To put my son in leggings with kisses on them?

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The comments today have included:

"Oh X I normally love what you put him in but those make him look so camp" (camp??? I was shocked)

"Are those your DD's?"

"They're so feminine, he looks like a little girl with short hair"

AIBU to think it's ridiculous? He's not in a dress and tights.

Put them in what you like but don't make them stand out for you to prove a point

Would you really put him in a dress if he picked it up himself ?
The leggings are fine. He’s only 4.

It's fine to say fuck it and dress your son how you and him like.

Whether or not you like it, there are "rules" about fashion. Someone wearing bell bottoms in 2018 will catch your eye even though there's nothing wrong with them because the "norm" is skinny jeans. That person can wear whatever they want but can't get annoyed that their jeans attract attention when they are different from most other people's jeans. It's fine for them to say fuck it and not wear skinnies.

You've dressed him to look like a girl.

I think it looks fine and unisex - passes the comfy test too.

People have very narrow views on what it is acceptable for boys to wear sadly.

Again.

If you want to challenge this ‘narrow’ view, get your husband to dress up in a pink t shirt and leggings with kisses on them and go for a nice walk and a drink together.

Adults should make political points, not uncomprehending children.

Just wanted to say the outfit is adorable. I was a little skeptical about green leggings with kisses but it really looks very cute and stylish whether on a boy or girl.

Leggings for a boy - fine.
Pink for a boy - fine.
Lipstick kisses for any gender - a bit naff IMO.

@larrygrylls

This.

@MAisyPops

Breaking stereotypes is more than clothing. It's about giving access to different things, clothes, activities etc. It's about seeing dad tidy up and mum mow the lawn. It's books about women in science and men showing their feelings.

Yes, I'm aware of that, (not sure why you would think I'm not) but this thread is about clothing, so I responded to your assertion that a child should not wear non-gender conforming clothes until they are old enough to choose that themselves. Watching me mend the fence won't have much of an impact on what my son chooses to wear unless I do it in my wedding dress and high heels and by the time he is old enough to understand the differences in expectations for men and women in terms of employment and household duties, his experience of what he wears will already have been formed for some years.

You talk about giving access to non typically gendered things, but why does this not extend to clothes? FWIW, I think that clothing and appearance is a great way to break stereotypes. The idea that someone has to look a certain way in order to be considered a 'proper' boy or girl is harmful and simplistic and an easy way to mark out those who are different before they have even had a chance to absorb society's ideas of what is appropriate behaviour for males and females.

When we live in a world that still considers a child 'asking to be bullied' for having long/short hair, choosing a glittery pencil case instead of one with tractors or having a dinosaur bag instead of something fluffy from Smiggle, I would say that challenging that kind of sterotyping is a great place to start when it comes to changing the status quo.

I really find the people being outraged by the outfit a little ridiculous. I’d understand if the kid didn’t like the clothes or was uncomfortable but as long as they’re happy it’s all good. As a teenager I wore a lot of clothes from the men’s section as oversized shirts were popular and it was cheap to get men’s ones than specific women’s oversized stuff. It really didn’t impact me in the slightest and I’m now probably more “girly” than most.

My brother also happily wore my tights under school trousers and such when he was younger. He only stopped at 8 or 9 when other boys would find it weird which was honestly the unfortunate part as they were comfy and warm for him.

Skinny jeans are quickly going out of fashion at the moment, Raining.

Funnily enough, bell bottoms and flared trousers are making a huge come back so prepare yourself. :o

OP the outfit is fine, it will only ever be a problem if he becomes unhappy with his clothes.

I have a five-year-old son and all I saw were pink t-shirts/polo shirts/shorts/chinos when we were shopping for his summer outfits this year.

It's not 'girlie' (ugh) it's fashionable.

Yeah if he picked a dress i would let him wear it. Why would I not? I know that would get looks but if he didn't give a shit and felt happy in it. I would.

He has a Moana outfit and a princess jasmine dress up dress too. Along with spiderman.

@itsbritneybiatches but what even are boys and girls clothes?

The pics really try hard

Clothes look tacky imo
Not nice

If those things were even actually said

If my mum had of dressed me in what was seen as boys clothes I'd of been a bit "really, are you messing"

If my daughter wants to wear
Boys clothes she can. As in tracksuits etc, but I will look for girly ones.

She's a girl.
There is nothing wrong with this.

"Try hard"?

Jesus...

Ok I get your point.

Women's clothes are cut to flatter the female form. And vice versa..

There is no need for this when they are young.

Kids clothes tend to lean towards pink and all that.

Why is there an issue with dressing girls in pink and boys in blue?

I think it's a completely adorable and totally unisex outfit. It looks comfy and sensible for lots of play too which is surely the main criteria in clothes for small children.

People on here are batshit, our society is SO conditioned in our gender roles and all the pink for girls blue for boys bullshit that find problems in a nice, bright, comfortable outfit on a child they don't know?

100% with you OP, and my only thought if I saw him in that outfit would be 'cute kid and clothes!'

Genuinely

Wear what they or you want

But if I sent my daughter to nursery as a boy on traditional boy dress what am I achieving here?

There's nothing wrong with boys wearing blue and girls wearing pink but there's also nothing wrong with boys in pink and girls in blue

Lol at pic is try hard and tacky

I don't understand what boy dress is? Trousers and a top? What's wrong with girls wearing that??

Traditional boy dress.

Very manly and practical.