To be nice to my neighbour’s face but secretly hate her?

[GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat]

She really irritates me and today has been the straw that broke the camel’s back!

This morning when we left for school I noticed a note on her door, couldn’t quite read it all but saw ‘blah blah blah number 8 [our house]’ so I sent dd over to read it.

It says ‘please leave all deliveries at number 8’. She hasn’t asked me! I work from home and I really hate being disturbed by the door all day but I have to answer it in case it’s actually for me. I felt sorry for our lovely postman, it’s not his fault so I took it in. But I ignored two more this afternoon that I happened to see go to her door first. I know this will get worse leading up to Christmas.

She’s now been home for a good two hours and still not come and collected her shite. I cannot take it round.

It annoys me more because a few weeks ago we asked her to move her crap from our shared alleyway and it’s still there.

I’m gutless and a bit PA though. I won’t say anything to her face because I’m a bit gutless. She’s a bit gobby and rough, I’d rather stay on the right side of her and just do the bear minimum in neighbourly contact.

It’s a redelivery sticker over the top. So basically they weren’t in the first time, they’ve gone online to book a redelivery and changed the address to ours, so a second label has been added.

And that bothers you why barbarian ?

I actually can't believe someone would do that! Not at this address in big black writing and return to sender?

Go round to her house and tell her you won't be accepting any of her parcels, anything that is delivered to your address will be returned/given back to the postman with a not known at this address stamp.

Oh hell no. Refuse delivery with 'NOT KNOWN AT THIS ADDRESS'. In fact put up a sign saying ' do not live here and we will not accept deliveries for them; please do not attempt to make deliveries for them here as refusal may offend'.

Look out for plain boxes and def open them!!
Hopefully be a rather you hadn't seen it item!!
You need a note saying you won't accept parcels not addressed to you.

Leave it outside your door with a not known at this address or return to sender as advised above. Your not her bloody PA or personal post office.

Because they're not terribly nice characteristics? And very unproductive ones in this context. If you were less nice to her face or told her you didnt want to take in parcels then you wouldn't need to be on here complaining.

Yes, I’m the horrible one

Just leaving a note on her door without asking you first is not really on . In the rare event im home and a delivery man rings with a parcel for another I always take it but it's a relatively rare event , not always fhe same ' offender ' and probably just the delivery mans idea . Just go round and say no more parcels except perhaps if you're feeling really charitable and asked upfront . Many delivery companies do indeed deliver to a shop / post office / on the day or time of your choice ( usually for a cost ) - cheeky mare

I would take no parcels then go to PO and pick up yours every couple of days (assuming you ahve a car and it's not 50 miles away) and just leave hers telling the PO they are wrongly addressed.
Or use a different delivery service for your stuff.

It’s not convenient to collect my own parcels from the post office. I work full time too.

Just deny you have any parcels for her when she comes for them. They will soon stop then!
Return to sender on anything you have got.

Omg, what a CF!! I'd 100% open it, or tell her you've only had deliveries for your address, nothing for hers! I'd be fuming!!

You really do need to tell them to stop.

Being afraid of confrontation myself, I might contact the delivery company and tell them to come back and pick up the package they delivered by mistake. It will likely send the package into limbo.

So don't take parcels for her anymore. There's no need for drama or PA. Door goes, 'Parcel' 'Is it for (state your name)?' 'No.' 'Then I don't accept it. I don't take parcels for others. Bye' and you close the door. Or you put a note up on your door, 'NOT accepting packages for other addresses or names besides X' The end.

Change the number on the note to 18 or 28, or 80.

I like this idea, pick a number that's waaay down the street.

OK, I wouldn't really do that, but just put up a note saying "No deliveries for No. 6, please." She's only taking advantage because she thinks you won't say anything.

Expensive solution but a ring doorbell might help. You can speak to the delivery driver from your phone wherever you are and only answer the door if you actually need too.

You need to speak to her and tell her to stop as she won’t otherwise.

Change the 8 to whatever her number is!

Have you tried telling her you won't take her parcels? if not, why not??

Have you really not done anything since September when you started the thread, OP?

You had loads of advice then and there isn't much point in people posting again to say the same things if you aren't going to take any notice.

Just go round now and tell them to stop it and that you won't be taking any more in.

It's not hard

I am sometimes guilty of doing this if I’m out and expecting a important parcel. I have taken loads for my neighbour though and we kind of laugh about it when collecting stuff from each other’s houses. It’s is annoying though when you have to run to the door only to find it’s something for the neighbour.

Last week the courier let himself into my garden and left my parcels there (whole different thread).

Maybe suggest she asks the courier to leave her parcels in a safe space instead or that she stays in and waits for them herself.

Have you spoken to her about it?