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Original poster

To put my son in leggings with kisses on them?

326 replies

changedmyusername6 · 23/09/2018 17:00

The comments today have included:

"Oh X I normally love what you put him in but those make him look so camp" (camp??? I was shocked)

"Are those your DD's?"

"They're so feminine, he looks like a little girl with short hair"

AIBU to think it's ridiculous? He's not in a dress and tights.

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HostaFireAndIce · 23/09/2018 20:49

He has tractors and monsters if that makes you happier?

OP, as I said above, I don't really know what you want us to say. (Well, I think I do, but I'm playing the game)
I don't give a crap what you dress your son in, but those leggings are quite feminine and that's what many people will think if he wears them. You may not care; he may not care, but they are.

rainingcatsanddog · 23/09/2018 20:50

I think the question is where do you live? The pink T-shirt on its own is fine here but paired with the leggings looks like a girl's outfit.

As he's 4, I assume that he's in Reception and unless you're in Islington or something then it is a very feminine choice. While things are strongly gendered at this age, it gets better when they are older. (Assuming that pink and kisses are still his thing)

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changedmyusername6 · 23/09/2018 20:54

No look I get it, I asked for opinions. I'm not wanting anyone to say anything different. I'm glad there are many people who do see where I'm coming from, but also sad so many people view it that I'm dressing him in girls clothes. To me that seems odd. I just know right now if it was my daughter and I was asking about her being in a blue top with a dinosaur on it, not one person would go oh well I don't understand why you haven't put her in a dress... which is why I think it's a bit sad.

My son can pick his own clothes if he wants to. If he picked a dress he could have that, but I wouldn't pick that on his behalf and if I did, that would be a bit odd. However, the pink top is genuinely from the boys section, he has pink shirts and shorts too, so many little boys I know do. Also, leggings are completely normal for boys now. It's just the kiss pattern and DS has NEVER expressed he doesn't want to wear them. He says he likes them because he likes giving mummy kisses!!

I chose his haircut too, which is short... I'm not trying to make it come across that I'm trying to be oh so cool.

I just think it's odd that even if you did feel that way to mention it to someone and call a 4 year old camp looking is extremely bizarre.

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unicorncow · 23/09/2018 20:55

I think they look nice! I wouldn't comment if I saw a boy wearing them and i think it looks fab with the pink t-shirt

HostaFireAndIce · 23/09/2018 20:56

I just think it's odd that even if you did feel that way to mention it to someone and call a 4 year old camp looking is extremely bizarre.

I am totally with you there, OP, and if that is your AIBU, then no, YANBU Wink

happymummy12345 · 23/09/2018 20:57

Sorry but I'd never put a boy in leggings

LaurieMarlow · 23/09/2018 20:59

He says he likes them because he likes giving mummy kisses!

Aw that's so sweet. I have a four year old boy too and they're so adorable at this age.

PrivateDoor · 23/09/2018 21:04

I agree op the camp comment is bizarre! Personally I wouldn't put those on any child as I find the kisses a bit odd. I am surprised though that you are so confused that some find the clothing 'girlie'. You honestly don't see that the outfit looks more like something you would traditionally find in the girls section? I mean I don't care and my kids wear what they want and we don't care which section its from- but I am confused that you genuinely cannot see this.

rainingcatsanddog · 23/09/2018 21:06

People are saying that you can wear what you want but you are unreasonable to be annoyed when people assume that you are trying to make a political statement through your child as he doesn't care either way. You would get more sympathy and apologies if that was an outfit picked by your son. Stereotypes are common by definition so you can't really get annoyed that people applied the pink is for girls stereotype in this instance.

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changedmyusername6 · 23/09/2018 21:09

I'm annoyed they called him camp and even needed to comment on his outfit.

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rainingcatsanddog · 23/09/2018 21:09

Sorry but I'd never put a boy in leggings

It's not quite skinny jeans weather and sometimes you need them to wear clothes that are easy to take off. Belts are too much of a faff for s 4 year old.

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changedmyusername6 · 23/09/2018 21:10

Hand on my heart, I genuinely don't see it more for a girl than a boy

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Weedinosaurus · 23/09/2018 21:11

I can’t believe some of the ridiculous comments and attitudes in here.
That outfit is great. I’d dress my boy in it...I know lots of people who would. My days is always in leggings and tbh, I’ve never had anyone comment and would be shocked if anyone did. How the heck is OP doing it for attention??? Weird world of mumsnet!

ProfessorMoody · 23/09/2018 21:11

"Sorry but I'd never put a boy in leggings"

Why? Would they make his penis drop off?

rainingcatsanddog · 23/09/2018 21:11

I'm annoyed they called him camp and even needed to comment on his outfit.

The leggings are a very bold print. If I walked past him today, my eyes would be drawn to them immediately.

MaisyPops · 23/09/2018 21:13

PrivateDoor rainingcatsanddog
I agree.

Courtney555 · 23/09/2018 21:13

Anyone can wear anything they want blah blah, but to have combined a pink t shirt, with leggings, that have pink lipstick kisses all over them, it almost seems like you've dressed him up deliberately. Well, as you say it's your choice, so you chose all that.

Really, no one cares what your child is wearing as long as it's not offensive, but it seems like you've gone out of your way to get attention via your child.

It just reaks of deliberacy and wanting to get responses, just to play the "how dare people judge" card.

Also, I think make up/lipstick kisses are quite inherently seen as "sexy" and I wouldn't be putting leggings plastered in them on any 4yr old. That's down to personal preference I guess.

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changedmyusername6 · 23/09/2018 21:15

Bold print? Are you sure you're looking at the correct ones?

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 23/09/2018 21:17

Of course they’re a bold print! What would you say they were?

YeTalkShiteHen · 23/09/2018 21:17

ProfessorMoody Grin

rainingcatsanddog · 23/09/2018 21:17

They are bold as in unusual, eye catching. It's not the standard polka dot, flower etc that I see every day.

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changedmyusername6 · 23/09/2018 21:18

They're dark green with some very pale pink lips... I don't class that as bold. I'd say there one of his most "softest" patterns.

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rainingcatsanddog · 23/09/2018 21:18

I have seen children wearing Rolling Stone motif T-shirta but on leggings it's unusual

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 23/09/2018 21:19

I think it’s because the lipstick prints are so pale that they stand out so much.

itsbritneybiatches · 23/09/2018 21:22

Going against the grain here but my daughter wears girly stuff. My boy of 20 wears boy stuff.

My post will be deleted but this had all gone too far

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