To wonder if anyone else will admit to being a soap dodger?

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I often can’t be arsed. Dh has to prompt me. Anyone else?

I imagine it's not nice for your dh either to have to prompt a grown adult and his partner to have enough respect for him to be clean. Gross.

Although I do tend to shower every day, I'm aware a large number of the people I encounter at work do not. Some would find my use of water very wasteful and unnecessary. I very seldom notice anyone giving off a smell, though.

How on earth did you come to that conclusion?

OP said: I rarely wash my hands.

I don’t think I do smell.

Clearly you do or your dh wouldn't tell you you get in the shower

I shower every day usually, it’s part of my routine and gets me going in the morning. I might have a second one if I feel sticky or sweaty or have been on the tube. In the summer when we go to a holiday cottage in the middle of nowhere far up a mountain where we don’t see anyone I might be slobby and skip the occasional day.

I would be mortified if my husband or anyone else felt the need to tell me to wash.

I think its grim insane that somebody wouldn't want to wash themselves after being on bed all night, so you are fresh for work (and your colleagues) and even stranger that you wouldn't want to be clean before getting in your bed?

I see people in our supermarket that look like they need a decent wash, let alone the smell coming from them.

Dont even get me started on people that need mouthwash so badly, you can smell their breath when they are talking to somebody else.

I honestly can't fathom someone showering 4 times a week out of an 168 hour time period.

It takes me 5 minutes twice a day, an hour and 10 minutes a week, is hardly a sacrifice, to know I smell of soap around other people!

To those that shower 4 times a week, I presume you bath in between showering or at the least strip wash before you put clean clothes on?

Do you wash your faces?

I know a woman who stinks of bed - she doesn't brush her hair and has crusty sleep round her eyes every single day. She thinks she is very clean. She is not.

I shower every day and wash my hair every other day - it used to be every day(it's very fine and looks greasy quickly) but now I find if I dry shampoo before bed I can go two days.
On the very rare occasion I don't shower every day, I have a thorough wash, but to be honest that takes just as long as a quick shower, so what's the point in not having a shower?
I wash my hands a lot throughout the day.
I'd hate to get to the stage where others had to remind me.

Whilst I think having a full shower and hair wash 4 times a week is ok, not washing your hands or generally just washing to the point of being told off is disgusting. I would be so embarrassed if DH had to tell me to shower like a dirty teenagers. It's so selfish too. All those shitty hand germs around the house and your partner having to look at a slob. That would kill my sex life.

Stinks of bed? What does that even mean?

I shower every morning after the gym and before work, and shower again when I get in from work (especially in this heatwave). The idea of sitting around with dirty skin that’s picked up all kinds of pollution/germs from my commute and day makes me feel ill. Clean clothes/pyjamas for the evening. Makes me feel so much better. I don’t really care what others do but I like to shower every day - I feel self conscious otherwise and like I can’t be properly comfortable.

oh this is just grim.

I wash hands and face every morning (and hands after using the loo or whatever). Also wash face when I come in from work and before bed.

I have a shit shower that either scalds you or freezes you and thick hair that takes an age to wash so showers take a while.

Showering 4 times a week is fine. Providing you have a flannel wash at the sink or similar (with a clean flannel each time) on the days you don't shower. But it doesn't sound like you do this?

I noticed you answered "no" when candy asked if you wash your hands after using the toilet and before/after preparing food. This is inexcusable imo and just dirty.

Also, your husband shouldn't be put in the position of prompting you to wash. Is there a physical or psychological reason why you can't attend to your own personal hygiene needs? It may sound dramatic but I couldn't be with someone who had poor personal hygiene. Having to prompt them to wash would make me feel like their parent which, for me, would kill my attraction for them.

Topsyshair you know the unwashed smell of many teenage boys bedrooms? Really foisty and generally a bit rank without necessarily stinking of BO. That.

Tbh I’d be as worried about the mental health of someone who showers twice a day every day as someone who only showered twice a week. Seems irrational and compulsive to me. There are few things where I’d trot out the line ‘only on MN’ but there does seem to be an exceptionally high standard of cleanliness among posters that I don’t think many people I know irl adhere to.

I wonder how the 4 x a weekers apply deodrant over unwashed pits that have yesterdays deodrant on them? It defeats the object.

So this is a genuine question. I had a shower and washed my hair this morning. It's incredibly humid and I've been blackberry picking with the kids and Im pretty sweaty. Obviously im going to have a shower. Wwyd about hair tho? I have bobbed hair that has to be blow dried and straightened else it's a frizzy mess. But it's also been coloured so it's dry. On the one hand I'd like to wash it again because my scalp feels grim. But am I going to do any damage to my hair by washing it twice in one day?

There are few things where I’d trot out the line ‘only on MN’ but there does seem to be an exceptionally high standard of cleanliness among posters that I don’t think many people I know irl adhere to

I think the people you know in real life must wash to a high standard, else you would smell them!

There was a study recently and it turns out it's actually clothes not people that stink. They made some people wear dirty clothes but washed every day and some people wear clean clothes every day and not wash and it was the dirty clothes people that stank.

Tbh I’d be as worried about the mental health of someone who showers twice a day every day as someone who only showered twice a week

I dont think its about mental health at all. Its laziness.

Who wouldn't want to wash before & after work?

Have you heard of Batiste dry shampoo? Spray in, brush out. More effective if you spray it on before going to bed.

I can’t understand anyone not wanting to feel clean. If it gets to the point that someone has to remind you to wash surely you want to up your game a bit.

Totally anecdotal, but I noticed a huge difference in winter sniffles in our house when we implemented a hand wash regime. This included hand sanitizing whilst out etc.

Dunno OP, I can get skipping the odd shower but you sound as if you actively relish being unclean. Your call, but you posted and feedback seems to fall on the opposite side to where you stand.

Personally, I can’t bear to not shower daily. My hands also feel dirty after stuff like a trip to supermarket...

I may get flamed for this comment, but your DH may not always find having to remind you to wash something he wants to do.

@storminaTcut - You don’t have to shower every day to be clean and not smell. I can promise you this! I’ve lived with people who don’t and they didn’t smell, I don’t smell. Some people don’t sweat very much in a normal day. Showering twice a day is weird! I mean you’ll have to take my word on this and I suspect you won’t but I know I can get away with an alternate day shower and no one smell me.

I hate dry shampoo!