To be a bit miffed at this

[mumof2andsurviving]

I picked my daughter up from an after school club. She is 5 and in year 1. It took one look at her and saw that her school pinafore was inside out, and on closer inspection her polo shirt was ALSO inside out.

She had PE this morning. I get that she is 5, and may have mishaps when getting dressed again, but I'm just a bit surprised that no one notice bothered to ask her to change it. AIBU? Or should I mention it to her newly qualified teacher ?

Don’t say anything, you will look like a tit! She probably did notice, and may be wondering whether she should have a word with you about teaching your own dd to dress, she probably won’t though, incase she embarrasses you. She isn’t failing your dd as you seem to be suggesting, she may have decided not to waste valuable time getting your dd to change ( and let you see what your dd still needs to learn to do).

Well done to your dd for getting dressed, it is yourjob to remind her to check that her clothes are not inside out.

I send kids out the door with clothes backwards and inside out (not if they have SEN). That way the parents can see what they need help with. If you don't have time to teach your single child how to dress I don't have time to change 30 of them! I have to allow nearly half an hour as it is for changing. That's a lot of time that could be better used. You should have taught her how to dress herself ready for starting school!

I forgot to put knickers on the other day and I'm 50!

Dm used to know when db had done pe as he always managed to get his trousers on back to front. My own dd forgot to wear knickers to school age 6 (luckily she did have tights on at least). Mention it light heartedly to dd and move on.

ilovepixie you have brightened my day and restored my faith in mumsnet. Thank you

What's wrong with mn? Because they didn't ageee with you!?

No. Not at all. It's the character assassination that I wasn't expecting. I said I was a bit miffed. I wasn't raging. I just wanted another perspective. Not to have my character or my parenting questioned

You haven't had a character assassination. It was you that inferred the teacher was lacking.

Just keep showing her how to check it is the correct way round. At least she can dress herself to some degree. My sister takes Brownies on camp trips and has to show someone every year how to put on socks or some other basic clothing. They are at least 8 years old!

I've been accused of a) being bitchy and b) not teaching my daughter how to dress properly. ONCE AGAIN how many times do I have to say it I was surprised no one had noticed. I mentioned she was newly qualified because I didn't want to say something and embarrass her.

I've been told more than once that the teacher may have noticed but not said anything because a) there is no time to get changed and b) it is part of a tactic of praising her and ignoring the bits she couldn't/didn't do, I am more than happy with this explanation

Themobilesitemademesignup thank you. Will give that a try

Spend the time teaching her to dress herself properly instead

Why bother making a fuss about something so trivial. Don't be one of those mums.

Actually thank you OP you’ve made me realise what is normal, I was starting to worry that my 3.5 year old is only just starting to be able to put his own socks on.

Honestly, I think some people on mumsnet go out of their way just to be rude. OP didn’t want to emabarrass the new teacher, she wasn’t questioning her ability to teach fgs! OP I’m a teacher (10years plus) and this happens all the time. It actually happened today, hence the reason your post caught my attention. A boy had his tshirt on inside out. By the time I noticed, I was moving on to the next activity and I just thought it wasn’t worth the hassle. He wasn’t bothered and no one else was. If I had pointed it out he may have been embarrassed himself and maybe wouldn’t feel confident getting changed on his own when everyone else was sitting down on the carpet ready to listen to the next task. Like others have said we do tend to be spinning plates for most of the day. I wouldn’t say anything just now but if it continues and is bothering you and bothering your little girl then a friendly word asking her teacher if she could please make sure she was dressed correctly would be fine. We deal with complaints much worse than this and I’d rather my children and parents were happy.

Sorry OP if I’ve missed it but you said it was ‘so bloody obvious’... did your daughter actually notice herself?

I mentioned she was newly qualified because I didn't want to say something and embarrass her

So, if she been teaching one year, 5 years or 20 years, you would say something and embarrass her?

My 11yo still manages to put his T-shirt on inside out on occasion. Heck, my dh has managed to do it dressing the dc.

Honestly, the teacher is not there to revolve around details like this relating to your child, nor oes s/he have time.

I see you’ve accepted that the teacher most probably did notice but as it is such a minor thing, didn’t want to waste 10 mins of learning time sorting out 1 child’s clothing. As other posters have said it happens all the time and it matters not a jot. If you were to spend some time in a yr 1 class you’d soon realise that there is no time to worry about such things!

Better still, try a Reception class. Now THAT is bonkers!

Well there's a weekend activity for you. Teaching your dd how to do it. She obviously wasn't bothered and clearly it wasn't obvious or another child would have mentioned it. You said yourself "on closer inspection" her polo was inside out. How close do you think you dd and her friends and teachers get in a school day?!

If she knows left and right then I found my DD liked remembering things like label to the left for her tops. Bow to the front for pants or label to the back/left.

Learning how to put on clothes that are outside in but turning them right ways out as they go on (magic!).

But at the end of the day my DD still likes to sometimes "forget" the order and put her leggings on before her pants. Or her t-shirt on backwards. It amuses her and if you can't deliberately wear your clothes wonky when you are 5/6 then when can you

"My 11yo still manages to put his T-shirt on inside out on occasion. Heck, my dh has managed to do it dressing the dc."

My dh managed to put ds1's trousers on back to front once, @AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight (is that a Joyce Grenfell reference, by the by). I did point out that, as he himself had been wearing trousers for the past 30+ years, he should know which way round they go!

DS1 came home with one size 11 shoe and one size 9 shoe once after PE. Never did get his other shoe back, only bought them a week before! I always knew when it was PE day as both my kids would have jumpers on back to front, inside out... DS had TWO pairs of trousers on when he got home once!! I pictured some poor kid wondering where the hell his trousers were and having to go home in his pants, but his teacher was confused next day and said everyone was definitely fully dressed when they left

SDTG Mine would manage that (he'd probably even manage to do it to his own)!
(It's from Cops and Robbers by Janet and Allan Ahlberg :) )

So, if she been teaching one year, 5 years or 20 years, you would say something and embarrass her?

I doubt an experienced teacher would be embarrassed and they would be used to dealing with far worse.

And incidentally I have taught her to dress properly, and usually she notices if something is inside out she turns it out the right way and puts it on.

She had somehow managed to both button up her polo shirt inside out AND do the zip up on the inside. That actually takes quite a bit of skill