Think I saw a ghost on camera and nobody believes me

[LucyDontLockIt]

We moved into a large Victorian terraced house a few months ago. Always lots of strange noises but obviously in an old house you expect this, but some couldn't be explained like laughing in the bedroom (walls are think and you can't hear next door unless they're actually drilling into a joining wall!). Footsteps on upper floors etc. Along with that the rooms would turn icy cold all of a sudden, even in this hot weather you would be hot and sweaty one minute and then freezing cold the next. I have felt uneasy a lot. When DH went away to China I was here alone and just constantly felt like I wasn't alone. I'm not one to be frightened of the dark etc but there is no way in hell I would walk around this house in the dark. The dog seems really withdrawn and constantly anxious. Ears prick up constantly and he growls and cries for no reason which he never used to do.
DH gets really angry whenever I talk like this, he suffers nightmares (always has) and spooky stuff freaks him out so he gets very defensive and tells me to shut up about it but on a couple of occasions he has come into a room downstairs and looked confused to see me as he thought he'd seen me walk past upstairs etc.

ANyway because nobody will talk to me about this I bought some cheap cameras off eBay, the ones you stick on the wall and you can watch the room from your phone. I periodically watch them at work.
Yesterday I logged in at work and there was someone standing by the kitchen sink. It was a woman's figure but wasn't moving. I ran to show a colleague but it had gone by the time I got to her. NOBODY believes me and DH says if I can keep with it he will actually leave me as I'm making him feel ill.

Wtf. Am I going crazy??! I know logically ghosts don't exist but I can't explain any of this unless I am actually losing my mind. AIBU to wish someone would at least help me look into it properly?
We're in north of England.

Do you not know how to do a screen shot on your phone? If not please let us know what type of phone it is and hopefully one of us will be able to tell you how.

Agree with PP - check the loft. There was a thread on here a while ago, the OP was sure someone was using the toilet through the day when the house was empty and in the end I think it was her sister who checked the loft and there was evidence of someone squatting up there.
I'm in 2 minds about ghosts. I have my logical mind that says its rubbish but I also have had an experience of being in a house with unexplained occurrences and its something I won't soon forget.

This would freak me out massively,
I'd have to move.

I agree on the screen lock/trying to get something to record it if it happens again, and post photos!!

Honestly, OP, calm down. No one can validate your subjective experience, certainly not a bunch of online strangers, but nothing you've said suggests any more than that two stressed, jumpy people are in a new strange environment and are both supernaturalising draughts, changes in temperature, and noises for which there are ordinary explanations -- Victorian terraces are notorious for the weird ways in which sound carries, sometimes because of interlinked attics. In our old London Victorian terrace, we could often hear noises that weren't the neighbours on either side, and only figured out when we happened to meet the family who lived two down (distinctive foreign accent) that for some reason the sound was carrying from their house. Still not sure how, but definitely not supernatural.

You were already feeling a bit jumpy when your DP went a long way away, and you are always more aware of noises at night when alone. He's nervous and defensive, and stoking your fears, and you're both unnerved by the dog, who is almost certainly just homesick for your old house -- some friends of ours were nearly driven mad by their dog growling and freaking out when they moved countries a few years back. The poor thing ended up on some form of canine antidepressant and recovered well.

You're not losing the plot, OP, and you're not being haunted.

The fact that people do not in fact know what they saw has been proved endlessly over and over again. But it is a perfectly normal and explainable human phenomenon to think your house is haunted and to see things that support that theory.

OP, You are not going any madder than the average person programmed through millions of years of evolution to over extrapolate facts into a narrative that confirms your prior biases. We all do it, some more than others, and not all about ghosts...but its part of what makes us human.

You saw a woman in your kitchen, why not first assume that it is an actual person? There are 9 billion completely real confirmed people on the planet. Its rather more likely that a person in your kitchen is actually a person than a ghost of which there are no real confirmed examples in existence, don't you think?

You can get a spiritualist to connect with whoever it is and get them to move on. It does create space for others to potentially appear but would provide you with some reassurance that you're not going mad...and if anyone will believe you, they will! Costs around £150.

...I should add, all a matter of opinion and the above cost is one example!

When a black clad man sat on my bed often when I was in my 20's, I was advised to tell him out loud that I didn't want him to keep visiting me as it made me afraid.
Didn't see him again.
My dcat didn't spend much time in our flat though and didn't blame her!

The fact that people do not in fact know what they saw has been proved endlessly over and over again.

I know I'm not the only person who has had that 'but I could have sworn....' experience more than once....

What good is getting a priest in going to do?! 😂

Please change your locks and check all of your windows, basement/cellar, loft etc are secure. I'm not saying that your house isn't haunted but I font think that the woman in your kitchen was an apparition.

