Think I saw a ghost on camera and nobody believes me

[LucyDontLockIt]

We moved into a large Victorian terraced house a few months ago. Always lots of strange noises but obviously in an old house you expect this, but some couldn't be explained like laughing in the bedroom (walls are think and you can't hear next door unless they're actually drilling into a joining wall!). Footsteps on upper floors etc. Along with that the rooms would turn icy cold all of a sudden, even in this hot weather you would be hot and sweaty one minute and then freezing cold the next. I have felt uneasy a lot. When DH went away to China I was here alone and just constantly felt like I wasn't alone. I'm not one to be frightened of the dark etc but there is no way in hell I would walk around this house in the dark. The dog seems really withdrawn and constantly anxious. Ears prick up constantly and he growls and cries for no reason which he never used to do.
DH gets really angry whenever I talk like this, he suffers nightmares (always has) and spooky stuff freaks him out so he gets very defensive and tells me to shut up about it but on a couple of occasions he has come into a room downstairs and looked confused to see me as he thought he'd seen me walk past upstairs etc.

ANyway because nobody will talk to me about this I bought some cheap cameras off eBay, the ones you stick on the wall and you can watch the room from your phone. I periodically watch them at work.
Yesterday I logged in at work and there was someone standing by the kitchen sink. It was a woman's figure but wasn't moving. I ran to show a colleague but it had gone by the time I got to her. NOBODY believes me and DH says if I can keep with it he will actually leave me as I'm making him feel ill.

Wtf. Am I going crazy??! I know logically ghosts don't exist but I can't explain any of this unless I am actually losing my mind. AIBU to wish someone would at least help me look into it properly?
We're in north of England.

I hope there is no one living in your loft!

memay they look like people, of all ages and usually not too old fashioned. Some are in modern clothing for example. Sometimes they don't have clear faces and other times they do.

It's very interesting.

Perhaps the local warlock has cursed your house...

Of course no-one believes you, ghosts are not real!

If you think either it has to be ghosts or you are "losing your mind" then losing your mind is the answer, obviously.

I love how everyone says there’s no proof ghosts are real. There’s also no way you can possibly prove that they arent

There'e no proof I'm not the Queen of Fucking Everything, and theres no way you can possibly prove I'm not. But you'd be quick enough to say it....

I lived somewhere that was haunted. A day didn’t go past without something terrifying happening. I know lots on here don’t believe in any of that but if you’d had those things happen to you you’d be hard pushed to find a rational explanation.

I moved. It all went away. Probably not what you want to hear.

If I were you the way you describe how it feels for you I would back off completely and let dh see it for himself. You have had more time at home than him and you have spooked him but if it's there he will see it and then you can deal with it together.

We had something in our house that we didn't notice straight away but it made itself more and more known. A year and a half it went on until we got people in to exorcise it.

To be honest it felt exactly how you describe. We had the taps turning on in the middle of the night, shower, lights, doors slamming, loud footsteps chasing us if we went for a wee, doors rattling and things physically being thrown at us. It was horrible but we went through it all together and never felt crazy or that nobody believed us even if they didn't because almost all of what happened was witnessed by both of us.
I know it's horrible but it's easier to deal with when you're in it together.

Also ours was exorcised in March

Sorry posted too quickly, could feel and see the difference straight away. We have a lovely bright happy house now and no funny business

I know lots on here don’t believe in any of that but if you’d had those things happen to you you’d be hard pushed to find a rational explanation

You not being able to think of a rational explanation does not mean there was not a rational explanation. You did not live in a haunted house.

I find it worrying that so many people believe in ghosts, its toddler level thinking.

@toomanychilder not if you have experienced it.

Me and my dh putting up furniture one day alone by ourselves in one room, nobody else in house and a lighter that was locked away in another room comes flying through the doorway and bounces off my thigh.

Another day we watched his PlayStation controller lift off the side of the sofa, sit in mid air a moment and then smash on the other side of the room

I got up to see to dd the week we were having the exorcism as her door was shut but was being shaken by the handle, she was in bed crying. I settled her down, went for a wee and as I was walking down the hall footsteps so heavy and loud chased me into the bathroom it felt like something was right behind me, dh leapt up (he doesn't leap anywhere) also scared having heard it as he had been up with me and gone back to bed to wait for me.
That night we put the kids in our bed and me and dh sat up all night crying.
Rational?

I'd be way more freaked at the idea of some nut case hiding in my loft than a ghost wandering around.

BTW I totally believe you OP.

I’m with you backstreet. It’s really easy to scoff at people until it happens to you. It isn’t ‘toddlerish’ as it’s so offensively put to believe in the supernatural when you see things move before your eyes and have things thrown at you. There’s a house not so far from where I live that is haunted to the point it’s been boarded up for years and nobody will live there, it made the news. A priest went to exorcise it and bookshelves came off the wall and holy water flew in his face. Unsurprisingly no bugger wants to buy it so it sits boarded up, I doubt even squatters would stay long with all that going on.

