To put my son in leggings with kisses on them?

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The comments today have included:

"Oh X I normally love what you put him in but those make him look so camp" (camp??? I was shocked)

"Are those your DD's?"

"They're so feminine, he looks like a little girl with short hair"

AIBU to think it's ridiculous? He's not in a dress and tights.

I think those leggings are a bit creepy looking, sorry OP. I don't like lipstick kisses on kids' clothes, they seem quite an adult style. But I like leggings on boys. Lots of high end brands make unisex leggings now, I love Mingo leggings. They don't have a 'girls/boys' section or twee bows and frills like the highstreet. Leggings on boys are practical and comfortable. They can't run and climb properly in thick jeans, even the stretchy ones bunch up.

Tracksuit bottoms are the most practical and totally unisex. But of course if you are a twee Islingtonian whose fave meal is tofu with a side of kale as you peruse the New Statesman, followed by a coconut milk latte, then leggings with sexualised lipstick kisses are just the thing for a 4 year old boy. Or ‘Mingo’ Leggings at £25 a pop.

@larrygrylls Why are jogging bottoms more practical than leggings? For my children leggings fit better. I wouldn't choose the kiss pattern personally but don't know what's wrong with leggings? My son went to nursery today in plain grey leggings, they came in a pack with blue leggings so assume they were from the boys section?

People are idiots.. that is all. I had the same when I put my 22month old boys hair in a bobble (it's long as hes autistic and getting it cut is an actual trauma for both of us) . Everyone commented on how feminine he looked... like a girl with short hair. One even said hes too pretty to be a boy. I utterly loathe shit like this . Leggings are cool. Anyone who says otherwise is seriously over invested in something that has nothing to do with them . I find a evil stare and a few choice words gets rid of the idiots fast enough

I’ll just bet you do

My son can't fit in jeans or regular "Boys pants" so I often dress him in leggings as they are the most comfortable thing for him to wear. Honestly scratching my head at some of the ridiculous statements on here. Fully grown men wear skinny jeans. Surely that's no worse than a kid in leggings ?

Tracksuit bottoms are the most practical and totally unisex. But of course if you are a twee Islingtonian whose fave meal is tofu with a side of kale as you peruse the New Statesman, followed by a coconut milk latte, then leggings with sexualised lipstick kisses are just the thing for a 4 year old boy. Or ‘Mingo’ Leggings at £25 a pop. If we can judge & stereotype those kids who wear leggings, can we do the same for those who wear joggers?

No kids being judged or stereotyped, just adults.

So we can judge adults who dress their kids in tracksuits?

DS1 wants to wear this to preschool tmw but Im worried others will question his masculinity as it involves a skirt 🤣🤣

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Ahh he looks cute OP! I don’t see the problem at all

@Clandestino please point out exactly where in my post that I said that I would be mocking a child? Obviously you won't find it, apology accepted.

YABU

Just .. why? . Are you trying to make a statement or something OP? Why use your kid to do that?

I don’t think dressing a boy in leggings is “making a statement” at all.

I personally don't like the print for a boy or a girl. Lipstick prints are a particularly "sexy" sort of image aren't they? I wouldn't call it "kisses" but lipstick prints. Kisses would be Xs surely.

You are setting your kid up to have the piss ripped ,so you can be all right-on.

But it is IS making a statement. Had the ops young son be wearing a pair of jeans and T shirt I don't imagine she'd have felt the need to post it on a public forum. Jeans and t shirt are fairly neutral clothes worn by either sex. This is pure attention seeking

Lipstick kiss mark designs are generally more seen on older girls/women’s clothes as is the colour pink. So some people are going to think he is wearing clothes from the girls section.
I personally wouldn’t put those leggings on my son as I think he’d get annoyed with the constant comments.

How bizarre, Fruit. Who on earth do you think is going to be "ripping the piss" out of a 4 year old?

I think his outfit really suits him tbh but I know people can be a bit when they see a boy in feminine clothes

Has anyone ever seen a 4 year old bullied by other 4 year olds over what clothes they wear?

Or do 4 year olds not give a shit what other 4 year olds wear, and this whole 'they'll get the piss ripped out of them' thing is purely a busybod adult thing as they are the ones who have an opinion on other kids clothes and can't help but voice it.

Genuinely interested to hear from people who work with this age group. ..

4yos are definitely old enough to have absorbed what stuff is ‘for girls’ and what isn’t. They will likely associate make up and lipstick as being for girls so I could certainly see things being said. I was more thinking about the comments the op has been receiving from other adults though. I wouldn’t really want my ds hearing them and, rightly or wrongly, dressing your children any way outside of the norm is going to attract attention. And in this case not positive attention. Why bother if it’s not even something the child particularly wants to wear?

I've worked with 4 year olds and have never come across "ripping the piss". Arguments are usually about sharing or taking turns at that age. Boys are more than happy to dress up in princess dresses. They might have picked up some "blue is for boys" type attitudes, but certainly not to a "bullying" extent.