Men who tell you what to wear

[Yorkshireteas]

He hasn't told me like that yet, but he sends me pics and says this and that would look nice on me. Been seeing him for 2 months, I don't know what to say. What do you think? Warning sign?

Leave, that's not on

those pictures are hilarious!

So he hasnt told you what to wear at all

Oh for gods sake! Some men are into clothes/ fashion. It is allowed they don't all have to be beer drinking traditional blokes. Yes he might be a raving cross dresser or an evil controller or a nice person who is into clothes.

HRTFT but perhaps those are outfits he really wants to wear himself. He may be trying to break something to you gently. 😉

He wants you to be someone else? Not you? Run for the hills.

I had a boyfriend like this when I was in my late teens, he actually took me shopping for clothes as we were due to go out with his friends, he obviously didn’t like the way I dressed so he chose a outfit for me.

A few weeks later he dumped me because I walked out of my job to take a lower paid job (he didn’t like the fact I had gone from a good job to a boring my factory job). Says it all really.

If someone doesn’t want you the way you are then they are not worth staying with. Find someone that loves you for you and doesn’t want you to be someone else.

Leave. It never ends well believe me.

Perhaps reading the thread would stop you wasting the internet with useless comments- im sure he already wears jeans and trackie bottoms

Test him out. Say 'no thanks, thats not to my taste. I prefer choosing my own clothes, thanks', and see how he reacts.Or you could reverse it, and start sending him suggestions.
Some couples do tend to get involved in choosing each others clothes and thats fine if they're both happy with it, but a lot of people do find it stifling and controlling.

Jeans and jogging bottoms like the ones he wears are hardly 'fashion' advice😀😀

He just started randomly sending me pictures about certain outfits he will like to see on me

Thats not telling her what he wants her to wear?

idk man if he’s just suggesting outfits that doesn’t sound awful? if it escalates any further like idk, ‘yo i hate what you’re wearing’ then yeah, leave him, but maybe he’s trying to be nice? go with whatever your gut feeling is though- is there anything else he does that makes you question his nature?

Fuck that! Tracksuit bottoms lol

he will like to see on me, nothing revealing or sexy. Jeans, tracksuit bottoms etc. That's what he likes to wear, it's like he's trying to make me the female version of him.

He wants you to be covered up, run and run fast.

Everyone here is soo judgmental when they don't know the context of the messages or anything about the relationship apart from 2 lines of text from the OP

Molding you to match him after 2 months is a bad sign.

Any form of opinion is not necessarily bad. The key context is is he making suggestions that are complimentary to who you are, and is he content for honest feedback on those suggestions. Unlikely in this particular case.

He wants you to be covered up
There's no indication of that, either. Jeans and tracksuits are just standard wear, people don't wear them to be covered up.
OP, if you like him generally, and haven't noticed any thing else that makes you wary, why don't you just discuss it with him?

I dated a guy once, and he told me what to wear. Not to wear make up, cover myself up etc. We were young, about 20 years old. I ended it after a year and my poor mother breathed a massive sigh of relief. I’ve now been married to an amazing man for 13 years, and saw last week that my old boyfriend had got married. He’s also a model and a multimillioanaire who’s collaborated with Richard Branson.
Yet All I could think was “poor, poor woman”.
You could not have paid me enough to still be with him.

Everyone here is soo judgmental

No they're not. They are wise.

LTB and don't look back. Next step he'll be telling you who you can and can't go out with etc etc

Run like your tampon string is on fire 🏃‍♀️ 🔥

He wants you to be covered up, run and run fast.
There is zero indication of that.

I think after a grand total of 8 weeks, sending repeated clothing suggestions to someone is a bit odd and i'd probably run a mile in the other direction, but there's nothing to suggest he wants her covered up.

Let's not run away with ourselves otherwise by page 5 we'll suddenly have armchair diagnosing of emotional abuse and how he's clearly got potential for physical abuse and if the OP doesn't leave she'll be trapped for years with this awful human being.

Personally, I'd cut my losses and run. 8 weeks is nothing.
But if she wants to give it a go then there's no harm telling him she doesnt want his clothing advice and taking it from there.

@ticketyboo - I legit just spat my coffee out because I laughed so hard at your post.

To be honest I think it really depends, maybe your guy is just really into fashion? Or, he’s really into the whole surrendered wife thing and in that case I would think twice and analyse other behaviours.

He wants to have an input on what you wear? 2 months in?
First reaction - he's trying , in however a minor way, to change you.

He wants more sexy? Creepy as fuck
He wants more covered? Controlling as fuck
He wants stuff more like his kinda clothes/ style? Which is what you seem to be saying.
= he wants you to join his team, wear the uniform, conform to what he identifies with..
Let me repeat that . He wants you to wear the right, ie his, uniform. Does that make you shudder? It should.

Whichever of these are his motives, one thing's for sure: he's not really interested in who YOU are.

He's no keeper and he should be a goner! Yuk!