Hi
Very happy and in love with DP of 18 months (we don't yet live together, no children together, both aged 44).
He fell asleep on the sofa this evening and a message pinged up on his phone from a woman I'd never heard of. It started with "hi you gorgeous man..." so I of course had to have a look!
He's been messaging a woman he knew as a kid since May 13th. Loads of messages. It started innocuously - he added her on Facebook and they messaged polite hellos as you do - but it has since intensified. There has been mild flirting (calling each other gorgeous and beautiful) but also a strong emotional bond developed - he told her personal stuff about his kids' health and his relationship with his ex wife. She reciprocated.
They've got loads in common. They like a lot of the same things. Agree about politics.
They talk about how they really love chatting to each other.
They make each other laugh. Loads of laughing emojis.
She called him a kindred spirit. He replied with a heart emoji.
He told her that he hoped his DD13 turns out like her.
He sent her a photo of his son's graduation. She sent him a photo of her daughter's prom.
Messages almost always end with xxxx
He said last week that he dreams about her. The conversation then got a bit innuendo filled. He referred to her as stunning.
Am I overreacting? They've never talked of meeting up (she lives 15 miles away). It is an online thing only I think.
He's never mentioned me. I've been whitewashed out. He talks to her about his kids, his mum, his dogs, his friends, his colleagues ...never about me, even when he's described events I was at.
I don't know whether I've overreacted. I'm in a different room trying hard not to cry.