"It’s really easy to scoff at people until it happens to you."

Oh, yes. I've had years of visits from a person in spirit (died just over 20 years ago, so not always "Victorian ghosts" ), in my case it is always harmless and benign; I really feel for anyone who has more disturbing stuff going on.

That night we put the kids in our bed and me and dh sat up all night crying.Rational?

No, you are clearly far from rational. Which explains a lot as to why you would think things were flying around. Two people can share the same delusions you know, its documented fact. Ghosts, not so much.

Like I said, its either very childish thinking or mental health issues. If you think things in your house are being thrown about by ghosts, or that dead people are talking to you, you need professional help and probably medication, not validation from similarly afflicted people on the internet.

you need professional help

Who ya gonna call...

I’ve always found it useful to have a decent tolerance for “a weird thing happened, I have no decent rational explanation for what it was, I’m content to leave it at that”.

The people who are 100% determined that no you did not experience anything weird, you are either delusional or lying, and if you’re not there is an totally obvious naturalistic explanation for it that a reasonable person would spot straight away - these are the people who end up as young-earth creationists or Derek Acorah fans when something weird happens to them that they don’t have an immediate obvious explanation for.

"Which explains a lot as to why you would think things were flying around"

Actually, things can and do fly around on their own, as I once witnessed myself whilst rationally standing at the sink, rationally brushing my teeth, in a bathroom with a bolted door, and closed double glazed window. I felt something touch me lightly on the back of my leg, then turned to see a plastic tub, that had been on a shelf four feet away, now on the floor behind my feet. Yes, it had "flown" off that shelf, then four feet across the bathroom towards me. No, there were no draughts, no I hadn't been drinking or taking drugs. Do all the scoffing you like; I know that it happens because I've experienced it myself. You lot that clearly haven't, you really do not know what you are talking about.

We do know what we are talking about. Rationality, logic and reality. You're just claiming "Oh but I SAW it, its definitely real". Yeah, well I've "seen" a magician saw a woman in half and make an elephant disappear, doesn't mean it actually happened.
The human brain is incredibly easy to trick and confuse. You may think you saw or felt something, that proves nothing other than you think you saw or felt something.

If you want to think it, you can, no-one can stop you. But in the same way I can think (and say) that its worrying how many people are so illogical and irrational and anti-scientific. Does't bode well for any of us.

" Rationality, logic and reality "

yes that is what my dad and stepmother buy into, with their science degrees and so on..and even they were convinced their house was haunted.

I find those people who cannot see anything other than a 'rational' explanation are rigid and inflexible thinkers. Thank goodness we're not all the same.

Just because your thought processes are so rigid that you cannot remotely imagine any other possibilities and have discounted other people's actual experiences does not mean you are correct.

A woman being sawn in half trick can be explained by those in the magic business; everybody knows that it is an illusion. Nobody is disputing that.

”You may think you saw or felt something, that proves nothing other than you think you saw or felt something"

No, I don't "think" it happened; it did. You not believing that, doesn't mean that it didn't.

Just because your thought processes are so rigid that you cannot remotely imagine any other possibilities

Well if that doesn't show the fundamental misunderstanding here.....I can imagine ALL the possibilities, or at least a huge range of them, and know which ones that are easy to discount. Like if you can't find your hairbrush, its possible (in that you can imagine it is possible) that tiny green aliens scoot around in spaceships disguised as teapots and steal hairbrushes...but I reckon you would quickly discount that possibility if I claimed I had seen them, wouldn't you?

How is that any different?

You known toomanychilder many of us here are mature enough to know that just because something exceeds our understanding, perception, belief or world view, doesn’t make it untrue.

Many of us more mature people are able to be a peace with what we don’t understand without assuming mental health issues or childlessness.

I’ve never seen the wind but I can see the trees around me moving. But that’s not enough to prove the wind exists is it ....I mean it’s invisible. Oh but hang on everyone has experienced it so it’s true? That’s obviously your point. Unless everyone experiences it then it can’t be so.

We’re not the childish ones, you are simply both rude and simplistic in your views.

yeah, you're not getting it, are you? You're not actually paying attention to what I am saying, only to what you think I am saying. Which you have got completely backwards. That's ok, it fits.

Okay, toomanychilder, it's pretty obvious that it's pointless engaging any further with you. You clearly know better than us what went on in in my and other posters' homes, despiting not having been there at the time, and can offer us all a "rational explanation". Oh no, wait, you can't. You just "think" you can, but you - and others - have consistently failed. Try again, or, on second thoughts, don't bother. Cheery bye.

*on in my