To have told a woman with her kids to mind her own business

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Travelling on a train, sat at a table of four seats. Opposite me was a woman with one of her kids and her other one was next to me. Once next to her was a toddler and the one next to me probably about 6/7.

I was happily sitting there watching a box set on the ipad with head phones in. US drama with bits of violence (guns, shooting, fights etc) and a bit of sex (Homeland for those who know it).

She asked me if I could turn it off as it was unsuitable for her son sitting next to me to watch it. I think he'd been watching the screen and made some comment to his mother from what I could gather when I took my headphones out.

Told her not a chance as it was not my problem.

Then, about 20 minutes left to go, was killing time playing candy crush - again with head phones on.

This time she asked me not to as her kids wanted to play it and she didn't allow it and it would upset them.

At that point I politely suggested she pay more attention to what her kids were doing and less to what I was doing and I'd do what I wanted.

She seemed to think I should modify my behaviour because of her parenting choices.

I went on a weekend with friends once and one of the mothers demanded that her sister give her child the lollies she was eating because her son decided he wanted them. I couldn’t believe it. This is similar, her parenting choices are just that - her choices. But it is very bad form to expect her choices should impact others, nor should you be expected to modify your behaviour because she decided to give birth. You were watching homeland, not porn. And both the mother and her progeny should learn some manners.

In her place I would have said nothing, put the toddler on my lap & the other child next to me, then played with/talked to them.

Yogagirl123 suggests mum wanted OP to move. I think that's probably true. In mum's shoes I would have been wishing OP would move. It's much easier for an adult, even a bratty one, travelling on his/her/their own to move than for a woman travelling with two young kids. If you're all in reserved seats, there is much more chance that the solo adult can find a similar seat next to adults.

Maybe she hoped that her complaints would drive OP to move elsewhere.

That's quite a big screen relative to the space on and around those tables. People sitting behind and across the aisle could have probably watched it too.

Definitely wish there were adult only carriages on trains! No more finding some randoms in my reserved window table seat expecting me to move because but I've got children!, fucking Peppa Pig blasting with no headphones, people speaking in those annoying baby voices to their offspring, toddlers and young kids encroaching in your seat. Ah, the life of one with adult and teen children. Bliss! Bring on the adults only carriage, please! Adult only sections of airplanes or even entire flights would be excellent, too.

Don't have kids if you don't want them to be out in the real world.

I don't see why I should have to change my behaviour just because someone has decided to bring the product of their sex life out with them.

In her place I would have said nothing, put the toddler on my lap & the other child next to me, then played with/talked to them.

Well that is very considerate of you to help OP enjoy her film without having to consider other passengers but, seriously, why would you? Why would you go out of your way to sit all crammed up like that just so the OP could stretch out over 2 seats to view her film in peace. It is fine to do that to enable another passenger to sit down, but to view a film? Not so much!

I'm a bit shocked at some of the posters on here saying that if the child didn't like sex scenes the mother should have moved them. Would you say the same for a man watching porn on his laptop next to a six year old?

Don't have kids if you don't want them to be out in the real world.

I don't see why I should have to change my behaviour just because someone has decided to bring the product of their sex life out with them

Aw, is it nice being a special kind of stupid?

OP Hasn’t disappeared just went out for a while.

The iPad was propped up like a laptop screen not laying flat.

To be honest, I didn’t care who was next to me until the mother was getting my attention. I was engrossed in watching “TV” whilst crocheting. It was a six hour journey for me so I was in for the long haul.

I suspect the candy crush was to wind me up even further after I refused to stop watching.

Was season 1 and I have seen it before so not only just watching it now. Because I’ve seen it before, figured was ideal for a couple of long journeys as I could pick it up as and when.

Are you not also the product of someone's sex life, Thelcon?

Definitely wish there were adult only carriages on trains!

Call me a prude but I don't want adult carriages to be places people can watch sex and violence on their iPads.

And I probably wouldn’t notice what someone next to me was watching even if it was porn hub live as I’d be too engrossed in what I was doing to care.

So long as they didn’t start wanking or heavy breathing I probably wouldn’t even notice.

I don't see why I should have to change my behaviour just because someone has decided to bring the product of their sex life out with them

but I've got children!, fucking Peppa Pig blasting with no headphones, people speaking in those annoying baby voices to their offspring, toddlers and young kids encroaching in your seat

Whereas you lot sound just lovely to be around...

God, sit me next to a child any day, rather than anyone like this! ^

Homeland is not porn. Homeland is not porn. Homeland is not porn.

YANBU a child that age should know their manners and their parent needs to make sure they mind their buisness and those who think OP was unreasonable need to stop being so bloody precious. I would be mortified if one of my kids were staring at someone else's screen and pull them up on it asap!

And I probably wouldn’t notice what someone next to me was watching even if it was porn hub live as I’d be too engrossed in what I was doing to care

Whoopee for you (you would notice live sex I'm sure) - others probably would don't be such an inconsiderate twunt

Ok LeftRightCentre what about the Emanuel series is that ok to watch on a train? Not porn, but has erotic scenes in much like Homeland

GunpowderGelatine and on the airplanes as well. I just remember a woman was "moving" the dick of her boyfriend next to me on the airplane. Luckily my child didn't sit next to her.

I would not watch something “unsuitable” with a child sitting next to me. The candy crush thing was daft though.

I don't think anyone is saying that, Left. But rather that porn is unsuitable for the general travelling public in much the same way as Homeland is unsuitable for a 6 year old. And you could use the same argument that the child should not have been looking to apply to an adult passenger and say that she should not be looking if the person next to her wants to enjoy porn on his laptop.

Seriously, you've got kids, you look after them. Why should I have to watch cartoons instead of a programme aimed at adults just because you've decided you and your wild progeny are sitting near me?

OP was sitting minding her own business watching something appropriate for her with her headphones in. I really fail to see how because someone can't control her children, she is being unreasonable.