To be very annoyed at husband's drinking at our pre-baby gathering

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I'm 8 months pregnant and yesterday my husband and I had a gathering at a local bar/restaurant with about 30-40 friends and family - a last 'party' before baby comes next month. We usually have joint birthday drinks but didn't do so this year, so I suppose this was kind of in lieu of that. Except it's a pre-baby thing and not a birthday piss-up, and lots of friends brought their young kids.

Anyway, we were apart much of the day as had a mix of friends as we usually do at our joint do's. Little did I know how much booze he was knocking back (shots and the like) until a bit later- when he starts to slur a bit and has his drunk voice on and then totally denies he's drunk 🙄 I suffer from pelvic girdle pain so was dying by the end of the day. Some of my family were staying over and we had to sort things out at home for that, but he wanted to stay out drinking.

He's not an alcoholic or anything but I don't think he's been this drunk since I fell pregnant - AIBU to be this annoyed that he chose to get so wasted at our joint pre-baby party (when clearly I cannot be drinking)? I did notice him buying a few rounds so it's not like he 'had' to drink everything people were buying him.

He finally came back home after me nagging on text for about an hour but then proceeded to argue with me over the takeaway delivery (some was missing) - he was making no sense at all! I also made him sleep on the sofa as the smell of booze makes me 🤢 still feeling a bit annoyed this morning tbh.

That's the problem OP, lighten up a bit, he had a good time so what? No damage done is there. Live and let live.
He's gone nothing wrong at all. Why have one of these parties in the first place? They are grabby and a silly tradition 🙄

Look, yes you are unreasonable but I was also this unreasonable when pregnant. Sometimes when you are pregnant you are unreasonable, and that’s ok. And you expect your husband to behave accordingly because you are shouldering all the heavy lifting and he needs to just do what you want. Or I did at any rate! And I had a few occasions like that in early pregnancy and got very upset and he calmed down because he understood I was hormonal and in need of understanding. So YABU but YANBU at the same time and he should just acquiesce to your demands IMO 🙈😂☺️😘

Why have one of these parties in the first place? They are grabby and a silly tradition 🙄

Irrelevant to the discussion, judgemental and rude.

Yabu my wc went clubbing on boxing day when we had a three day old new born. When he's pullinh stunts like that you've got a reason.

He had a good time op. Let it go.

@crispysausagerolls love this!!! Agree 100% 😂

crispysausagerolls It is hardly irrelevant to the discussion when the OP decided to have at a pub and then get upset that her husband imbibed.

Omg. Not sure what happened there!

@SalemBlackCat you are completely missing the point that crispy is making! Not talking about the pub there (it was only held in a pub to avoid hosting it at home at 8m pregnant).

Well, I'd be drinking if I were him. If you cannot drink, it's tough, but doesn't make it any right to stop your partner from doing so. You said he isn't an alcoholic, so all is good.
Basically, you cannot make him give birth = you cannot expect him not to drink. Simples. Some shit (like various deprivations) is on you to shoulder; it would be a killjoy thing to do to expect other people to go through the same (a bit like "wives" in Handsmaid's Tale pretending to give birth, if you see what I mean)

No, I am not. As I said, your husband could have cooked at your home. It would have saved you at 8 months pregnant, having to go out. When you would have been more comfortable at home. There were many, many MANY other alternatives than have it in a pub. That is the point you have been avoiding.

@SalemBlackCat the discussion is kind of old news now anyway, but I had zero desire to host it at home having hosted about 4 BBQs over the summer of a much smaller scale. This way I could slink off when necessary and it's a very kid/family friendly restaurant which was booked for us from 2-6pm.

What crispy was saying is irrelevant to the discussion (and rude) is the comment that "baby showers" are grabby and a silly tradition - nothing there about pub and drinking 🙄 read back.