Mother and baby parking

[crispysausagerolls]

Went to the supermarket today with my baby and really could’ve used the mother and baby space to get my car seat in and out etc (especially hard as I have a 2 door car). Just as I arrived a woman without a baby pulled into the mother and baby spot, without a baby. My mother asked her what she was doing and she said she was waiting for a child. 2 mins later a middle aged woman came out of the supermarket and got into the car and she started to drive off. So she had lied. I said thanks to her in a sarcastic way as i was struggling to get my baby out in a tight space (very passive aggressive of me I know but DS hates the car and had been screaming and I was so irritated by not having the space) and she started spouting off about being heavily pregnant and blah blah blah. Which was all completely irrevelant (if even true) because she didn’t get out of the bloody car anyway!

AIBU to think the mother and baby space isn’t somewhere to just wait for a mate to come and join you in the car? People genuinely need the extra space provided by them!

People should be able to question why someone is parked in a P&C. Ok let’s assume that’s ok.

People should also be able to question people with blue badges parked in disabled bays or sat in priority seats.

Can you see how this courtesy thing is a bit one sided?

"It must be awful to live with a hidden disability or have a child with one."

No having my child is not awful.

It’s irrelevant in my opinion if something is illegal or not. It’s technically not illegal to walk past a drowning child if you don’t owe them a duty of care, are we saying that’s ok? There’s a difference between something being illegal and something being a shitty thing to do

It’s also pretty shitty to question people about their disabilities and needs, particularly in public or on a crowded bus for example!

Claw001

I think people should be able to question nearly anything that looks out of kilter with the way things should be to live harmoniously in this world. I question people that don’t pick up after their dog, and I would say something if a pregnant woman was standing on the tube and no one was getting up for her, or teenagers were playing loud music on a bus and pissing everyone off. The fact that people don’t question people anymore is why the world is full of arseholes who do these things.

It’s the shit you have to deal with from others that is the awful bit. The people that think they have a right to know all about your child even though it’s nothing to do with them and things like that!

@EwItsAHooman

If he worked for the NHS doing that job he would be getting paid for it 😂 do would save them nothing. Didn't say he diagnosed them.

spikeyball

Jesus Christ it’s perfectly obvious that’s not what I meant! Fml some people just love to twist shit to make it seem offensive.

My child is also not there to educate you or in anyway meet your needs.

The arseholes are the ones who think they have a right to question if someone is disabled!

@Spikeyball

Ffs did I say always? But when you work fulltime with people with that specific disability for 12 years you start to become aware of the signs.

Sirzy and Claw - have you never had a situation where one of the disabled spaces you needed to use was being utilised by someone who didn’t need it?

It may well have been, however it isn’t my place to question that.

And even then you can not compare disabled spaces and p and c. The two are simply not comparable in anyway

I think everyone is missing the OP point, once again, and it seems intentional. She at no point said she would question someone with a disability or a bb, but the woman who parked in a space that clearly had no need for it and was just being a cf as she didn't even intend to get out the car, should have a bit more bloody courtesy. Let's see how she reacts when she gives birth and is the one struggling.

Timeisslippingaway

Thank you! I’m also not in any way comparing disability with having a child or the p and c space but the PRINCIPLE of utilising something you do not need which is there for the benefit of someone else. I am sure there must be deliberate misconstruence of my meaning.

@Sirzy

Or perhaps it's just a case of irl you won't question anything you see as being wrong but on an anonymous online forum you get ripped in?

She doesn’t know if the woman needed it. She certainly didn’t know when she started questioning. So the fact she would say anything says yes she would question someone with a disability!

For goodness sake she was next to two disabled parking spaces can we use logic for a moment and reason that MOST disabled people will have a blue badge and park there instead. It’s so ridiculous to just never question anything lest we give offence when on the balance of probabilities someone is being a twat.

No most disabled people don’t have a blue badge and her again that simply shows your ignorance and unwillingness to listen and it has been said many times on this thread how hard it is to get a blue badge, people have given many examples but you seem unwilling to listen which is ironic considering your recent post on how disabled people should be helping educate ignorant people like you!

@crispysausagerolls

There always is on MN.

^see

Sirzy

I am not just going to blindly believe something that logically makes no sense. Eg that MOST people with disabilities are not entitled to a blue badge. I will do some research into it now but I just can’t blindly accept that that’s the case because you say so, no.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/blue-badge-scheme-extended-hidden-disabilities-mental-health-explained-a8469511.html%3famp

But this is very good news for people with hidden disabilities!

I think people should be able to question nearly anything that looks out of kilter with the way things should be to live harmoniously in this world

What does out of kilter look like? I think that’s the whole point. Many disabilities are not obvious.

I’m not suggesting you don’t ask someone to turn their music down, or ask someone to pick up their dog shit etc, etc. I’m suggesting you shouldn’t question someone about a disability!

You wouldn’t ask someone who hadn’t picked up their shit about disabilities. Why is ok to question someone using a disability facility?

11 million in uk with disabilities. 2.8 million with blue badges.