Wearing white to SIL's wedding

[Badbird]

Hi everyone, I need an opinion here,
I've just bought an outfit that I really like for my SIL's wedding. Only thing is, it's a black top with a white knee length skirt. I thought it looked nice and I would get away with it esp if I had some nice chunky accessories to go with it but now i'm having second thoughts after reading some blogs that say you should never wear any white to a wedding. Then again other sources say you can. What are your opinions on this? The wedding doesn't have a particular dress code and is in mid september. I have enclosed images of the skirt and top. Thanks.

Black is perfectly fine in Germany as long as it doesn't look like funeral attire... (But anyhow, wearing black / all-over black to a funeral can be rude as well, so there's that...)

But white seems to be like a pretty universal nono. (At least in cultures where white is worn on weddings...)

Social rules like that are super fascinating imo :)

I like that lace dress.

If you have red hair and fair skin there are many colours which look great. Most shades of blue, green and turquoise will look fantastic. Certain shades of soft golden yellow, orange or deep red will also flatter you. Start putting some colour into your wardrobe!

For goodness sake all you people who say you should never wear white to a wedding! The op’s outfit would never be mistaken for a bridal outfit. If she feels comfortable in it would anybody even slightly raise an eyebrow? I certainly wouldn’t and I ‘m in the age range where you might expect very conservative views!

I would refrain from black or white at a wedding and agree that the outfit just isn’t weddingy. Try ted baker or coast. Loads of choice, wedding appropriate and all their clothes are very flattering.

Lovely outfit but not dressy enough and colours are wrong (no white or black). Keep going, and enjoy it!

Love that teal dress..and a bargain!

@Badbird what's your budget? The skirt is quite Self Portrait in style so I'd have a look at Self Portrait dresses. Very glam for weddings :)

That green chi chi dress is lovely.
Second asos, I think they stock some chi chi dresses too.
Filter it right down and order anything you like, I ordered 14 dresses to wear to my best friends hen do and wedding, sent 11of them back no problems at all, just drop them at the shop up the road.

@Badbird

www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/self-portrait-floral-embroidered-mesh-midi-dress_234-3003847-SP18060/?previewAttribute=Gold-grey

www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/self-portrait-plumetis-chiffon-midi-dress_234-3003847-SP18077/?previewAttribute=Fuchsia

www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/self-portrait-circle-floral-lace-midi-dress_234-3003847-SP18073M/?previewAttribute=Yellow

Just looked on chichi clothing and some gorgeous dresses at incredibly reasonable prices. From what you've you've explained of your size and colouring, i think something like this would look fab on you......

Byw my MIL and both her sisters wore white (head to toe) to my wedding and I WAS offended

I love fit and flair dresses OP. I’m also not keen on the black top, it’s a little too causal and not suited to the summery skirt. The white skirt is gorgeous, but I’m not sure I would wear it to a wedding.

I am also fair and red headed, I wore a navy spotted dress for a family wedding last year. Have a look at Roman, they have some lovely special occasion dresses and have a range of fit and flare. Hope you find something!😊

@ClaireAnne197
Oh gosh. How dare they?! I mean, seriously. I hope noone does this when DH and I have our wedding ceremony / celebration. (Date is already set )

Dorothy Perkins have some lovely dressy skirts in the same style as the one you have posted. Some white and some with patterns/prints. Might be worth a look :)

Some greens and blues would look amazing on you too. I am a redhead, and even some browns look good on me too.

Wearing white to someone else's wedding is obviously screaming for attention.Why can't women have any social etiquette anymore?!?!

maybe? lavishalice.com/collections/new-in/products/kimono-sleeve-peplum-midi-dress-in-sage-green or lavishalice.com/collections/sale/products/asymmetric-wrap-dress ?

How hard is it to not wear white to another woman’s wedding?? So many women seem to struggle with this.

You could always get the black version of the skirt and pair it with a colourful top/accessories?

I have just seen that this has made the daily mail... how nice of them

You shouldn't wear black or white to a wedding, and red is risky too. Exception is a black and white themed wedding. Cream with a floral pattern is probably ok, otherwise you should wear pastels in summer and jewel colours in winter. I'll admit I wore navy blue to a wedding recently but it was embroidered with flowers and it was bloomin' cold! Too cold for my original pink outfit anyway.

@pollymere

Really?

I've worn a black blazers to wedding... I didn't know it was that awful.

I hope people assumed it was a case of being a clueless foreigner and not me being rude...

I don't have a lot of pastel colours in my wardrobe, tbh...

*a black blazer

I wouldn't wear that no. It's not dressy enough, it's too summery for September & it's white & black. Too much to risk.

@meymary Black is associated with funerals and in some cultures wearing anything black would be considered a comment on the wedding, it can also be considered unlucky to the Bride (forecasting death). I reckon a black blazer worn with a bright colour might be OK but I wouldn't.