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To ask if your kids have their own rooms?

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Theunmumsymummy · 16/08/2018 22:59

I mentioned to a friend the other day that me and my sister (3 years older) had shared a room growing up and that my brother (7 years younger) had slept in an alcove area of my parent's room as there were only two bedrooms. After my sister left home he shared with me. My friend was shocked about him being in my parent's room (which I understand is unusual) but said she thought it was unusual that me and my sister shared a room when we were teengers and that she didn't think that really happened anymore. She's bu, isn't she?

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AjasLipstick · 16/08/2018 23:01

I shared with two sisters and my brother had the box room. We had three beds crammed in a double room.

My own DD's shared till they were 7 and 11. Then we moved. No harm done at all!

BeauDo · 16/08/2018 23:01

My 3 dc each have a room to themselves. My two DD's did share up until eldest dd was 10 and we moved to a bigger house.

Thistles24 · 16/08/2018 23:03

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Jelly67 · 16/08/2018 23:04

We've only one kid so far but in a 2 bed apartment so the 2nd will definitely be sharing with the first! Don't see why each kid would need their own room.

dementedpixie · 16/08/2018 23:05

My 2 have separate rooms.

My parents had 5 kids in a 3 bed house so there were 3 kids in 1 room and 2 in the other. I had to share bunk beds with my sister and also had my wee brother in a cot in the same room. It was the smallest room too. I always thought it very unfair that my 2 big brothers got the bigger room to themselves

Muddlingalongalone · 16/08/2018 23:07

I have 3 bedrooms and they currently have their own rooms. As of next weekend they will be sharing a room - out of choice. Obsessed with bunk beds - have bought ones that separate just in case 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

Thistles24 · 16/08/2018 23:07

It does seem more unusual for children to share bedrooms these days, when I was younger almost every family has one set of siblings that shared( my brothers shared until they were about 9&14, I had the smaller single room). My DC have always had their own room, apart from when we go on holiday where they generally have to share. I notice after a few days they’re both really craving their own space, because they’ve always been used to it. My friend has 3 sharing one room and it all goes well as they’ve never known anything different.

ParkheadParadise · 16/08/2018 23:09

Yes she does. I shared with 2 sisters growing up. I shared a room with Dd1 for 3years before we got our own house and moved out.

firstworldproblems2018 · 16/08/2018 23:09

My children are 9 and 5 and share a bedroom- we only have two bedrooms.

catcity · 16/08/2018 23:13

I have never thought of it as being odd. I have 4 dc's, 2 dd's share, 16&11 and 2 ds's share, 13&11. I would love for them to have their own rooms but tbh I think we're kind of past the point. For example when one is on a sleepover at another house the dc that is on their own ends up sleeping in with the others.

PickAChew · 16/08/2018 23:16

Mine shared until recently. Moved from a 2 to 3 bed house at the end of last year, but didn't get the upstairs habitable until Easter. DS1 is 14.

AtSea1979 · 16/08/2018 23:20

I have 2 Dc and live in a 3 bed house which presumably is most common. I think once you have 3 dc onwards then they are more likely to share.
Lots of people live in 2 bed houses but I think that’s a case of affordability and if you are planning a second DC then you think about whether you can afford a 3 bed property.

Gran22 · 16/08/2018 23:21

I only had two children, they had their own rooms frI'm bring quite young. My grandchildren all have their own too. We live in the north where housing is more affordable. More overcrowding in London and the SE I imagine.

MonaLisaSimpson · 16/08/2018 23:21

Well if the number of children > the number of bedrooms then they share.

Does your friend think that everyone has infinite money to extend/upsize so there's always a room each??

elliejjtiny · 16/08/2018 23:23

I shared a bedroom from age 7 to when I went to university. My dc all share, dc1 from aged 2 and the others from when they moved out of our room aged 6-9 months.

m0therofdragons · 16/08/2018 23:23

I had my own room and my 3 dc have their own rooms now but only since last summer. I have friends whose dc share. Dc are happy and healthy so it's all good either way!

MrsBlaidd · 16/08/2018 23:24

We shared.when I was younger but it was a 3 bed house and 4 children so physically had to share. I can't say I was traumatised about it though.

My two currently have the own rooms. One's a lark. The other an owl. One sleeps through armageddon and snores like a tractor the other is a ridiculously light sleeper.

So while we're in a financial position to allow separate rooms that's what my girls will have because they are so massively different in how they sleep but they'd share if needed.

TheHalfBloodPrincess · 16/08/2018 23:30

Ds(13) and dd(15) have their own rooms. Ds2(1) is in with us (cosleeping) but our room is huge - 8.5m by 8m. We have plans to partition into 2 rooms but in no rush.

I shared with one of my sisters in the biggest room (1 year between us) and my 2 younger (by 5 years and 12 years) sisters had a room each when we were growing up

namechange2pointoh · 16/08/2018 23:35

My friend was shocked about him being in my parent's room (which I understand is unusual) but said she thought it was unusual that me and my sister shared a room when we were teengers and that she didn't think that really happened anymore. She's bu, isn't she?

She is not BU. She is being a PA snotty cow.

Sharing is fine. Lots of people do it. I share a room with my DH Grin

FASH84 · 16/08/2018 23:48

DB and I had our own rooms but he had bunk beds and I used to sleep in there a lot, bit allowed during the week because we'd chatter and not go to sleep. We purposefully bought a three bed house with potential for loft extension on the basis we want no more than two DCs so they'll have a room each, and if we extend up I'll get my office and guest room back, not that I'm at all sad about just turning my lovely home office into a nursery...

bellsbuss · 16/08/2018 23:50

I was one of 5 in a 3 bed house, shared with my 2 sisters and my 2 brothers shared. My 4 children don't share a room and never have, I tell them how lucky they are but they just think it's normal. I definitely think it's less common now

Deadringer · 17/08/2018 00:18

I have 5 DC and 4 bedrooms and they have all shared at one time or another, we have an attic extension now and the eldest has moved out so the remaining 4 each have a room of their own. I think sharing is good for them tbh, at least until they are in their teens and need more privacy. (I shared a room with 5 sisters at one point)

GoldenMcOldie · 17/08/2018 00:27

My three each have their own rooms - This is because we are lucky enough to have a house with enough bedrooms. If that weren't the case they would have to share. No problem with that.

Stillme1 · 17/08/2018 01:20

I am a mother of 2 DC of the same sex. I had a 3 bedroom house so they never shared a room. They never learned about sharing in any which was and are not close at all.
As a child myself I did not share a bedroom and I am not close to siblings.
I knew a family when I was a child with 8 children, 5 boys and 3 girls. At least 6 of these children shared a one bedroom flat with their parents before they moved to a 3 bedroom house. 5 boys in the biggest bedroom, 3 girls in the middle sized bedroom and the parents in the smallest bedroom. They have remained a close family.
I often wonder if sharing a bedroom binds siblings.

BigLass9 · 17/08/2018 01:23

My DC shared. 2 in one large room and 3 in biggest room. Not ideal always but needs must if money is tight.

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