Wearing white to SIL's wedding

[Badbird]

Hi everyone, I need an opinion here,
I've just bought an outfit that I really like for my SIL's wedding. Only thing is, it's a black top with a white knee length skirt. I thought it looked nice and I would get away with it esp if I had some nice chunky accessories to go with it but now i'm having second thoughts after reading some blogs that say you should never wear any white to a wedding. Then again other sources say you can. What are your opinions on this? The wedding doesn't have a particular dress code and is in mid september. I have enclosed images of the skirt and top. Thanks.

Sorry OP but it’s bad form to wear black or white to a wedding... keep that outfit for another nice occasion and get something else in

Sorry but is very causal

It’s white you must know you don’t we’re white to wedding
And also black

Your also family so will be expected to make a effort

Never forget a wedding we went to 3 years ago the grooms brother wore jeans I can’t even remember what the bride wore but know the grooms brother wore jeans

Please get the green dress

Although I can see that you’ve (correctly IMO) moved on from it for the wedding I think you should keep the outfit - it is very nice and would be perfect for a non wedding smart casual occasion (party, dinner at a nice restaurant etc).

You mention that you like grey - how about something like this? (Oos in a ten but in stock in an 8 or 12 - and I tend to need to size up at Joanie, mostly for boob room)
joanieclothing.com/product/gracie-georgette-occasion-dress-grey-violet/

Or this in green would look stunning on a redhead (and is in stock in a ten)-

joanieclothing.com/product/diana-boned-lace-dress-occasion-green/

I like the outfit but agree that it is not at all right for a wedding in mid-September. I think the skirt is fine though with a different top and maybe jacket combo.

Sorry! I didn't read the thread and see you've moved on from the black and white.

The first dress I linked to is also available in a darker grey - which is in stock in a ten - joanieclothing.com/product/gracie-georgette-occasion-dress-frost-grey/

BadBird - I love that chichi dress you linked to, I'm sure it will look great on you! I hope you can get hold of it in your size!
Have a lovely time at the wedding!

It looks lovely.

Are you close to the bride? I think you should call her and ask.

I think that the the top is probably dressy enough with the right accessories (definitely closed toe shoes...), hair etc.
A black top is ok imo. Just don't wear "all-over" black. :)

Agree on not wearing white even if the outfit definitely doesn't look bridal. It's the bride's privilege to wear white and I think it's a respect thing.

The green lace dress looks great imo.

Appropriate for church (if that's an issue), definitely not white, could be easily paired with a jacket... 👍

The turquoise lace dress is perfect.

have a look at this blog OP:

foreveramber.co.uk

She is around your size and has your colouring and also wears a lot of stuff in the style of your original outfit!

I am fair skinned and red headed so that limits what colours I can go for I think.

Wrong! I have the same colouring - wear jewel colours and they will look knockout. Go for turquoise, teal, purple, bright green, royal blue, coral and yes bright red! Avoid pastels as they will make you look washed out, black and white are also draining near our faces.

I think the skirt would be fine: I just think you would be boiling in a polo neck. Chances are it will be an Indian summer

www.coast-stores.com/p/louisa-sequin-overlay-dress/1886339

Coast grey dress (go up a size as they are smal)

It's a matter of personal opinion. The skirt looks lovely but the black top looks a bit 'funereal' - could you wear something either brighter or even pastel? But as long as it looks like you've made an effort and it's smart does it really matter what others think? Have confidence in your own choices. Enjoy the wedding.

Book a personal shopper at John Lewis. It free with no obligation to buy. I used one to get a wedding outfit a few years ago and have never received so many compliments on an outfit before! They also helped me with advice on underwear, shoes and hat, all of which I got elsewhere.

My trouble is I always get drawn to the same styles etc so I never actually see anything else. I would highly recommend.

Of course you can wear black and/or white to a wedding. I do and the sky didn't fall in. But I love that lacy dress you've found OP, and I suspect that it will look amazing with your red hair. Brilliant suggestions from people here what a helpful bunch.

If you do want to go back to black and white, how about something with a print -

https://shesimplyshops.com/products/floral-print-high-waist-vintage-dress-women-summer-female-retro-vintage-dresses?utmsource=Click&utmmmedium=Channel&utmcampaign=GoogleeGB&ref=SFDR151257627&variant=8681278931063&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIIfut5Hx3AIVYyrTCh0QyQO9EAkYASABEgKA8PDDBwE

Hi everyone I have just gone through the thread thank you all so much. Yes the green dress is sold out in a 10 now but thats fine because I bought it last night XD so that might be the reason.

I've been saving the links to all you've posted to use as ideas for outfits for other events.

I'm glad I didn't go for black and white in the end since it is family and I don't want my PIL to be although i'm sure lots of people can pull it off and its fine, I know i'd just worry

@Badbird - some good advice on here. I would go to the "style and beauty" section on mumsnet for more ideas. People are great on there, and you get all sorts of suggestions and guidance. They're great! Sometimes think out of your comfort zone in terms of colour and styles.

Have a wonderful time badbird.

Oh blimey Mumsnet you're making me anxious now... I'm planning on wearing his dress to a wedding in a week - the top half I'd white, too bride-y??

www.oasis-stores.com/gb/collections/fitzwilliam/fitzwilliam-organza-midi-dress/065584.html?cgid=fitzwilliam&dwvar_065584_color=61&position=30#plpPosition=30&page=2&productsMoved=0&hideFeatured=true&start=30&categoryID=fitzwilliam

It's my ex's wedding too so the last thing I want to do is give the impression I'm trying to out-bride the bride

I think it may be too bride-y, yes.
Also because the skirt is rather light...

And because it's your ex's wedding. Not the place to give anyone the option to potentially "misinterpret" anything like this...

Could you pair it with a (non-white) jacket?

Of course you can wear black and/or white to a wedding. I do and the sky didn't fall in

Bloody rude to your host, who would be too polite to say anything.