To ask how much child maintenance you get?

[Ellen7262]

Just a rough figure. DD's dad contributed £40 a month for the first two months after we split and since then sweet fuck all. I have absolutely no clue how much a father should be paying for his child and no idea even where to start on getting him to pay.

He is NC with her, however his DM makes a big effort with her. If he's on a similar wage now to what he was at the time I was with him then he will be around the £40k mark.

Side note - I am financially comfortable even without payments from him, WIBU to claim if I don't technically need the money?

Child maintenance relies on the devious prick not lying about his income which he pisses up the wall on beer anyway

@Starlight345 thank you

Do the cms (or whoever it is these days) ask for proof of earnings of the payee, when sorting out amounts or do they just take their word for it?

Dp and I have a child together so he pays his ex £300/month which is about £75-100 more than cms state is required. However, they are with us between 40-50% of the week, we (me) also pay for school uniform. School shoes, 50% of school trips, pocket money, clubs they do on their days with us in all associated fees ie trips, uniforms etc. She pays for the ones they do on her days. Dp also pays £30 into each of their savings accounts every month which was agreed to be deducted from the maintenance when it was negotiates at divorce (so technically he pays £360/month)

She still thinks we don't pay enough because we refused to pay towards a ski trip for dss @ £800 per parent. Dss has huge savings and dps suggestion was that the cost was split 3 ways, but she refused. It wasn't an educational trip so was not deemed to be part of their financial settlement. She was not impressed. However, we sat dss down and explained it to him. He understood and accepted that we couldn't pay towards it. His gps paid in the end I think.

@Thebluedog when it was set up for me years ago it was CSA and they saw his payslips but there wasn’t an annual review and if I asked for one they’d want me to justify my reasons for doing so. He didn’t update salary details for about 6 years

Many years ago I got pregnant via a one night stand - when I called the man in question and told him he asked to meet for a coffee to talk about it, when we met he told me he had done his sums and could afford £500 per month maintenance and wanted to be fully involved. I went on to have a miscarriage at 13 weeks and in hindsight it absolutely wasn’t the right time for me but, I always think about this when I read these threads. This guy was basically a complete stranger to me. I cannot understand men who don’t step up to support their ex partners and children.
My last boyfriend paid his ex wife £12k per month maintenance- he didn’t want his ex wife or children to have to change their lifestyle when they split - that’s what decent men do.
My husband managed to find a way to pay his ex a minimum of £250 per month as well as 50/50 split - even when he was bankrupt.
Again, this is just what decent men do.