's not their job to tell your child how to dress.

ViserionTheDragon · 27/09/2018 20:08

I wouldn't blame the teacher - newly qualified or not. Agree with the other posters, have a word with DD, help her practice getting dressed.

happymummy12345 · 27/09/2018 20:09

When I was a student I volunteered in a reception class, and can 100% agree how hard it can be to get 30 4-5 year olds changed, then changed back again in a short space of time.
That said, if we saw a child's clothes were inside out, we helped them by pointing it out in an appropriate way. We didn't just leave them.
I wouldn't be happy for my child to have their clothes on inside out either.

nuttyknitter · 27/09/2018 20:16

She was clothed - that's all you need to worry about.

GeorgeTheHippo · 27/09/2018 20:18

Show her how to check. She's only little, she'll get the hang of it.

Flatpackjackie · 27/09/2018 20:20

She should be able to dress herself properly. Your job to ensure she knows how to, not the teacher's.

MingaTurtle · 27/09/2018 20:21

If they did notice, but only after your DD was dressed, they probably wouldn’t get her to change to the right way round as that wouldn’t be worth the disruption to your dD and the rest of the class.

Why do you think it matters enough to be miffed?

otterturk · 27/09/2018 20:22

What?! She's 5! Yanbu at all

musicinspring1 · 27/09/2018 20:23

I love how you felt the need to say they are newly qualified Hmm go on ... say something and be that parent ....

Bluelady · 27/09/2018 20:23

I can't imagine even noticing something so trivial if I was trying to wrangle 30 five year olds.

Hmmalittlefishy · 27/09/2018 20:23

What part of the school day should she have taken up getting re-changed? Literacy? Numeracy?
I imagine in a class of 30 any teacher newly qualified or otherwise has time to be checking whether clothes are the right way round
She is also year 1 and even if you haven't taught her at home she's presumably had pe in school for a year now so should be fairly capable

QuickWash · 27/09/2018 20:24

A buy at our school. Came out with his trousers back to front the other day and the mum couldn't believe he hadn't noticed!

If I was the teacher (and indeed have done this as a parent) and noticed after the child was dressed that it was inside out, I'd be weighing up the faff vs benefit to getting them through the undress redress cycle and leaving them as they are!

Danceintherain2018 · 27/09/2018 20:24

As a teacher we never correct children's efforts to dress themselves. Shows their parents what they can and can't do!!

Charm23 · 27/09/2018 20:24

I don't see what there is to get miffed at?

Mulberry72 · 27/09/2018 20:24

Teach her how to dress herself properly and how to check she’s put her clothes on the right way.

Why does it matter that the teacher is newly qualified?

sportsdirectmug · 27/09/2018 20:26

Teach her to put them on properly - and what difference does it really make?

VerbenaGirl · 27/09/2018 20:27

Absolutely standard Year 1 - always made me smile 😊 Teachers are working so hard and have to keep track of so many things, this is just not a priority or worth getting worked up about. Mentioning it is possibly going to be quite demotivating for the teacher.

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