15yo son come out as gay

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Apologies for long thread...

DS3 broke up with his girlfriend last week. They had been together for 7 months. I was expecting this to happen as the girlfriend will be moving to another country in November.

DS3 didn't seem that bothered even though the girl told him that she wanted the relationship to be over.

DS3 was at his friend's house this afternoon, and he sent me this (copied and pasted):

Mum, I need to get this off my chest to you . You may have noticed I didnt seem very upset when (girlfriend's name) broke up with me . I'm gay . .

Now my phone was dead when he texted me this. I charged my phone and two hours later I saw the text.

I was worried because he didn't come home and he probably thought I was angry at him.

I told him that it was okay and it didn't matter I loved him etc...

So he came home but went to his room straight away.

I was unsure why but when DH came home from work, he seemed frustrated and started telling me he had a f**t for a son.

He had never really had a problem with LGB people but really?! He's in a mood and he's not talking to me or DS3.

I've got 6 kids and the other 5 don't know, DD3 has noticed some things going on.

I'm so sad DH reacted like this.

Should I get the whole family together tomorrow for a talk (if DS3 is ready to tell his siblings)?

Your son is amazing and you should be so proud of him.

Your dh on the other hand.... hope he shapes up or ships out.

My daughter is gay. If my husband had reacted in the way your husband did, he'd be an ex-husband now. Sexuality isn't a choice. Homophobia has no place in 2018, not that it ever did.

Your husband is a dickhead.

I've spoke to him again today and told his siblings and they didn't really care except from DS2 (In Y7)

How is your second son younger than your third son?? If DS2 is in year 7 then DS3 must still be in primary school no?

When I began I thought DC1 was your youngest, etc. My mistake.

Your husband is a cunt

I think people are being a bit harsh on your husband.

WTAF?! He called his son a faggot!

I don't think homophobia is the biggest issue here. My father is the most bigoted, phobic person I've met. He would constantly sit in front of Emmerdale complaining the gay couples were making him feel ill, moaning about how it wasn't right for 'them kinds' to be on TV.

We hid DD's sexuality from him for fear of what he would say to her. He drove past her one night and spotted her kissing her transboyfriend (who at that time looked very feminine). We were due to go to a family wedding later that week. He invited DD's boyfriend and called every member of his family to tell them if they uttered a word to DD or her boyfriend he would beat them bloody he has debilitating emphysema and can't walk He then bollocked us all for not telling him.

That is how a homophobe who loves their child/grandchild should behave when their child/grandchild comes out.

If he was my DH I'd be seeking legal advice about my impending divorce.

You really can't accept your husband's behaviour! He sounds like a knuckle dragging loser for saying that about his own child.

When I told DH about DS telling me he was gay, he said "Oh wow. Awww bless him. Hope he wasn't nervous. Should we do anything for him or act totally chill? That explains all the Chris Hemsworth posters I guess."

I had some family members who are homophobic/right wing religious and we have absolutely nothing to do with the hateful fuckers. I want ds to know that homophobic attitudes are unacceptable and we have his back.
Your ds needs the same from you.

That is how a homophobe who loves their child/grandchild should behave when their child/grandchild comes out.

He is still an arse though. He was or possibly still is vile about other gay people. He wouldn't be anywhere near my kids if he was my father.