To hope people won’t notice I’m by myself

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There’s a show doing a national tour at the moment and I really want to see it when it comes to my city. Unfortunately I don’t know anybody else in the world who likes it even remotely.
Never been to the theatre by myself but seriously considering it this time. Aibu to think the other people wouldn’t notice or wonder why I’m alone? Or would I look like a complete sad case?
It’s so far out of my comfort zone to do something like this (which I know makes me sound pathetic!) but I’m desperate to see the show. Already feeling anxious about it and I haven’t even got a ticket yet lol.

Not RTFT as trying to sort the coffee pot out but just wanted to chime in to say definitely go.

I have a friend who routinely went everywhere alone, including theme parks. He loved it and would always come with us if we invited him along when we were going.

I've enjoyed London sightseeing alone once when I needed to go down for 24 hours to sort some things out legally and enjoyed the freedom. Nobody cares when you're alone at restaurants, theatres etc. Most will just assume you're there on business and looking to pass the time. Well that's what everyone assumed when I was alone.

Most people are too self-absorbed to notice if other people are alone at the theatre.

Last time I went though I noticed lots of people around us there solo, but the show was sold out so I think some were groups split up. Either way no one seemed to care.

I go by myself a few times a year. I love it!

I've been to shows and concerts on my own many times. I suppose it's slightly less enjoyable not having someone to enjoy it with, but often there are other people there on their own too. Go and enjoy!

When I lived in London I would go to west end theatres on my own if there was something I wanted to see. I didn't do it often, but why would I miss out in case someone looked at me and thought 'that poor soul is on her own'.

I actually never thought about what people would think and wouldn't have cared about it if I had.

I also go to the cinema on my own. When I go to the cinema I'm going to see a film not interact with someone and have a conversation.

It's a pity that the people who sit in cinemas and talk, or use their phones or generally make other types of noise don't look at it like that as well, we'd all probably enjoy the film a lot more.

I go to things on my own a lot - DH and I both work shifts and can't always get the time off to go together, and quite often it's not something he'd be interested in so it would be a waste of money to take him along just because I don't want to be alone.

Been to loads of things on my own, noone will notice and if so it's their problem. I got fed up of missing stuff cos i couldnt get anyone to go and though fuck it, i'll go anyway.

Do it!
I go to the ballet alone every so often as OH sleeps through it and I only have one other friend who likes ballet.
In a city but not London. I don't specifically watch for people but I'm sure I'm never the only singleton!
Some theatres will bring your interval drinks straight to your seat for you if you order in advance - I always do that when I'm alone as it makes me feel decadent

Do it, lots of people do. I’m off to a festival in 2 weeks time on my own for 3 days, I’m slightly nervous but excited, a few years ago there’s no way I would have done it but now I think “life’s to short, go enjoy yourself”.

Go! Never have I paid attention to other audience members. Been to concerts, cinema, restaurants on my own, even in foreign countries where I don't speak the language. Everyone else is absorbed in their own life to take notice.

Go alone and do it with attitude and a swagger. If you carry a notebook and pen, people will think that you're an arts reviewer!

Go . Take a book if you need something to do while waiting. Done it lots of times and it’s fine

If you think about it when you go anywhere, sometimes only one, or a few of you go to the bar. Likewise the toilet. You can't always get seats together etc. So no-one will know that you are alone.

I missed out on seeing someone in Concert because I knew no-one else who liked them. The year that I persuaded my friend to come, he died on tour two weeks before he was due in our City.

I started going to the Theatre alone, two years ago. I didn't draw attention from anyone, except the bar staff, who served me quicker (perhaps out of pity ). The people sat next to me were part of a larger group, who couldn't get seats together.

I was in the cinema with my DD and a few people came in alone, again they didn't get any attention.

Last time I went the Theatre I had the whole weekend away and it was brilliant, doing what I wanted, when I wanted.

Oh please go. I go alone to stuff all the time as DH isn't into things I am and also it saves on getting a sitter. I often go to cinema alone to see my favourite blockbusters. I've been to the west end alone and I've got a ticket to see Brian Cox next year alone. Getting a solo seat often means you get great seats as most people go in pairs or more. I don't know why more people don't do it tbh - a whole night to myself, no sharing of the sweets!

Theatre and cinema are two of the most comfortable places to go alone I find. I went a lot when DH died, it was one of the things that made me feel less alone. I got talking to a lady in the theatre bar in a similar situation and she said I can have a good cry without feeling maungy, or think folks are staring. Very true. I would hate to miss something just cos I was alone. Life is too short. Enjoy your evening!

Do it. No one cares.

If anyone has ever noticed I'm alone (normally an elderly lady!) they're always friendly

I go to all sorts of things like this on my own. I actually prefer it a lot of the time because you haven't dragged someone along who isn't enjoying it as much so you feel like you can go at your own pace.

Do it! The theatre is the type of place that you can definitely go by yourself because it's more cultural than social. Then you can look at other couples and note the halves that have fallen asleep whilst their partners give them annoyed looks and be glad you're alone!

I often go to films or the theatre on my own. It is as enjoyable as going with companions, just different. Take something to read during the interval if you feel self conscious. I doubt anyone will notice. Enjoy the performance!

Is it Jordan Peterson?
I’m going alone

The OP says it's Benidorm, Small.

Unless you're sat in a separate seat in front of the stage facing the audience, nobody will notice or care!

ive been to a few shows with seating on the stage recently and the only person that was noticed was someone who had fallen asleep on the sofa. He was so still we all thought he was ill, even the cast seemed to be getting worried

Oh definitely go OP.

I have started going to bars during the day (occasionally let me stress!) for a glass of wine if I have an extra half an hour before my train is due. It’s sonething I’d have occasionally done with girlfriends or my sister if we had spent an afternoon shopping but I stopped when they moved away as I felt self conscious. I decided recently to say sod that and go by myself. I’m self conscious walking in but as soon as I sit down and take out my phone, I enjoy the half an hour sipping a drink and it’s prefersble to waiting on a platform. What’s rare is wonderful!

OP in the nicest possible way no one would give a rats behind. It’s almost the perfect thing to go to as you can’t talk to companions anyway. In the interval just go and try and have a wee.... the queue for the ladies toilet will be so long you won’t worry about talking with anyone. You’ll probably score a good seat as well since they often have random single seats available