Men who tell you what to wear

[Yorkshireteas]

He hasn't told me like that yet, but he sends me pics and says this and that would look nice on me. Been seeing him for 2 months, I don't know what to say. What do you think? Warning sign?

End it. Now.

Massive warning sign

RUN

Forward him one of those spam emails for penis enlargement.

I'd probably respond with 'as Mrs Brown would say 'that's nice'.

Which as anyone who has suffered that shit programme means 'fuck off'.

Are you dating Gok Wan?

Run, he's trying to change you

You've known him two months?! Get rid, seriously.

Are they things you would probably pick for yourself or totally different? My husband occasionally sends me pics of things he has seen that he thinks I would like or look good in because he knows what I like.

The way you've described it I would say is hard to tell what his motive is but if you are uncomfortable with it then talk to him before you get a ton of LTB replies when he is possibly genuinely trying to be nice.

If it's stuff that's totally out your comfort zone then tell him to knock it off.

As a matter of interest - not that it matters - but what sort of outfits? Is he trying to get you to dress more sexily or is it just a different style?

After 2 months? Run.

Suggesting something to wear isn't always a bad thing or a red flag, but 8 weeks in it is weird.

I had a bf once who helped me choose clothes and outfits. He went on to be a designer so it’s not always dodgy, but you’d know the difference.

If he's a fashion designer/stylist/editor then he may just be crossing streams between profession and you. And a simple no thanks, I'm happy with my look should be enough to remind him you're not with him for his styling skills. If he's nothing to do with the industry then it's a huge red flag. Have a conversation. If he doesn't mean anything bad by it, he'll listen, apologise and stop doing it. If he's a dick then he'll sulk, claim he was just trying to help you and then punish you, either by withdrawing affection, emotionally blackmail you to make you apologise or have a temper tantrum. Then you know you escaped a long relationship with an idiot.

He isn't her husband though. There's a massive difference between a husband and someone you've known two months.

My now DH used to do this, but it was always styles I wear already, but from different shops.

Whoa- you know that phrase, " When he shows you who he is, listen ? " .......

Mmmmnnn world of difference between “ What about the green dress, you look really good in that” just before you are hosting new people for supper and feeling flustered to “Wear this”.

My husband has very occasionally bought me clothes back from overseas trips because he thinks I’d like them. He’s sometimes said if he thinks I’ve got the dress code wrong (“ You do know it’s evening dress, don’t you?” Rarely he’s come shopping and helped choose. Normally he doesn’t notice.

If it’s making you uncomfortable, tell him to back off. If you’re on a public forum asking about warning signs it feels more than a slight discomfort and a lack of trust so it feels a bit like a doomed start.

I think it depends on what it is and why he’d have cause to look for it.

Run.......

Is there any context? Is it just after a chat about how you're looking for a new dress?

send him pictures back
suggest he upgrades his wardrobe to match your taste
start reasonable and get ridiculous (suggestions added)
see how he reacts

dump him anyway

Massive warning sign. You are not his doll. You are an adult woman who has been dressing herself for a looooooong time.

At least he's shown the creepiness early, so you can end it swiftly.

oh no! where did my images go?

Run like your tampon string is on fire 🏃‍♀️ 🔥

My dh has brilliant taste and most of my favourite outfits bought by him. My 12 year old dd prefers clothes shopping with him as he has good taste and goes to more expensive shops! My friends dh is similar so not necessarily weird I think it's quite sweet if the outfits are nice / tasteful and not dodgy lingerie or something.