AIBU to ask that no one kiss my 2 months old babies on the face?

[Twinmombambi]

AIBU to ask that no one kisses my 2 months old babies on the face?

We had a friend visit and he kissed one of my DD on the cheeks and i was furious. Given he is my DH good friend I thought to tell my DH so he could deal with the issue, but he seems comfortable with the kiss.

Am fuming... AIBU to think he should support my no kiss on the face rule going forward for our DDs.?

Such laughable previous behaviour. (Google is your friend. Look it up.)

PRECIOUS

Twinmombambi, I wouldn't have liked it either. I also hate when people touch baby's hands.

@BlaaBlaaBlaa not wound up not one bit... people's opinion about me depriving my kids affection don't count. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.

Am ready for the ride bring it on.

Posting on the internet was to confirm how crazy the world thinks... to think it's ok to let everyone you know kiss your babies what a joke... gosh there should be a limit.

Yes, your baby is precious. What's wrong with that?

@Aspenfrost at list am precious extremely at it... you can be left with none and I'd have all of it.

But not everyone you know will want to or choose to kiss your baby. Your babies will be starting to grab things soon and they will put a lot worse in their mouths and you cannot and shouldn't sterilised everything. Do you take them to baby groups? Cause the toys there will be covered in germs, do you wash your hands before you touch them every time? I'm guessing not. It's ok to be hygienic but you also have to be sensible about how much babies will come into contact with bacteria and viruses and how in the long run it is beneficial for them

OP, just issue all visitors with one of these.

A stranger definitely shouldn't touch let alone kiss a baby, they have no idea if the baby has health issues, allergies etc and its just a bit unhygenic.
If its a friend or someone you invite into your home though you will have to make it very clear before they touch baby what your rules are, maybe just don't let people hold or touch them if you feel that strongly. I would kiss friends baby on the cheek or head if I wasn't told not to in advance.
You can get bibs that say I was premature or I have allergies please do not touch me that may be useful?

Oooooh! Our opinions don't count!?
No, your opinions about how OP should raise her child don’t count. She’s entitled to set any rules she wants regarding her own DC. If she says no kissing then there’s no kissing.

One of the greatest pleasures in life is smooching a baby's chubby little cheeks
So it’s about the adult taking pleasure from the act of touching the child, not about what the child wants or what is in the child’s best interests? Personally I find that attitude very disturbing.

Babies are cuddly and tactile for a reason, millions of years of evolution have made it so.

Can I ask just put of curiosity at what age people are allowed to touch and kiss babies?
I had a professor at uni that said the thing that will kill the human race is our obsession with cleanliness and fear of getting sick. I always thought he was a bit extreme but the older I get the more I realise he might have had a point.

You might as well ask at what age people STOP touching and kissing children. You don’t randomly touch a bloke in Asda who you think is cute. Yet people think it’s ok to touch a cute little boy. Where’s the cut off?

Personally I’d say it’s never appropriate to just randomly touch a stranger regardless of their age.

Yeah but the person touching the ops baby wasn't a stranger was he?

Unless someone has an illness that can be passed on or has a cold sore then OP you are being unreasonable.

Yeah but the person touching the ops baby wasn't a stranger was he?
It’s irrelevant. My friend doesn’t touch and kiss my DH so why should she do it to my DC?

"My friend doesn’t touch and kiss my DH so why should she do it to my DC?"

Good lord,never? How very odd.

*Twinmombambi^

@Aspenfrost at list am precious extremely at it... you can be left with none and I'd have all of it. wink

None of the above makes sense.

@BigBlueBubble** valid point.

At least am glad am not the only one who has such thoughts. Very odd people justify why it's ok to kiss babies or kids even if they know the parents so well.

Just weird can't get my head around

Very odd people justify why it's ok to kiss babies or kids even if they know the parents so well

Because it's not odd. It's perfectly fine if they're well in themselves.

I don't think it is odd to kiss friends kids. I kiss my best friends kids as way of saying hello and goodbye. Also kids them good night if they sleep over.
But then I also kiss her DH hello and goodbye so maybe that's just what we do.

Good lord,never? How very odd
I’d find it extremely odd if my friend was touching and kissing my DH. What’s more odd is people whose friends are apparently kissing their DH and they think that’s ok!

So when friends arrive at your house they don't greet your dh with a kiss? When they leave there's no goodbye hug?

So only parents are allowed to kiss or touch babies and kids. So you're kids won't hold hands with one of your friends, or sit on their knee. Kids thrive off of touch, touch plays an important role in emotional development. Kids shouldn't be afraid to show affection through touch.

What @bertrand said.

I'm not snogging my friend's DH behind her back. It's a kiss on the cheek and a hug. Pretty standard amongst my group of friends.