To be absolutely fuming

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Just been to a close friends wedding with BF and DD. BF didn't really know anyone so spent quite a bit of time playing with DD on the lawn which he was fine with as DD loves him to bits and they have a great time playing. He asked me why I was being 'off' with him which I didn't think I was. He then, got annoyed, shouted at me in front of everyone and stormed off and went home. I've just got back (an hours drive) and he isn't here, so I'm assuming he's gone out to watch the football with his mates.

Isn't this he most selfish thing in the world? He wedding was of a friend of mine, not his and was completely ruined because I had to spend the afternoon keeping a toddler occupied. I had to leave half way through the speeches as she was exhausted and squealing. This has been a close friendship for 10 years. I'll never get it back.

I'm aware she is my child too, but I rarely get a chance to socialise with my friends so this was supposed to be a relaxing day for me to catch up with some people.

YANBU at all.
Shouting at you like that in front of your friends at a wedding is absolutely unforgivable. He goes out all the time by the sounds of it and you barely go out at all. Incredibly selfish behaviour from him.
I echo the other posters, in that you should put your feet up and watch a film or something. Let him sleep in the spare room the absolute tosser xx

I don't get why you didn't just go on your own and let DD stay at home with your BF. If you wanted take her to show her off but without it interfering with your uninterrupted enjoyment of the wedding and only took your BF to ensure that then yabu.

I'm on your side OP I would have been furious if my DH made scene like this at friends wedding and then took off. There are ways to deal with feeling annoyed. He should have had a quiet work and explained what he was upset about and given you chance to respond. All he was doing was looking after his own child. The OP has made it perfectly clear she did introduce him to people and it sounds like he took off before the meal and speeches so he hardly gave her much chance

What, are you on allowed to swear at people on MN? Is it because it's 'direct' at another poster

Yes, you can swear all you want but personal attacks are not permitted and will be removed.

OP this post is just awful. You posted in AIBU then lost your sh*t because people said you were BU. You tried to say that everyone should agree with you because they are all women, that is not at all how this works I'm afraid.

As soon as people starting taking your side you were pacified. Then you took it upon yourself to verbally abuse those who didn't agree with you. I would not advise you to post further in this topic unless you are prepared to accept that not everyone will be on your side.

Very well put, Pinky.
I have never posted on Aibu because I'll hold my hands I don't like being told never think I am wrong.

I'd agree. If you don't want to risk the possibility people say you're wrong, and can't stand to hear it, then don't ask the question.

This thread has not been unanimous. Some believe the op behaved badly, some the husband, my view is they were both at fault. But whatever your view, attacking posters and losing your shit isn't the way to handle it.

And it is odd. Very few people call their partner and daughters father their boyfriend. Very few people who have been in a relationship for at least four years (based on the kids age) , possibly a lot longer, don't know their partners friends. Very few people phrase a child being looked after by their father as the op did.

It was undoubtedly phrased like this was not the child's father and was indeed as she wrote, a recent boyfriend who didn't know her friends and got left to look after the child whilst she had a relaxing day with her mates. His behaviour would indicate that's exactly what he is.

As that's not the case then there is bigger issues in this relationship than the pair of them arguing about who looked after the child.