AIBU to ask that no one kiss my 2 months old babies on the face?

[Twinmombambi]

AIBU to ask that no one kisses my 2 months old babies on the face?

We had a friend visit and he kissed one of my DD on the cheeks and i was furious. Given he is my DH good friend I thought to tell my DH so he could deal with the issue, but he seems comfortable with the kiss.

Am fuming... AIBU to think he should support my no kiss on the face rule going forward for our DDs.?

I was kind of on board with you until you starting talking about respecting a baby's personal space 🙄
The world has gone mad

But surely you and your partner kiss your baby. You take your baby outside etc. I can understand not on the mouth but the forehead etc are surely low risk. And innunjty works by coming into contact with viruses etc.
But then again I take a lax approach to this compared to some people on here. I don't agree with the constant use of antibacterial sprays etc. My 3 year old loves to kiss her baby brothers forehead and I imagine she is teeming with germs.

Kiss on the face ok. Kiss on the mouth not ok.

Personal space? Whaaaat? The child is likely to grow up with anxiety problems, thinking people don't like him/her. "Why is everyone kissing, hugging, but none for me? Don't they like me?" Personal space indeed!

Deaths from neonatal heroes is incredibly rare
It’s not just about death. Even if my baby doesn’t die, I still don’t want him to be afflicted by an incurable disease that causes unsightly sores on his face. As an adult my exposure is limited because randoms don’t kiss me. I’d like the same basic courtesy to be applied to my DC.

On a related subject, I also have no idea why randoms come up to my DC in the supermarket etc and talk to him and hold his hands. Nobody ever walks up to me in public and grabs my hands, and if they did it would be weird. So I don’t understand why they think it’s ok to do it tI my child!

The child is likely to grow up with anxiety problems
Better than growing up with herpes!

I don't understand why it horrifies you but since it does just make it clear to visitors that you don't want them to kiss your baby on the face. Your baby etc...

Oh and re personal space, you can have too much. My parents did not really kiss me and honestly they should have. It can lead to all sorts of issues. There should be a happy medium.

On a related subject, I also have no idea why randoms come up to my DC in the supermarket etc and talk to him and hold his hands. Nobody ever walks up to me in public and grabs my hands, and if they did it would be weird. So I don’t understand why they think it’s ok to do it tI my child!

About the only time in one’s life a large portion of the population is well disposed towards, tolerant of, indulgent in and genuinely radiates warmth towards is when you’re a baby.

But some peeps would rather their kids miss that stage.

@BlaaBlaaBlaa- I wasn't looking for more team members. I realise how crazy the world is already with folks kissing babies as they please and think it's ok. Surely kissing isn't the only way to show affection.

@ Singlenotsingle better a healthy baby. You are way over board already completely out of context but never mind I understand.

I’d rather mine missed that stage. A filthy looking woman grabbed my baby’s hands last week and I had to rub sterilising gel on him, which he didn’t like one bit.

Assumptions is the mother of deception clearly that is how the world functions.

All folks assuming our DD are kiss deprived when they aren't. As a parent I can kiss my baby on the face they are in my care and would know affection from whom they should. However no other person has the right to go kissing my kid as if they have the right too.. well my opinion yours don't count though.

Bet she was "elderly" too, BigBluBubble! They always are.....

Honestly the world has gone mad

Grandparents not being allowed to visit for 3 months as they would have been on a plane

No kissing babies

Respecting babies personal space.

Honestly!

Oooooh! Our opinions don't count!? Only if we don't agree with you. Why did you bother then? And actually, I don't go kissing random babies.

Personal space? Privacy? For babies? Ffs, the world's even more bonkers than I thought.

So precious.

The OP is mounting an impressive defence...or is she?

If you didn't want to listen to a range of opinions then why post on an internet forum?

Most people don't go around kissing random babies. The person kissing you baby wasn't a stranger in the street.
The concept of a baby's personal space just screams PFB. If this winds you up then you're in for a long , rocky road!

I wouldn’t want to kiss the faces of strange babies. Who would?

I love seeing the joy on other people's faces when they say hello to my baby and he responds. People love babies I don't see this as a bad thing. People also love to touch my dd's very curly hair. I have told her that it's ok to say no to touching but also pointed out that people are just trying to be nice. And that's what people that approach your baby are doing, they are being nice i bet they also say things like aren't they lovely/gorgeous etc. I love to look at babies with their squishy faces.
Oh and I read somewhere that over 70% of people have the herpes virus by adulthood but not everyone shows signs.

YABU. One of the greatest pleasures in life is smooching a baby's chubby little cheeks.

@Aspenfrost yes extremely precious with stars

OP, were your twins in nicu by any chance? Mine were and it left me with severe anxiety. I’d met babies with pretty much every health issue going including herpes and I was terrified of them catching anything - one of them caught whooping cough in nicu just before discharge which made me even worse.

Personally I totally understand not wanting people to kiss your babies!

Yanbu

Im a bit of a crown of the head kisser but i wouldnt kiss anyone but my own babies faces (maybe grandchildren, but if my children had that rule it would obviously be fair enough)