Its funny how she mentioned it the first time they were off alone for a holiday when its not bothered her before?
We don’t know it hasn’t bothered her before. Perhaps it’s always annoyed her. Perhaps it’s a new isssue - there could be all sorts of reasons why.
Setting boundaries before spending a holiday alone sounds sensible to me.
Why cant she just be honest and admit she is homophobic?
You don’t really know that she is - it’s your assumption based on the little the OP has said. But even if she is homophobic, why would she be honest about it? It’s not a socially acceptable thing to admit.
Why is it ops fault she hasnt mentioned it before?
It’s not. I don’t believe anyone, even the friend has said that it is.
Why is she allowed to be snidey to op because she isnt rushing into some random males arms?
She isn’t. I don’t believe that anyone has said that her comments in that regard were ok.
Why does she judge people and jump to conclusions on thier relationship status?
I can’t possibly say, she’s a stranger and the OP has given very little information.
But we all judge people, even you Willow. 