Would you allow adult child do what they want to their room in your house?

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Mine wants to get a pet snake. I'm really not keen on the idea, but they don't see a problem as it'll be in their room. Thoughts please.

Bloody hell, bsbabas! Out of interest, which part of the world do you live in?

I would also say no. If he wants a pet that you don't want then he should think anything out. I don't mind snakes but wouldn't want to share responsibility of an adult DS pet. That can be a little incentive to move out x

Bsbabas, I think you’re being a tad dramatic he probably only wants a corn snake or royal python 😳 And I can honestly say mine never smell, also snakes can be fed by leaving the meal in the viv. They don’t have to be dangled especially with some fussy royals.

There should be no escapes in a well secured viv (double check all vents as usually they pop those out to escape). I also use locks on mine. You won’t need anything bigger than a rat in your freezer (unless he wants a huge boa/python but that’s not a beginners snake really) you can keep them covered up with a plastic bag that you can’t see through.

You can’t go down the street and legally buy a baby rattlesnake, there are laws in place. The only legal venemous snakes without a license are ‘rear fanged’ (not rattlesnakes).

There is a definite risk of being bitten and a hamster bite is about 90% more painful

Absolutely not.

Decorate, sure. That's about it.

No, partly because having pets is one of the big benefits a new adult gets to have when they finally get their own place. Got to keep those carrots dangling to encourage them to feel that there are benefits to moving out one day.

Replace the words "adult child" with "lodger." Would you allow a lodger to bring a pet into your house/do whatthey want to a room in your house?

My answer would be no.

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I wouldn't have an issue with snakes (or spiders) personally, they are contained and a lot less intensive than a dog would be. But as pps have said, the would-be pet owner's age and timing is crucial. They may not be able to take a pet with them if they move on, so it should be a no really. Not in the best interests of the pet (or the house owner) at this time.
I wouldn't want black walls either, tbf. Or Noddy wallpaper

They do escape occasionally so it depends on how you'd feel about it.
My dad had a 15foot python that's belly was as big as my thigh! He got out one day by sliding against the glass toll is slide open.
My dad lived with my nan then (so an adult DS living with his DM) the snake was halfway out his bedroom window when he got home. The neighbours and my nan was petrified!
DB had one a few years later and it also escaped, we found it 3 weeks later between the virgin media box and dvd player, it used the heat to stay warm and alive.
I was petrified of sleeping until it was found though.

I would have no problem with a snake or gerbils, something that is kept in a cage and handled in the room. I wouldn't allow birds, cats or dogs, things that need to be taken out, walked etc. Decoration, paint etc no problem. Knocking holes or changing walls, no. Drinking, yes. Smoking, no.

So for me, things that happen in the room, are easy to change again and don't affect people outside the room, no problem. Things that can be seen/heard or affect people outside the room, no.

TrashPanda I completely agree with you there, couldn’t have said it better myself

If he’s responsible I’d be inclined to say yes. However, be sure that at some point you will be required to look after it when he leaves home / goes to uni/ holidays etc. Ask him about this. He may have it all planned out and be happy to pay for someone to take care of it when he’s away( hopefully not his mum!)
What age is your ds?

No, my house, my rules. My adult daughter has rules to adhere to and chores to do in return for no rent (she's a student)

No problems with a snake, however my son is trained to look after them. Does he know how to look after them properly, what to feed them etc. Does he have the money for a specialised vet? Can he afford to buy a new vivarium when the tiny snake grows into a great but one, even corn snakes get to 5 feet plus.

bsbabas

I’m guessing there was a wee element of overcrowding stress there. Unless you live in a mansion.

As an aside, if the adult child is in a box room the answer should be no, as even for a corn snake or royal python you need a roomy vivarium with plenty of hiding spots. It will take up a substantial amount of space.

He 'ok be off to uni next year and then you'll have a pet snake.

Are they responsible? Would they 100% look after it themselves, no responsibility would fall onto you? These would be the questions I would ask myself if, in the future, my adult dcs asked for a pet in my house.
But to be honest, once I heard the word snake, it would be a straight no from me!! I am petrified

Why is everyone saying NO! to a pet?

If this is an adult, and they will take responsibility, and take the animal with them when they go, then why not?

I wouldn't let anyone planning on going to uni get a snake though, as you really can't take that to uni.

There is a snake rescue near us that looks for fosterers. he could offer to foster for a year, and that way he can hand it bakc, and discover if he really likes it.

For me it would depend on the character of the adult in question.

If he/she was generally responsible already (tidy, punctual, already reasonably self sufficient etc)
If they were showing they had done the proper research and therefore had a good understanding of the things needed to keep such a specialist pet.
had money to look after, feed it, not let it escape and take it to the vet etc then I would consider it.

The other aspect though is you take on a pet for all of its lifespan and an 18 year olds lifestyle can change dramatically are they really going to move it across the country to uni with them or still have the free time in 2-5 years to properly take care of it.

But then I'm not bothered by snakes, I very much am by spiders though.

No to the snake, i would say when you have your own home you can have it then

Apart from anything else steppe, moving a huge glass vivarium suitable for a full grown snake is not a straightforward task, and will make moving a lot harder. It’s not a practical choice if you are going into houseshares or rented accommodation and might find yourself moving on a 6m or annual basis.

We had a cupboard, four fish tanks and some vivariums. The bite from my Brazilian rainbow python hurt I still have the scar and you have to push down gently on the snakes head because the fangs are hooked. I have enough experience with snakes (anyone handled a yellow anaconda and given it a bath?) To know they are hard work and need a lot of research even the easy ones can get difficult. Also corn snakes don't like being out in the light and just want to chill on a heatmat and burrow. Royal pythons have massive heads (big teeth and are notorious for biting women's boobies when they handle them. Did you also know you can buy false widow spiders? Out of all my pets my favourite was my angel fish. Bearded dragons and hedgehogs seem nice. I wanted to get a possum but they are even more difficult than snakes they need a litterbox in every room and you have to train them very gently or they get aggressive.

I have handled many royal pythons and never been bitten on the boobs!!

Well just watch out but I'm sure you do:)

I've never been bitten on the boobs either by any snake I've handled. A puppy once bit my boob, needly little fucker.

I'm more laughing at the 'get a fish'. Coz theyre like easy to keep alive fish were the hardest thing I've ever looked after to keep happy.

Dont be goady