To be depressed at Christmas alone

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Already, I know.

I agree too.

We all have a choice to try and make the best of things. Or not.

I had a hard Christmas at home on my own one year. But I chose not to do anything to help myself and I could have made it a pleasant day. I have chosen more wisely in subsequent years.

If you know it's going to be tough there are some good suggestions on here and plenty of time to make preparations.

It's a mindset issue.

I get it OP. I've volunteered for the past two years which I enjoyed and I've spent a couple of times abroad on the day - the last time I did that I felt lonely.
I'm staying at home this year but just wanted to say I empathise.
@Clairetree1 your attitude is disgusting.

Bloody hell Op..you've started something here ! And Claire you do come across as a bit of a misery ! I just think of it as a day for the kids... and time off work !

Volunteering if there's a life available WTF are you on about Claire ?

if there is a lift available

Yeah, claire likes to stir the pot. Some of her comments on threads are hilarious.

Op, as pp have said, you've got 4 months to think about what you could do to make Christmas better and more manageable for you. I never think it's as exciting as other people seem to, I look on it as a chilled day with no agenda, lots of chocolate, tv and a good book.

I'm alone on Christmas Day usually. I get nice food in for the day beforehand
Have a lie in. Decent breakfast, a long bath. Then watch some films while eating crap
Nap. Read a book. Watch more TV
Eat tea, have a glass of wine. Bed

I tell the truth. Some people don't like that

Oh god absolutely anyone who says that is massively lacking in empathy, social intelligence or quite often both.

I've seen you be challenged on your "truth" quite a few times only to disappear from the thread till the danger has passed and then reappear spouting your nonsense a few pages later grin

well, I'm pretty sedentary right now for medical reasons, but even so, have other things to do in life beyond constantly MNing, although it passes the time.

I generally answer questions posed to me, but no it isn't my life's work to sit and comb through threads and make sure I've got all of them

I tell the truth is code for ‘I don’t care if I upset you with my opinion, it’s far more important than your feelings’

I tell the truth is code for ‘I don’t care if I upset you

no it isn't, its code for "this is the reality of the situation, although people in RL might pussyfoot around telling you that"

and a bit of plain speaking can be very helpful

and a bit of plain speaking can be very helpful

And most people who function as adults can give plain speaking whilst judging the situation to give it in appropriate fashion.

There were countless posts on here that were plain speaking.

well, I'm pretty sedentary right now for medical reasons, but even so, have other things to do in life beyond constantly MNing, although it passes the time.

Hmm, oh I believe it you but I have definitely seen some strategic disappearances from you when it became apparent you were talking exaggerated nonsense on subjects you appeared to know very little about but anyway I will leave it at that.

@Clairetree1 is one of those "I tell it as it is people".

If you can't see how you come over to others I'd suggest you work on your self awareness. Of course there may be other forums where being horrible about other people is encouraged and applauded... they might be keen to have you on board. In the meantime you don't know anything about the OP's life or circumstances so you might consider winding your neck in.

I bet there's something going on local to you for people spending Christmas alone. I know my local Quaker meeting house does a bring and share meal on Christmas Day - I'm sure you'd be welcome at something like that.

I've seen you be challenged on your "truth" quite a few times only to disappear from the thread till the danger has passed and then reappear spouting your nonsense a few pages later grin

@hollyGibney

for your information I am going to work

I am then going to collect my cousins step child from nursery

I am then going to feed and entertain them until bed time

so if you ask me a question and I don't answer, pleas e don't feel it is because I am judging you to be "dangerous" at all!

rather that I have things to do in real life.

what a fuss about nothing

^ is what you said at 11.28 am, you don’t know the OP, you don’t know what’s made her anxious and dreading Christmas alone and yet you felt compelled to tell her that and you think telling the truth will benefit her.

Right.

Sure, sure @Clairetree1

OP, your posts/answers are a bit brief if you don’t mind me saying. Maybe Claire etc would have more sympathy if you explained properly?

I suspect the danger referred to is being reported.
@Clairetree1 is sufficiently clever to hover just within the guidelines.

I think the OP's answers might be brief because she's feeling low and struggling to put into words how she feels. I might be wrong.

OP, you won't be bored or lonely or anything like that. You'll be glued to Mumsnet reading all the threads from people complaining how their CF neighbour has people round who are blocking in their drive, and the MIL-is-a-bitch threads, and the AIBU to leave my husband because he didn't buy me 1001 expensive presents even though I told him that all I wanted was something cheap and small after the uber-expensive kitchen he paid for this summer.... etc. It'll be New Year before you surface

I missed this gem from Claire
she needs to buck her ideas up and stop being so utterly self indulgent

No know nothing about the OP, yet you wrote that .

*You

The irony on this thread is astounding 😶