Would you allow adult child do what they want to their room in your house?

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Mine wants to get a pet snake. I'm really not keen on the idea, but they don't see a problem as it'll be in their room. Thoughts please.

Ew, no I wouldn't. I know someone who's pet snake escaped. It was never found

Crikey, I thought this was going to be about painting the walls black or something! No, OP, I wouldn't be happy to have a creature that could escape unless it was one that I quite liked the idea of myself. No snakes, no spiders. It may be his room, but it's in my house.

I thought you meant decoration, and came on here to say yes. But I would draw the line at a pet snake. No way!

I have all of my adult ds’s at home atm and no way on God’s Earth would I have a fucking snake in thd house, ever!

Yes, but then I like snakes.

I think a pet is something different - I was expecting decoration. A pet is everyone’s responsibility in the home really so it would be a no from me!

No no no, not that I hate snakes but I would not want one in my house, nor spiders but I’d be ok with a rat

I would let my adult dd get a snake if it was in her room and she did all the caring for it, same with my younger children but I don't mind snakes.

No. It's your house and if you don't want a snake in it, that's the end of it.

Your adult child needs to get their own place so that they're free to do what they want.

I was going to say if it's legal it'd be okay with me but actually no, not a snake!

No. The people that run the house get the say on stuff like that. It can be an incentive for them to move out!

I don’t see the harm? This is an adult child right? So it’s going to be their sole responsibility financially and from a care standpoint. Changes are you won’t even know it’s in the house. Vivariums are lockable. Snakes are clean, don’t smell, don’t make noise. It could be a lot worse.

No way. I don’t like snakes but also is it not very cruel to keep a snake in a cage in a bedroom?

Your house, your rules. In my house, no snakes.

They'll be wanting to keep frozen mice in the freezer as well.

Adult - no. They have the choice to move out. Teen or vulnerable adult with no choice to live elsewhere, I would probably allow more leeway. I’d let them get a snake as I love snakes but that’s not the point (I think) so let’s say a spider NO NO FUCKING NO WAY would anyone keep a pet spider in my house.

No pets are for when they get their own place.

Pet snake that they will pay for and look after and I wouldn’t ever have to even go into their room? Nice adult son/daughter that is generally a pleasure to live with and pulls their weight? Yes no problem.

Hell no! A hamster maybe

If the adult DC is generally responsible, clean and tidy I'd say yes - snakes do smell a bit, but can be super stinky if not looked after meticulously. However, It's your house, so your rules. What about when he/she wants to leave home and can't get a rental that allows pets?

That's fine. I've got a snake in my lounge. I like snakes.

My ds had a snake, he was lovely. Then my ds had 2 snakes. Then I got a message to say he had bought an iguana that could grow to 7 feet long. Allow the snake op on the understanding it's a lone reptile. Honestly snakes are great. Ds got one for his second birthday, Elvis is now 8!!

It doesn't matter if they think it's okay, it's your house and you have the final say. If they don't like the rules of the house they can move out.