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Original poster

To be annoyed about this

226 replies

lookingforwardtoautumn · 27/08/2018 14:54

The schools website has said that term is from 3 September onwards. I’ve just found out there’s a training day on 31st August, and I’ve no child care ... Aibu to just say I can’t go?

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HesterMacaulay · 27/08/2018 15:14

KIT obviously

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lookingforwardtoautumn · 27/08/2018 15:15

I didn’t do any KIT days because I had no childcare Smile

Return to work was officially 21st July but obviously I didn’t actually go into work.

That’s exactly it, fin, no one has been in touch. The kids can’t go to nursery earlier.

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MiddleClassProblem · 27/08/2018 15:15

But have you called the school?

MiddleClassProblem · 27/08/2018 15:16

Or contacted should I say. The head etc

I’m failing typing today.

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lookingforwardtoautumn · 27/08/2018 15:17

No - it’s a bank holiday!

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QueenDoria · 27/08/2018 15:19

If you 'returned' to work on 21 July I think you are morally obliged to sort some childcare sharpish (there are companies that do this - ) and get in on the 31st. Alternatively return all your summer holiday pay and return from Mat Leave on the 3rd...

HesterMacaulay · 27/08/2018 15:20

You are being strangely limited in your replies.
Did you have KIT days and what us your official return to work date?

MissVanjie · 27/08/2018 15:21

you seem a bit about it tbh

have you contacted your line manager?

HesterMacaulay · 27/08/2018 15:21

Sorry missed your previous post.

MiddleClassProblem · 27/08/2018 15:22

I can see the issue with communication too Grin

But don’t you just try and contact someone tomorrow? Do you have the head’s number?

HesterMacaulay · 27/08/2018 15:22

There is shared responsibility. Both SLT and you have been negligent.

MissVanjie · 27/08/2018 15:22

this is one of those threads where everyone is supposed to guess what is going on or what the right answer is until they get it right

I'll have a go: oh no hun well if you didn't know I guess you just shouldn't bother going in, it'll be fine

happypoobum · 27/08/2018 15:23

Well I think you have to shoulder some of the responsibility of finding out when your first actual day at work would be if your school was closed on 21 July.

You will have to find someone else to have DC, pay a childminder/babysitter for the day.

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lookingforwardtoautumn · 27/08/2018 15:24

Errr ok vanjie Hmm

Obviously I wouldn’t bother ‘not going in’ but the fact is my 10 month old can’t look after herself.

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Lazypuppy · 27/08/2018 15:24

I can't believe you haven't done a single KIT day? I would hate to go back to work after so long off, i'm doing at least 1 KIT day a week in the month before I return so i know what i'll be doing when i'm back, back up to speed with everyone etc

seven201 · 27/08/2018 15:25

There is always a training day or two before the start of a new school year. I really think you need to take some ownership of this. I'm a teacher and my daughter goes to term time nursery. There are about 5 days a year where I have to be in school but nursery is shut. I know these dates months in advance and plan childcare accordingly. There's no excuse for not knowing there'd be an inset day at the start of the academic year. You need to beg someone to look after your child for the day.

HeadsDownThumbsUpEveryone · 27/08/2018 15:26

Not sure what you were expecting if you didn't even manage to get in for a KIT day, they are as much for you as they are for SLT. Have you met your new class yet and once again do the children start back on the 3rd? I cannot imagine you were expecting to start back on the same day?

MatildaTheCat · 27/08/2018 15:26

Of course you are U to ask if you just can’t go. Do you really propose to start back from maternity leave with such a lame excuse.

You need to get off mn and get on with sorting out alternative care. Your DP? Family member, or friend? Last resort is an emergency nanny.

Everyone needs backup childcare- what will you do when your dc has an illness which means they can’t attend nursery? It will happen more than you care to think about.

BeautifulPossibilities · 27/08/2018 15:26

I'm a teacher and I didn't do KIT days having seen how others were treated on them in my school. Absolutely no attempts made to get them up to speed on anything and just used for general cover for the whole day.

OP can you get in touch with whoever is your line manager?

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lookingforwardtoautumn · 27/08/2018 15:26

I was on maternity leave.

It wasn’t a question of not being bothered to go in for a KIT day (Hmm) they aren’t compulsory and I didn’t have childcare.

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JacNaylor · 27/08/2018 15:26

I'd make every effort to go in because if you don't then they may say that your mat leave ran until 3rd Sept.
I can believe that nobody told you, I have met inept school SMT too Grin
It's shit but I'd contact the HT, offer to make up the bourse elsewhere (out of hours clubs/courses or similar) but if they say no then you may need to pay an Emergancy babysitter for the day.

HesterMacaulay · 27/08/2018 15:27

Inset on 31st Aug is odd.
In my experience anyway. But I'm still baffled that you have made no contact with colleagues Head or anyone prior to return to work and relied on the school website for your info.
Are the children in on 3rd?

KingLooieCatz · 27/08/2018 15:27

Wowzers. Were you really going to just walk back in to a classroom full of children on the first day of term with no prep?

Have you really never noticed that staff are in for a couple of days before the children? I'm not a teacher but it's both common knowledge and common sense.

While you might not have had childcare to go in for KIT day could you really not have picked up the phone at any point while baby was having a nap?

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lookingforwardtoautumn · 27/08/2018 15:27

Well in that case Matilda I’d have to take leave from school, unless you’re suggesting that people unfortunate enough to have lost their own parents young or who have emigrated should not have children?

Sorry but that’s ridiculous.

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Bluelady · 27/08/2018 15:28

Presumably this ten month old has a father. He's going to have to take 31sr off work.