AIBU to ask that no one kiss my 2 months old babies on the face?

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AIBU to ask that no one kisses my 2 months old babies on the face?

We had a friend visit and he kissed one of my DD on the cheeks and i was furious. Given he is my DH good friend I thought to tell my DH so he could deal with the issue, but he seems comfortable with the kiss.

Am fuming... AIBU to think he should support my no kiss on the face rule going forward for our DDs.?

What about GC? Are we not allowed to kiss them either? Better tell my GC then. They will be most upset 😢

Yeah I also have never snogged my friends husband's but I have given them a hug or a kiss on the cheek. I've never seen this as unusual at all. Same way my dd gives my best friend a hug when she leaves. Sometimes strangers touch my dd for various reasons, like a pat on the head kind of thing usually accompanied by aren't you cute. Never have I thought to get annoyed about it. Better that people are friendly and nice to children than cold and indifferent.

I agree to an extent. I have cold sores often and DP had a cold at the time of her being born so we were more cautious as we didn't even kiss her ourselves. Think I was more bothered when she was a tiny baby and DD2 (5yo) was adamant she had to snog her when she was totally bunged up with snot 🙄 After the baby started licking the floor/dog I relaxed a little...

Ladies might hug my DH briefly. Men are more likely to shake hands. I wouldn’t expect kissing.

Kids can show affection through touch with their parents. I don’t understand why anyone else needs to touch them, particularly not randoms in Tesco.

But can you not see that it's a bit odd to only limit affection to 2 people. What about grandparents, aunties, uncles and cousins are kids allowed to touch them to show affection or should affection towards them only be shown at a distance?

Thing is, they're not just your babies are they? They're your dhs too. You don't get to override him, just because you're the Mum.

It was his friend, and he didn't mind.

Can a childcarer hug your child at nursery if they fall over? What is the cut off?

"Ladies might hug my DH briefly. Men are more likely to shake hands. I wouldn’t expect kissing."

Can I just warn you-never, ever, ever leave England!

This is utterly ridiculous. I think the world has really gone mad. I had NO idea that people were actually bothered about this before mumsnet. Honestly. The point where I then had to ask my best friend whether she was bothered about me kissing her children. She literally laughed and said of course not and that she'd find it more weird it I didn't! I'm glad I have friends like that. I understand not forcing children to kiss, but if we never kiss babies then we will end up producing a generation of anxiety ridden people who don't know how to show affection.

Bigblue you state that it is never appropriate to touch other children. It is parents like you that make me worry about helping other children at play parks or soft play. If a child is visibly upset because they are stuck at the top of a tall climbing frame, am I hec leaving them up there. I am helping them get down. I work in childcare and find it hard seeing a child distressed.

Lastly, op.. never take your children to Spain. You will hate it.

I would find it so odd to see my DH shaking my friends hands. He gives them all a hug and a kiss just as I do with his friends and my friends husbands and partners.

What’s your AIBU then? I mean, you clearly don’t want opinions, so what’s your point?

Blimey even in the corporate world now I've found people (generally supplier/customer) tend to greet each other with a kiss hello and goodbye if not seen each other a while. Italian colleagues even go in for a double kiss!! 😘 😘

I think more awareness needs to be raised around the risk of cold sores and newborns but in general I don't see the harm in friends and family showing your baby affection. The OP wasn't about a random stranger in the street.