Wearing white to SIL's wedding

[Badbird]

Hi everyone, I need an opinion here,
I've just bought an outfit that I really like for my SIL's wedding. Only thing is, it's a black top with a white knee length skirt. I thought it looked nice and I would get away with it esp if I had some nice chunky accessories to go with it but now i'm having second thoughts after reading some blogs that say you should never wear any white to a wedding. Then again other sources say you can. What are your opinions on this? The wedding doesn't have a particular dress code and is in mid september. I have enclosed images of the skirt and top. Thanks.

Yes, it's not about "the sky falling in" is it? There are so many colours and patterns to choose from.

Mary, I will definitely get a jacket! too late to change the dress at this point (took me forever to find something I could bear my mum tum in) but I'll get some sort of a cardi and button up in needs be! Thanks for the frank opinion!

@Ennirem the dress is lovely, a short pale blue jacket would complete the outfit well.

About 15 years ago i saw a fair skinned red head in a bar - she was wearing emerald green and looked AMAZING! Go green op!

@Ennirem

I agree, the dress is very lovely. I'm sure you'll look great :)

I second the structure jacket suggestion. It's imo usually nicer than a cardigan (a short dark or medium blue jacket would be my personal preference)

Wearing the jacket open (showing a bit of the white top) would be perfectly fine imo :)

I don’t believe I know anybody who would be offended by someone wearing white or black to their wedding. Unless it was a wedding dress of course! I don’t really understand who these people are who have headspace for such nonsense.

There’s nothing bridal about the initial outfit so I would say go for it if you like it. That being said, I’m not keen on the top for a wedding - it seems a bit casual and too much of a contrast with the (lovely) delicate skirt. That skirt with a different, lighter, more formal, top would be gorgeous.

I also like the teal dress you ended up buying.

continues massive derail

Would this work do you think? www.amazon.co.uk/Roman-Originals-Womens-Floral-Sleeve/dp/B07DW3PV6T?tag=mumsnetforum-21

Or I could go for the more salmon-y pink for maximum de-bride-ment?

Thank you for your guidance, etiquette goddesses of Mumsnet!

Or alternatively...

www.amazon.co.uk/Roman-Originals-Chiffon-Cropped-Bolero/dp/B079P5RRM4?th=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21

Lots of lovely midi dresses from Dorothy perkins online. They sell other designers stuff too now. I wore a Billie and Blossom dress from there to a wedding recently....

@Ennirem

Probably depends on your body shape/how the dress fits you. But I personally strongly prefer the jacket.

But that's also influenced by a strong preference for structured clothing (clothing that has a fit) and potentially rather irrational dislike for clothes that look like cover-ups.

But I'm sure you'd also look good in the bolero.

Possible compromise???

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B075KFCP2N/ref=ox_sc_act_title_2?smid=A194MM17BA7P3E&psc=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21

Just to be clear, the reason i am obsessing over this outfit is not because I am still in love with ex but because I literally have not been out anywhere grander than the pub in about two years and am so very excited to play dress-up after so long!!!

And as far as body shape goes I am a fairly standard issue size 12/14 5'6" apple with a mum tum!

@Ennirem - I said this to the original OP, but if you go on the mumsnet "style and beauty" section, it's great. Some good suggestions here, but you'll get a lot more ideas over in S&B!

@Ennirem

I agree, B&S may be more helpful than AIBU.

(Btw, I personally still prefer the first jacket. The last one is pretty boring imo / reminds me of conservative church attire. But maybe that's just me..)

Is it beauty and style or style and beauty? Anyhow, that board ;)

I wore black to DDs wedding - she wanted a black and white theme so it was fine! Definite no to white as it is the bride's prerogative to wear it or champagne!

@Jeanclaudejackety You may have looked brilliant but the fact remains that wearing black to a wedding is really not the done thing.

I like the outfit but wouldn't wear it to a wedding. Just personal, but was brought up to think white was a complete no and rude to the bride. I'm old fashioned and tbh, don't like black much either for weddings but it's pretty common these days

I wouldn't wear it (and I'm not keen on the dress overall either)

SIMPLE. YES! VERY. U . JUST DON'T DO IT! There are plenty of other millions of other outfits available. Don't cause the possibility of an upset?

What century do you people live in?!! There’s nothing wrong with your outfit. I think it looks quite classy and can be dressed up with lovely accessories and shoes. Maybe even a hat or head piece of some sort? As long as you feel comfortable. I’ve been to weddings where people have done the floral dress thing and look like they’re going on a fancy picnic....

It’s rude to wear full white or ivory and be mistaken for the bride but definitely not a combination of black and white. There’s also nothing wrong with wearing black as long as you accessorise appropriately. It’s such an old fashioned point of view.

Not very ‘wedding’ type outfit in my opinion. More like a work outfit.

I wore a White trousers suit to my SIL wedding but I don’t like her, not her me, so didn’t care too much what she thought

Another no from me.
I always stick to the rule not to wear white or black to a wedding - I would hate to upset the bride or one of the bridal party.

^ Agree. Protocol is not white or black to a weddings. Its obvious why, but people can't seem to understand these simple courtesies.