To ask how much child maintenance you get?

[Ellen7262]

Just a rough figure. DD's dad contributed £40 a month for the first two months after we split and since then sweet fuck all. I have absolutely no clue how much a father should be paying for his child and no idea even where to start on getting him to pay.

He is NC with her, however his DM makes a big effort with her. If he's on a similar wage now to what he was at the time I was with him then he will be around the £40k mark.

Side note - I am financially comfortable even without payments from him, WIBU to claim if I don't technically need the money?

I get 80 pounds a month. I'm a lucky girl. My ex thinks this is enough to pay for everything.

Yes LBOC, for every overnight, the child maintenance reduces by 1/7.

1/7 of £0 is still £0.

£10 a week if he remembers useless!

*for every overnight in one week.

I get a big fat 0 because he has claimed ESA all his life for being mentally ill.
Really he is a bullying arsehole who knows how to play the system and smoke weed with his money.

Oh yes, i should add he doesn't have them overnights ever, probably has them for about 6 hours out of a fortnight.

Like a pp, 0 for 10 years. I don't particularly want cm at this point, just some recognition that I've been doing, and paying for everything. Even an offer to buy their school shoes.

I get nothing direct, but he pays the school fees instead which we are both happy with.

Phone cms. My daughters ex kindly offered her 50 pounds a week If she signed a legally binding document stating she would never disclose6 he was her DC's father. She contacted cms and is now getting considerably more than that a month and she can shout his name loud and clear to whoever might be interested. It took about 4 months to sort out but it means she'll never feel controlled by him again. He has no contact or interest in the DGC.

These men are a disgrace

I'm going to call him tomorrow, say that i think £200 a month is acceptable. If he says no then I will go through the CMS. I will take £200 of whatever they say he should pay, put it in a savings account for her and then donate the rest to charity. Somebody else needs it more than me. And he's been enough of a dickhead in his life to have to contribute to charity unknowingly.

Jesus Christ, @sue51. What a vile man. Your daughter is well rid

Go through CMS. He should be paying and by the time your daughter is 18, from birth the amount is close to £80,000.

£0 per month for 7 yrs.
Also not seen him for that entire time so it's a great deal from my perspective. Fucking wank stain 😁

@Ellen7262

Ha I like that idea.. however I would just pit it all in savings for your daughter.

Some men are dicks

£17.50 a week. Lucky ole me. He had the cheek to keep £5 back one time he had DD overnight because he'd had to buy her socks because she'd forgotten to put them in her overnight bag. I wish DD only cost me £17.50 per week!

So, all these people who say their exes contribute nothing, why is this? Because they're self-employed/unemployed? Or because you just haven't claimed through CMS (or whatever they're now called)?

WHy would you give the money meant for dc to charity?! IF you don’t need any of it surely just lock it away in Isas for when dc Is older?

Ellen 7262 vile doesn't quite cover it. He got a solicitor to send her a threatening letter arriving the day she came home after an emergency cs. I wouldn't let a hamster wee on him if he was on fire.

I have never had a penny from dd's father. DD is now 18 and off to university in a few weeks, so we'll never see anything from him.

He lives in another country where we can't claim through CMS. He's never met her either.

If you can claim through CMS, do it!! You might not need the money now but you never know what might happen, so saving the maintenance you get via CMS gives you a back up for unexpected expenses. If you never need it then it can pay for uni or a deposit for a first house.

@makingmiracles she already gets money from both sets of grandparents put into an account every month, I can comfortably afford everything without the child support, and I will be taking £200 of it and putting it in the savings too.

There is no child who needs that much money available for them by the time they are 18. It will around the £100,000 mark I imagine. There are people who need the money more than she does.

What makingmiracles said. Put it in savings for her for when she's an adult.

I've claimed through CMS. Still get nothing.

I get nothing because my ex is a piece of shit.

£7 a week. It is a private agreement and I think he got confused about the £7 a month when unemployed.

I'm expecting him or his wife to notice at some point and demand the over payment back or refuse to pay until we are even.

His wife earns ££££ and he is home to watch their children. He does not see my DC or provide any other extras.

DH pays his ex £2.300 a month. For one child. Yes I'm fucking bitter.

He's a v high earner though.