To put my son in leggings with kisses on them?

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The comments today have included:

"Oh X I normally love what you put him in but those make him look so camp" (camp??? I was shocked)

"Are those your DD's?"

"They're so feminine, he looks like a little girl with short hair"

AIBU to think it's ridiculous? He's not in a dress and tights.

I think that 4 year olds would say something like
"My (opposite sex to you sibling) has that top" which could piss off or annoy a child because they are proud to be their sex.

Assuming that OP's son is in a primary school, a "wrong" outfit can be brought up in y6 (age 10) My son went to a primary school
and I know that a boy had stick in y6 for wearing the "wrong" footie top in y3. Dresses for boys are only socially acceptable for special reasons like school play, dressing up as Gangsta Granny or Roman

The rules for girls are different because feminists fought for a change in attitudes. In a school setting, a girl wearing a footie shirt for mufti day may get a comment but it wouldn't be as much as a boy dressed as a Disney Princess as the patriarchy sees girls aspiring to be more "male" as a good thing.

They are girly, your choice. Mine prefer fleecy trackies in this weather

around the house - fine. to school? YABU

Attention seeking at it's best.SMH

I've worked with 4 year olds and have never come across "ripping the piss".
He won't always be 4 though will he and neither will his peers?

Do you think he'll thank you in years to come when he is known as the boy who came to nursery in girls' clothes!

Would his father wear them? I doubt it. Take that as your lead (and this is nothing to do with the pink, my ds16 has always worn pink as it looks great with his fair colouring)

All these parents who are being so right on with what their kids wear, stop using them to make your point, and use your own clothes to make a point, don’t get your kid singled out

Would his father wear them? Does that mean you dress like your daughter?!

Would his father wear them?

I'd be fairly confident his father wouldnt wear pirate t-shirts and dinosaur hoodies either. So that's not exactly a helpful clarification question.

I wish!! She’s way more stylish than
I could hope to be!

Those leggings look pretty unisex to me. Theyre regulation sludge green for a start
Surely on kids' clothes the lips are supposed to indicate innocent kisses? The type that a mother would bestow on sons or daughters? I have girls but their boy classmates wear leggings sometimes and my eldest is in year 3. Ribbed ones, kind of like thermals. I wouldn't call them a controversial choice.

Leggings are awful, whomever is wearing them. Please OP get something else for him to wear.

Oh FFS. Stop trying to police what other kids wear. I wouldn't have chosen the leggings fwiw but I don't think it's worth berating the OP's parenting over. She wasn't trying to make any sort of point. She just has different taste to you.

I wish!! She’s way more stylish than
I could hope to be! Oh god, someone call the fashion 👮‍♀️. For you to think leggings are a controversial statement makes me think you wouldn’t understand stylish if it whacked you in the face with a September issue of Vogue!

Leggings are awful, whomever is wearing them.

Whatever you may think of them from a gender or fashion POV, they are a comfy and practical choice for small children. What's your problem with them?

The point most people are making is that it's a bit disingenuous for a parent to decide to dress their child in line with the opposite gender stereotype and then claim they're totally unaware that it could possibly be gendered at all.

This

I have nothing against leggings for boys and have nothing against pink for boys But all the wide eyed mock shock that anyone could think it was a girl's outfit is just silly since its clearly a fairly stereotypically girly outfit and it smacks of making a point.

Uhh, now I’ve seen the pic, it looks quite unisex to me, not camp, more funky. The pocket at the front of the tshirt and the fit of it makes it look masculine, it’s deffo a ‘boys’ tshirt. Looks like an outfit you’d see put together in a catalogue.
I’m not particularly fond of people dressing their ds’s in tutus then moaning when people comment, but this doesn’t feel like that. Like I said, I think it looks quite trendy

Although can see why people would think it was girly, or he was a girl with short hair. Loads of girls have short hair, so meh....

@batshite1

You’ve got me SO wrong. There’s nothing wrong with boys wearing leggings-I can’t remember but I think I put leggings on my son when he was wee, but certainly not ones with pink lipstick kisses, so you can take your rolled up September Vogue and stick it wherever you like

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Leggings are fine. Lipstick kiss motifs are a bit shit. Boy or girl.
But I wouldn't say that to your face, op.

hose leggings look pretty unisex to me

lipstick prints are unisex? Of course they are

I was initially thinking I didn't like the sound of his outfit but I think he looks quite cute. Probably not an outfit I'd put my DS in though.

I'm amazed he's not interested in what he wears?? DD is 3 and she's been adamant about her clothing for a long long time. Since before she was 2. I wish I could dress her in what I wanted!

Well to me lipstick prints are either very grown up and unsuitable for any children's clothing, or unisex, because they're not supposed to denote anything other than a mother's kisses or something. But frankly it's a level of analysis beyond that which I'm prepared to put in order to judge the OP"s parenting. I honestly couldn't really give a shit what a 4yo wears and am surprised anyone else can.

Like this clearly unisex if a bit naff vest:

Oh for pity's sake. They're clothes, it shouldn't matter. Some boys like pink. Tell those boys that only girls like pink and what message will they derive about themselves? I was once told by a little girl that she was actually a boy because she hated pink and didn't want to wear a dress. We need to stop putting so much emphasis on clothing.