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AIBU to ask that no one kiss my 2 months old babies on the face?

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Twinmombambi · 09/09/2018 17:17

AIBU to ask that no one kisses my 2 months old babies on the face?

We had a friend visit and he kissed one of my DD on the cheeks and i was furious. Given he is my DH good friend I thought to tell my DH so he could deal with the issue, but he seems comfortable with the kiss.

Am fuming... AIBU to think he should support my no kiss on the face rule going forward for our DDs.?

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Twinmombambi · 09/09/2018 18:39

AnnieAnoniMoose
Well, best you don’t ask for any help with your twins then. Wouldn't want anyone invading their ‘personal space’

I do not intend to ask for free care....hence won't invade personal space.

Call me wierd but my DH can hold his views and I'd hold mine. As long as my DDs are under my watch no one would be kissing them on their face. Would be as polite as possible and very precious while at itGrin

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Lotsofsausage · 09/09/2018 18:40

@butchyrestingface that’s very immature - babies can quite literally die from this, it’s more common than you would think.

Shesupanddown · 09/09/2018 18:40

Weird

ButchyRestingFace · 09/09/2018 18:44

@butchyrestingface that’s very immature - babies can quite literally die from this, it’s more common than you would think.

"Die from this" - die from what??

It is other posters who have mentioned herpes. Not OP, who has been rather vague as to why she doesn't want her babies faces kissed.

keyboardkate · 09/09/2018 18:44

Just put the baby in a sterilised tent for the first year. Problem solved.

All this handling boosts a baby's immune system surely? But I suppose all the cleaning around, and protection of babies is good for them. Prove it.

My mother was given her bottle from an empty guinness bottle with a teat pulled over the top. Not much sterilising going on there! I was given bread, butter and sugar fingers by my grandad at 7 months or something, and he never washed his hands even though he bred pigs.

There is a happy medium in there somewhere.

pigsDOfly · 09/09/2018 18:44

It's not necessary to kiss babies faces. My DD has just had a baby - not her first - and I haven't felt the need to kiss his face. I have no idea if I'm carrying any viruses in the incubation phase and would rather not risk passing anything on.

I wash my hands when I get to her house because I know I going to be holding him, however, I don't wash my mouth so why would I then go on to put my unwashed mouth on his face?

Parents kissing their own babies is something else.

heartsease68 · 09/09/2018 18:48

You are being very sensible. Only someone uniformed would think otherwise.

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Twinmombambi · 09/09/2018 18:49

@ButchyRestingFace clearly you have not read my post(s) in detail.

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mama17 · 09/09/2018 18:51

This is ridiculous! What is wrong with that! I understand people don't like people kissing babies on the lips but really don't know what the problem is with on the cheek?

ButchyRestingFace · 09/09/2018 18:52

ButchyRestingFace clearly you have not read my post(s) in detail.

I read them in as much detail as was there. You mention "health" once and do not elaborate. The main concern appears to be "personal space".

Other posters have mentioned herpes.

littlebillie · 09/09/2018 18:53

I agree kissing babies is odd and should be discouraged. I just Howard a very sad story relating to this

LyndorCake · 09/09/2018 18:53

How is parents kissing their own baby something else? Parents are just as likely to have contracted a virus as anyone else. Fair enough don't ask the stranger at the next table to lick your baby's face, but a friend giving baby a quick peck on the cheek or brow is not really any different to the parents doing the same.

keyboardkate · 09/09/2018 18:57

Judging by some of the pet lover posts on here, it would be more acceptable for a dog to lick/kiss the face of a baby than a parent or other human!

The world has gone totally mad lol.

Zigazagazoo · 09/09/2018 18:57

Yanbu. A baby I know, recently had a nasty viral infection and was very poorly from being kissed on the face.

keyboardkate · 09/09/2018 18:59

How do you or any other health professional know this 100% Zig?

Bollocks. sorry......

gingergenius · 09/09/2018 19:02

Babies are not immune from parental viruses. And babies have been kissed on the cheek/head for centuries. Kissing babies is not odd. It's an instinct related to the olfactory system (I think). Understandable not to want people to kiss your baby on the lips but perhaps you and your husband need to discuss further so you're both comfortable?

agnurse · 09/09/2018 19:02

Babies don't have a fully functioning immune system. It is usually okay for people living in the same house to kiss them (barring a cold sore) because the people you live with usually have the same germs. Other people have different germs.

If Hubby and I are able to have more children, I will likely ask his family to wait 2 or 3 months to come see us and not to kiss the baby on the face. This is because Hubby's parents live in the UK and we live in Canada. They will have to travel on a plane (glorified cesspool) and are coming from another country where the germs are different. This is true even in "civilized" countries - many North American indigenous people died from common diseases carried by Europeans during first contact because they didn't have immunity. The common cold was deadly.

I don't think the OP is being unreasonable at all.

Zigazagazoo · 09/09/2018 19:05

keyboard well that’s what the doctors in hospital said it was most likely to be. Can only go by what the experts think.

keyboardkate · 09/09/2018 19:17

Fair enough Zig. Just wondered how they could be so certain!

Amanduh · 09/09/2018 19:18

Yab absolutely batshit ridiculous

Tarriance · 09/09/2018 19:23
Hmm
BigBlueBubble · 09/09/2018 19:24

YANBU it’s gross when people slobber on your DC. They don’t do it to other adults so not sure why they feel the need to do it to DC. As pp have said, they can catch diseases. If the mother has a disease the baby is likely to already have immunity. But it won’t have immunity to diseases carried by random people and can become very ill or even die. Herpes is a particular concern due to the severe effects on babies and the incurable nature of the disease.

Fluffyears · 09/09/2018 19:26

A baby, a few months old, in our town died from strep B, the doctors believed this was passed on from relatives kissing him.

Tillytrotter123 · 09/09/2018 19:30

Yanbu at all. I would never dream of kissing someone else’s baby on the face. There was a baby in the news a few months ago who died from the herpes virus after a kiss. You shouldn’t have to explain yourself, it’s your baby.

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Twinmombambi · 09/09/2018 19:34

@keyboardkate

Judging by some of the pet lover posts on here, it would be more acceptable for a dog to lick/kiss the face of a baby than a parent or other human!

The world has gone totally mad lol.

Quite random... not sure how youconfirmed the pet lovers here..

I am not a pet lover though so not worried about that side of things.

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