To be a bit miffed at this

[mumof2andsurviving]

I picked my daughter up from an after school club. She is 5 and in year 1. It took one look at her and saw that her school pinafore was inside out, and on closer inspection her polo shirt was ALSO inside out.

She had PE this morning. I get that she is 5, and may have mishaps when getting dressed again, but I'm just a bit surprised that no one notice bothered to ask her to change it. AIBU? Or should I mention it to her newly qualified teacher ?

I don’t think 5 year olds ‘do’ embarrassment

OP - AIBU?

MNetters - YABU - work on helping your (probably PFB) child learn to dress herself and don't mention it to the teacher or you will be "that" parent.

OP - Judgy much!.... it was school photo day / my child was embarrassed (drip feed / new info to garner sympathy).

MNetters - Still YABU.

I wouldn't care less about that.

My DS2 still sometimes dresses himself inside out or backwards (and with a polo shirt!) - I'm just happy he's done it himself and help him out with turning it round if he wants.

DS1 regularly went to school with his jumper backwards, but he was so proud of himself for putting it on on his own I just let it ride - he'll get there in the end, and in the meantime it does no harm what so ever.

I remember a reception teacher saying to me that PE lessons were essentially supervising 30 kids to get changed twice. It took up so much time that they barely made it to the gym.

That said, there was the morning when DS got in such a grump with me telling him to get dressed that it was only when we got to school that I realised he'd just put his uniform on over his pyjamas. He was rather bulky that day.

It's not about the teacher still learning. She'll be learning to hone her teaching skills, support underachievers, stretch her most able, etcetcetc, neither she, nor anyone except you will give a monkeys about her post-PE uniform!

Without fail, my 6 year old comes home on PE day with his trousers on back to front and his socks inside out. It just makes me laugh. I always say to him ‘oh, you had PE today then?! 😂😂

We had a discussion at work this week in which we realised that every single one of us have worn items of clothing inside out or back to front at some point. Shit happens.

Omg same age daughter and I totally agree wth you OP.. when she was in reception she wet her clothes playing outside in the puddles and she got dressed halfway through. She was allowed to roam around the rest of the day in a pinafore, no shirt, tie, or tights, just a vest that was easily visible and a pinafore that looked far too big on her slight frame. I get that teachers aren't allowed to help change them but ffs she knew how to fully dress herself by then!

And making the point about her being NQT is just bitchy

no. It's just a fact. I'm not being bitchy here. I was just a bit surprised that was all

No definitely bitchy. No need to make the point, unless you're making the point because you feel she is in some way in the wrong because of her status.

The likelihood is that the teacher did notice. But praised her for getting dressed independently.

I work in early years and some children are unable to put their clothes on full stop

How can you possibly know my intent?

My concern was I didn't want to embarrass her because she is newly qualified

*The likelihood is that the teacher did notice. But praised her for getting dressed independently.

I work in early years and some children are unable to put their clothes on full stop*

Thank you this is a really useful perspective

So what is actually the issue here?! She has nothing to be embarrassed about. My daughter came out with clothes inside out. Her teacher has been teaching for years and I forgot about it two mins later.

The tone of your OP suggested otherwise.
I work in secondary and half the kids still look disheveled after PE! 😆

Teach her to get dressed. 5 is old enough. I taught reception, none of them struggled much with dressing: maybe the odd button if that.

I just wanted to pick someone else's brain. I thought that was the point of Mumsnet

So be reassured it’s a none issue then.

U'm j just laugh when this happens to my kids 🤔

What do yo expect they do? Arrange for the TA to take her back to the changing room and disrupt everyone else's learning??

Another one here with a DS who frequently had back to front shorts on after a gym day. I rolled my eyes regularly, we practiced at hime and he got there in the end.
Pick your battles I reckon.

Nicknacky I just wondered how it was possible NOT to notice something so bloody obvious but if it's a tactic to build but self confidence I get it.

Wow it didn't take long to get all judgy

You started it op, you were clearly being judgey about rhe teacher.

But to continue in the judgey vein you started, why is your five year old embarrassed about this, at five rhey shouldn't give a shit. Most five year olds would run about naked and not give a shit.

Thank you MintChocchip I will

She probably did notice.

Bluntness your ability to be able to read the mind, and intent of a perfect stranger astounds me.