Not always a permanent solution - the house could be repossessed.

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I've had it lots and lots through my life. But I know that the experience resides in the brain/mind and not in reality.....

Dear god the thought of someone living in the attic is even more terrifying 😳 Is that a common occurrence? I’ve seen it mentioned on Mn before.

“Costs around £150.”

I’ll do,it for £100- and i’ll bring cake.

Honestly, OP. It’s not a ghost. But you might feel a little better if you do ceremony of some sort. Get a sage smudge stick or something like that and bless every room with it. Or ask the local vicar to bless the house for you.

When I was a teen I used to see things at my then boyfriend’s house, always at night though so I assumed I was dreaming etc or just imagining things.

That was until his mum saw a monk walk across her bedroom in the middle of the day in broad daylight!!

She got the house blessed and they put little crosses above the doorframe, and nobody saw anything ever again.

I believe in ghosts for that reason but I can understand why you wouldn’t believe it you hadn’t experienced anything.

There is zero scientific evidence of ghosts, therefor it is highly unlikely that you did (hence the disbelief).

If in any confusion or disbelief, burn the house down just to be sure!

burn the house down just to be sure

Terrible advice, without consecrating the ground after you may as well not bother.

Boring question (and the fact that you see something while you were at work makes it unlikely to be this), but have you had the boiler safety checked/got a carbon monoxide detector? Very occasionally the symptoms of carbon monoxide poisoning can manifest in a way that makes people hear and see things. From m.activebeat.com/your-health/7-signs-of-carbon-monoxide-poisoning/:

A person’s ability to think clearly may also be impacted by the build-up of carbon monoxide, leading to confusion, impaired judgement, memory problems and, in some cases, hallucinations.

It probably isn't that, but it's worth checking!

😂 at exorcism.

You know it’s not ghosts. There’s no such thing. So could it be stress, your mind playing tricks on you? You need to be rational. Sorry but I’d be cross too if I were your dh.

OP I’ve commented on your other thread and actually nobody here can tell you most assuredly whether it is or isn’t a ghost! Nobody lives in your house (presumably - unless you have a squatter and they’re posting here ) so nobody can tell what you have heard or seen.

I’ve had TONS of paranormal, very bloody frightening experiences - physical experiences - and yes I trust my own eyes and ears. Our minds do play tricks on us for sure and you’ve likely got yourself worked up so that you are now hypersensitive, but it doesn’t deny your unease.

If you are sensing a bad atmosphere then do what’s been suggested and call a priest in. Call it a ghost or a spirit or whatever you want, but I’ve see these things too and my dad, a priest, has seen plenty. He’s been called to houses and literally watched books falling off shelves. It happens - who knows why but it does. He would say it’s spirits who haven’t found rest and need to be moved on - one of the most scary ones the person actually had photographic evidence of dead grandparents who died very suddenly and traumatically sat there in a later developed photo - she kept sensing them in the house and took photos to sell it and they were sat there.

I know people will think it’s nonsense but I don’t think he as a (retired) priest has got any good reason to make these things up!! Most of the haunting were spirits who had died in a traumatic way and sort of got stuck repeating a behaviour.

Be it nonsense to others or not, if you think it’s happening then just get it dealt with and not by a ouija board. You might find your DH has less nightmares too (can be a side effect - one person had frequent nightmares always the same, got the house exorcised and the nightmares stopped - found out years on others in the family home had had the exact same nightmares which stopped at the exact same time).

Call it what you want but these things happen in both old and new houses, and DH won’t know if you get a priest in so it won’t have to affect him.

It sounds like your husband is aware that something is a 'bit off' with the atmosphere in the house and that is why he is being so defensive. Have you asked your children if they've seen/heard anything? I bloody love a woo story but no idea if you have ghosts or not.

I believe you. I've seen and felt energies before.

For a few months after we got our black kitten strange things kept happening and I was filming her. One time I noticed a big transparent orb go past her and she watched it and moved once it past. One night I was sitting up in bed with her on my lap and she was staring in to the hall. When I followed her gaze I seen a white shadow that looked like a person. I felt taps on the shoulder the next day in my lounge.

My cat now sits in the hall almost guarding it. I looked online and supposedly black cats are connected to the spirit world and can ward of spirits.

You aren't crazy.

I'd be way more scared of someone living secretly in my house, than a bona fide apparition of a dead person! I used to live in a 4 storey Victorian house and there were plenty of nooks and crannies and hidey-holes where someone could have tucked themselves away.

No-one ever did, my 4 noisy children and all their friends were thundering up and down the stairs most of the time - I think any intruder would have been frightened away.

“I looked online and supposedly black cats are connected to the spirit world and can ward of spirits.“

You had to look online to discover that black cats are traditionally considered “witchy”? Have you never seen a picture of a witch?