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Mother encouraging her child to scream in restaurant

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user1485342611 · 19/08/2018 14:20

I was in a restaurant and a mother with a baby aged about 10-12 months and in a high chair were at a table near us. The baby was playing happily with a plastic toy when the mother suddenly dropped her spoon on the floor. He thought it was funny and gave a happy squeal. So the mum kept pretending to drop the spoon to make him laugh. The problem was that each time the laugh got more and more high pitched and in the end he was literally screaming with excitement every time she went to 'drop' the spoon.

This went on for ages and people were turning around and giving her annoyed looks and two women at the table beside them moved away.

AIBU to think she was being really inconsiderate and that this went beyond just a bit of happy playing and strayed into noisy and disruptive behaviour (from the mum, obviously, not the baby).

OP posts:
SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 20/08/2018 21:57

You’re sensitive to noise, but don’t mind kid’s screaming?

A kid's screaming? Or a baby laughing loudly? There's a difference.

No Bette. If you can bear loud shrieking that a large number of posters have said would upset them then you really can't be particularly sensitive to all noise

Sorry, do you need a doctor's note? You literally have no idea what you're talking about, but please, carry on.

Why does it bother you that I don't get wound up by this? You seem to want to prove something. People are different. That's it.

TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:00

user1485342611 - I think this whole post is a shining example of how easy you are to get stressed by people/things and that you seriously need to chill out. What have I said thats disgusting?

TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:02

SheGotBetteDavisEyes - I honestly don't get it either. I have people stalking my every move too because they know I have a point and rather calming down and admitting they're ott they'd rather deflect. Snowflakes me thinks. Please if I need to be reported then report away but I honestly don't know what I've done wrong. Hey ho I won't be having a heart attack at least. Biscuit

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 20/08/2018 22:04

Who’s stalking you, Tiger?

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user1485342611 · 20/08/2018 22:10

It was a kid screaming and shrieking shrilly Bette as I made clear in my post, and you said that wouldn't bother you, not that laughing wouldn't bother you. Therefore, you can't be particularly sensitive to that type of noise.

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user1485342611 · 20/08/2018 22:11

Tigerlilly you made a nasty sneery comment about someone's grammar on another thread. That's what was disgusting.

But obviously anyone who criticises you, no matter what you do, just needs to chill out Hmm

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SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 20/08/2018 22:13

It was a kid screaming and shrieking shrilly Bette as I made clear in my post, and you said that wouldn't bother you, not that laughing wouldn't bother you. Therefore, you can't be particularly sensitive to that type of noise

What is your problem? Do you literally have to have wall-wall agreement?

I posted once on this thread in a completely innocuous manner and got leapt on for not agreeing with you.

You are not 'right' about me. I'm 'right' about me.

Lydiaatthebarre · 20/08/2018 22:13

Stalking your every move??? Grin

I this k you're the one who needs to calm down.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 20/08/2018 22:14

If anyone’s stalking you, Tiger, it won’t be because they “think you have a point”!

TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:15

user1485342611 - Oh you mean the woman who had a massive go at a bloke for blowing his nose... then because I dared to laugh like 'haha this is daft, you're not perfect either' that's classed as DISGUSTING to you? Really? That is legit how my girlfriend's and I talk to each other. Like 'ohhh guess what I did' and we all laugh about it... Disgusting though right. We should be locked up.

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user1485342611 · 20/08/2018 22:16

No Tigerlilly, I mean the post where you sneered at the OP's grammar while making no comment about her actual AIBU.

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user1485342611 · 20/08/2018 22:17

Where did anyone 'leap' on you Bette? A couple of posters have pointed out that not minding loud shrieking and screeching doesn't equate to being sensitive to all noises.

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TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:18

Lydiaatthebarre - I just think it's super strange that when people disagree with what you have to say, instead of sitting and being like 'huh never thought of it like that' you decide to search their name. I find that hella creepy. The OP was a question not a statement and the two people on here who dared sit on the fence are now being randomly messages by 3 people. Curious.

Lydiaatthebarre · 20/08/2018 22:19

Jeeze Bette are you always such a drama llama?

TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:20

user1485342611 - Yep that's literally the one I just referenced. I thought you'd remembered me but clearly not? Someone was getting stressed about a bloke sneezing and she'd been super rude to him. Someone posted about her grammar like 'haha no one's perfect' and I replied with a laughy face..... That is literally the DISGUSTING behaviour of which you speak. Wowzas.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 20/08/2018 22:20

Oh hush. You're making yourselves look silly.

I've obviously inadvertently wandered into a batshit slightly unhinged thread with a few 'characters' having a high old time. I'm backing off and hiding it.

Enjoy yourselves now. Don't make too much noise. Grin

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user1485342611 · 20/08/2018 22:22

Who's making themselves look silly Bette?

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TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:24

SheGotBetteDavisEyes - Legit. If you ever have a laugh on here or dare to disagree when someone asks their opinion then you are WRONG WRONG WRONG. So weird. Like properly strange behaviour.

browneyes77 · 20/08/2018 22:24

I can only assume the posters trying to insist it's just a baby laughing and being happy are the kind of parents who have done this kind if thing in the past

This crossed my mind aswell.

YANBU OP. I suffer with migraines and this would literally cause my head to explode.

There’s a big difference between kids getting a bit noisy in a restaurant and a parent actually encouraging them repeatedly to make noise that is clearly getting louder and louder to the point where other diners are also looking pissed off and physically moving tables to be away from them. Laughing and little squeals is something entirely different to high pitched screeching and screaming.

It’s quite clear from the OP’s original post that the baby was happily laughing and letting out a little squeal to start with, which wasn’t really bothering people but that this got progressively louder and turned into high pitched screeching and squealing/screaming. So why people keep refering to it as ‘laughing’ I don’t know.

Nobody has suggested people who have children can’t ever go out with them. That is ludicrous. Everyone accepts that babies/children make noise. All that’s asked for is a little consideration from the parents sometimes. If people can see a parent is trying desperately to calm their child down then most will have sympathy. Yes the noise is irritating but you can see that parent is doing their best and you can’t ask for anymore than that. But if a parent is actively encouraging their child to make a high level of noise that is disturbing everybody else and has no qualms about doing so, then that is selfish and ignorant.

Lydiaatthebarre · 20/08/2018 22:24

No Tiger, you made a nasty sarcastic comment and laughed along with a spiteful post that was subsequently removed.

Bringonspring · 20/08/2018 22:24

Why on earth didn’t that mum have peppa pig playing on her I phone? Actually interacting with a child so last decade

TigerlilyMoon · 20/08/2018 22:28

Lydiaatthebarre - What comment did I make Lydia? You see this is the stalking of which I speak. Saying "I died Grin". Is that what youre taking about? I really can't keep up. You guys should have your own mood swings at the bottom of your gardens. You constantly need something to be angry about. Can't relate.

Lydiaatthebarre · 20/08/2018 22:33

I think you need to calm down Tiger. I hate to break it to you, but noticing two contradictory posts you made within a short space of time is not 'stalking' you.

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user1485342611 · 20/08/2018 22:34

You do seem to want to dramatise yourself Tiger.

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PasstheStarmix · 20/08/2018 22:36

Adults talking loudly that like the sound of their own voice really annoy me. I had two awful shrieking women sitting near me today and the conversation got louder and louder until nobody within close proximity could enjoy their meals because all they could hear was them. I think common decency is lost on a lot of people and not all of them have kids.